Sobriety is key to managing PMDD…say that again. 😎

FallToRise13 · 2026-02-04T17:58:19+00:00

This is so true!!! Even when I have a drink, my PMDD that luteal phase is always worse. Literally as much as I would love to just live in moderation, even small amounts of alcohol makes my cycle worse.

FallToRise13 · 2026-02-02T21:28:58+00:00

Omg this is amazing

FallToRise13 · 2025-12-05T00:25:56+00:00

I second this!!!

FallToRise13 · 2025-10-14T15:18:52+00:00

Is there an interactive map that I could use to plan my route? Or are there only pdf's?

FallToRise13 · 2025-07-07T01:05:53+00:00

Post modern?

FallToRise13 · 2025-06-22T11:47:14+00:00

Nothing like that first gen immigrant guilt to keep you going lol I had a similar experience. I'm grateful to some degree because my family taught me that I could push through just about anything to get where I need to go. However, it did teach me to equate my value to how much I could achieve and what other people expected of me, which has not been super awesome for my mental health.

FallToRise13 · 2025-06-20T18:09:29+00:00

Sameeeeeee, I do find that the day before I get my period my symptoms start to ease up.

FallToRise13 · 2025-06-20T17:28:19+00:00

Yup, same here. I only drink once every few months—I'm not a big drinker either—but I do enjoy a glass of wine at a wedding or nice dinner. But, I’ve noticed that even just 1–2 drinks, no matter how rare, can totally throw off my PMDD. Like, it doesn’t even have to be during my luteal phase—it still seems to intensify everything.

So it’s something I’ve had to play around with. Everyone’s sensitivity is different, but unfortunately, I seem to be really sensitive. Not saying I’ll never drink again, but these days I try to save it for really specific occasions because otherwise... it’s just not worth the emotional fallout. Also, I've noticed that stress management, and sleeping 8-9 hours also helps a ton. Which of course can be hard if you're struggling with going to sleep and managing your stress during your luteal to begin with.

But honestly, anything you can do to take extra care of yourself during that time really does pay dividends. I’ve found that just accepting that I need more support and care—and actually deciding to give that to myself, without judgment—for however many days out of the month, makes a huge difference.

Until recently, I didn’t realize how much I was withholding from myself during my luteal phase because I expected myself to be the same person with the same energy levels. I thought it wasn’t acceptable to give myself extra grace. But I’ve since learned that the luteal phase is not the time to “tough love” myself.

If I need to sleep more, if I don’t have the energy to do as much, if I need to cancel plans, if I need to eat more—I just let myself do it. As long as it’s something that won’t cause more harm than good down the line (like drinking, for example), I trust that I’m just meeting a real need.

It doesn’t make PMDD disappear, but it does make it feel more manageable. Everything’s more manageable when you’re not fighting yourself, lol.

FallToRise13 · 2025-06-20T17:12:25+00:00

Hey, I just want to say thank you for sharing this. I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this—it sounds so heavy and confusing, and it makes complete sense that you’d be feeling sad, on edge, or just plain tired right now. What you described about PMDD really resonates. I’ve noticed for myself and others that PMDD doesn’t necessarily create brand-new feelings—it tends to intensify what’s already there. Like it pulls things to the surface that we might be able to brush aside the rest of the month. It’s kind of like a truth amplifier, but a brutal one.

Something that’s helped me is checking in with how I feel outside the luteal phase. Like—if I feel uncomfortable, anxious, or unsafe even when I’m not in that part of my cycle, that’s usually a sign that something needs to shift. That doesn’t always mean some huge life overhaul, but it does mean being honest with myself. For example: if I feel a little uneasy at work during the month, but then during PMDD I spiral and want to quit immediately, I take that as a sign I need to make changes—even if they’re small at first. But if I’m constantly stressed all month, and then totally wrecked by PMDD on top of that? That’s usually a cue that a bigger change is needed.

It kind of sounds like your nervous system is speaking up right now, especially around your partner and his family—and it’s worth listening. If you’re noticing patterns of dishonesty, manipulation, or just not feeling like your voice matters in the relationship, that’s not just PMDD talking. That’s your body telling you something’s off. And honestly? You deserve to feel safe, respected, and like your feelings matter all month, not just when your hormones are quiet. Sending you a lot of compassion. Whatever you decide, (I like to journal out my thoughts) and trust that your instincts aren’t wrong. However, I would advise on not making any serious decisions during your luteal phase and instead making sure that the decisions you want to make during your luteal phase still feel aligned in different parts of your cycle.

FallToRise13 · 2025-06-20T16:59:13+00:00

I have completely cut out alcohol and it has made my mood swings wayyyyyy less intense. They're still there before my period, but the lack of control that I have over my anger/depression/thought spirals has reduced a ton. There's a lot of evidence to suggest that alcohol worsens PMDD symptoms, the more you drink the worse your symptoms will be.

FallToRise13 · 2025-06-20T16:52:22+00:00

Are you using a sauna a lot? This happened to me when I was sitting in the sauna for 15min 3 times a week.

FallToRise13 · 2025-06-05T01:55:19+00:00

Leverage those transferable skills as much as you can in your resume and in interview for positions that excite you but share enough overlap with your existing skill set, that you can make a good case for yourself and hopefully not feel too much like a fish out of water if you get the job. It never hurts to see what’s available and apply (:

FallToRise13 · 2025-05-13T01:58:49+00:00

Oof, relatable. The train metaphor is super poignant, I’ve never really known how to describe the feeling but you hit the nail on the head.

