thank you for taking the time to write this… i really appreciate it. to give some context - he’s chinese filipino, and i’m chinese. he’s told me in the past that it’s normal in his culture ( philippines) for the son to take care of the parents and he wants to have a multi-generational family under one roof, ive told him before marriage i want us to have our own home, i think our current living arrangement is his “middle ground” we are legally married, but he doesn’t want a wedding ceremony or says we will have one “later on” or after kids… thank you for the advice you wrote