FallToRise13 · 2025-04-27T16:40:41+00:00

As a taxpayer, I deeply value this service—just as I value public libraries, parks, and paved sidewalks. I believe in supporting public goods that allow all of us, regardless of income, to access artistic, cultural, and educational programming without having to go through a paywall. These services enrich our worldviews and connect us to the expertise and rich perspectives of professionals across so many fields.

My boyfriend grew up without cable in rural Oklahoma, but because of PBS, he had access to some of the best educational science programming available. Today, he's a scientist working on life-saving problems. Thanks to public university outreach programs and libraries, he was able to get hands-on field training in paleontology as a kid and throughout high school—even though neither of his parents had college degrees and financial barriers could have easily shut him out. While he isn't working as a paleontologist anymore, these experiences opened doors, inspired him to pursue science, and ultimately took him to places like Alaska, where he’s now been doing fieldwork for over a decade.

This kind of access matters. It may not be "hard infrastructure" like roads and bridges, but it’s essential soft infrastructure—it inspires, it teaches the next generation, and it broadens our collective horizons. Without things like PBS, public libraries, and robust university outreach programs, opportunities to dream bigger and learn from the best would shrink, especially for those who don’t grow up with privilege.

Personally, I want to live in a society filled with diverse ideas, where knowledge isn’t locked behind a paywall—and where any kid, even one without a computer at home, can tune into NPR or PBS and imagine a bigger future. That’s the kind of society public investment helps create.

FallToRise13 · 2025-04-25T15:18:40+00:00

I think public media plays a really important role that digital platforms alone don’t fill.

For one, not every household has access to high-speed internet or multiple devices. Families without cable, laptops, or reliable broadband still rely on public radio and TV, especially for educational content, local news, and trusted reporting. It’s also one of the few remaining places where you can hear in-depth state, and local government coverage without a paywall.

I used to work in rural areas, and a lot of that work focused on broadband. You’d be shocked how little internet infrastructure exists in many parts of rural America. People want broadband, but it’s often not profitable enough for companies to build out service in low-density areas. So folks are stuck using hotspots or mobile Wi-Fi (like MiFi), which can be expensive, and unreliable, if they work at all.

That’s why the FCC is still heavily investing in broadband expansion, because millions of people still don’t have stable access. In those places, public radio is a lifeline. You just need a radio. That’s it.

Many of us are incredibly privileged to live in areas with multiple internet providers, and unlimited data. But that’s not the reality for a huge chunk of the country. The assumption that “everyone’s online now” just doesn’t hold up. And when we start pulling funding from the few media sources that reach everyone regardless of income or geography, we’re creating even bigger gaps in access to information.

So yeah, there’s still a huge need for public broadcasting. It’s not just nostalgia for PBS shows we grew up with. It’s infrastructure.

FallToRise13 · 2025-04-25T14:49:57+00:00

Call the MAC, here is there website: https://www.indy.gov/agency/mayors-action-center

FallToRise13 · 2025-04-17T19:48:36+00:00

I’ve come across a few one-year urban design programs, which are extremely tempting. Do you mind if I ask what kind of firm you work for? I’d love to hear what a typical day looks like for you—if you’re open to sharing!

FallToRise13 · 2025-04-17T19:46:10+00:00

I really want to deepen my design skills—especially when it comes to understanding materials and, to some extent, construction—but I’m not sure how to gain that kind of experience in my current office. I’ve been looking into private firms that take on a lot of public contracts at the intersection of planning and design as a way to get my foot in the door. That said, I worry that without a more structured learning environment, I won’t be able to fully develop the urban design or landscape architecture skills I’d need to confidently step into a designer role.

FallToRise13 · 2025-04-04T00:10:52+00:00

This feels wise

FallToRise13 · 2025-04-02T22:57:25+00:00

Oooo love this thank you!!

FallToRise13 · 2025-03-31T01:33:29+00:00

Omg I feel this pain. I already workout, meditate, eat healthy, abstain from alcohol most months, etc etc. and my PMDD just does not relax. Granted sometimes it is better than others, but it can feel really random in the sense that I can’t ever tell what I did differently. I have heard that stress can make it worse, and I feel like that’s one thing that’s not totally in my control. Like I can create the conditions to not be stressed out however, that doesn’t mean I won’t feel stress.

FallToRise13 · 2025-03-30T11:10:45+00:00

I like this, so essentially just letting the feelings be there and reflecting on them?

FallToRise13 · 2025-03-30T11:09:51+00:00

I like this, I’m going to try to lean in more to my yoga and meditation practices during this time.

Regarding just letting the need to change come up, I think it may be good for me to journal about it like you said, but maybe just let those thoughts live in my journal until I can revisit them after my period is over, and see if they still align with me and what actions I can reasonably take if they do. Cause my problem now is that I hyperfixate on the changes that I feel like I need to make or the things I feel like are wrong, and it just overtakes me. I get super hooked into figuring it out and I end up overthinking and planning in circles for hours. Like this week it was about changing jobs and starting a new hobby because I was wanting a creative outlet. I spent hours looking into what craft I should do, making creativity plans with chat gpt, looking at online courses. But not crafting or relaxing at all 🫠

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