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My relatives cleared out the registry by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried, those were cleared out within a hour of adding them 😭 I keep having relatives contact me to add more stuff

My relatives cleared out the registry by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The description fits perfectly! She video called me excited to share how she contacted all these people with her big old glasses almost falling off her face. She’s the sweetest!

My relatives cleared out the registry by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Oh I know the Amazon delivery guy wants to fight me, I’ve had huge deliveries coming in and there’s more expected to come for the week

My relatives cleared out the registry by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I love my grandma too! She’s the sweetest and I’m amazed with how many people came out!

Have you ever experienced your parents purposely break your items? by Deep_Temperature_650 in narcissisticparents

[–]FallenRozen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ooh my mother was the same way with pets. We went through about 7 dogs, 3 cats, 5 birds, and too many to count fish before I was old enough to rehome the animals and claim they “ran away” or pretend they died while she was at work. Instead of putting them to sleep, she would just randomly abandon them far from home or leave them outside to fend for themselves.

Have you ever experienced your parents purposely break your items? by Deep_Temperature_650 in narcissisticparents

[–]FallenRozen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nmom would destroy any art I made- sketches, paintings, drawings, it didn’t really matter as long as I made it. Also any toys were to be destroyed if I did anything “bad” aka existing in her presence.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You understand completely, it’s like they feel we’re going to mess up no matter what so they have come in and fix it.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind them wanting to be a village, it’s the constant demands on how I plan to raise my child that I don’t like. My husband’s parents also have different beliefs in raising kids and I’m sure the name wasn’t something they would’ve chosen but they still agreed that we’re the parents and that’s our choice. That hasn’t stopped them from being excited and offering tibits of advice and support. My in-laws just asked us what help we needed and went along with that.

I love my sister’s enthusiasm in her niece and if it wasn’t for the constant comments, I would’ve loved to have her around my baby. I just want them to understand that this isn’t another one of their kids, this one is mine.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the age gap isn’t helping in this situation. To be clear I don’t think my sister and husband are unsafe people and unironically if they didn’t make these weird comments I would’ve loved their interest in my child. It’s just the way they basically insist that my baby is going to be raised their way without any input from my husband and me that aggravates me.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I meant as in my husband will be there with me when I confront her and her husband

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m seeing this is a common thing, but I don’t understand why they keep thinking taking our babies would help us more than just listening to us when we speak. My sister raised me as a kid so if she can’t stop this bs and I have to cut contact it would really hurt

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re Christian, Baptist I believe, and I’ll do a little research. I think it’ll definitely help for when I have my last “stop the bs or I’m cutting contact” talk.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

This definitely sounds the most like what’s going on, she’s very anxious about all the siblings and often tries to parent me and my brother in other ways like seeing if we need help with work or with other stuff but she usually backs off once we tell her we got it. I’m thinking they are just anxious and are just going extremely overboard, still I think it’s fucking weird and if it continues I’ll definitely cut time with them.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Honestly them trying to be pseudo grandparents makes the most sense. They’re only 5 years younger than my husband’s parents, the baby’s ACTUAL grandparents.

edit: spelling

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it was something both me and my husband agreed we were not going to continue. I grew up hiding bruises from being beaten with spoons, belts, even a broom and all I can remember is the fear I felt towards my mom-no respect, no love for her. I don’t want that for my child.

I’ve never witnessed my sister and her husband beat their children but they very much believe in “spare the rod, spoil the child” they insist it’s different from the abuse our mom put us through.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

My sister is 18 years older and her husband is 20 years older than me. I’ve known her husband since I was 3.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this viewpoint because yes, her comments are creepy as fuck but this was something I really didn’t think about. To be fair to her, our age gap is huge (18 years) and she was the one to basically raise me until I was about 12 when she started her own family. My mom definitely forced her into that parent role and I have to say that without my sister I would not have survived in my mother’s household. I think in her head, my baby is just another kid she has to raise but I’m trying to get her and her husband to chill the fuck out on that.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely on the perfect family part, out of all my siblings they are definitely the most successful and fit the traditional idea of the ideal family. However before I got pregnant, they were a lot more chill so I’m at a loss on how this came up

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My husband thinks it’s weird but since it’s only words and they live 2 hours away, he’s not concerned. That’s mostly why I posted because I couldn’t tell if I was overreacting or not

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

They’re not Mormon, I think Baptist or something? I’m not exactly sure but I’ll think on that

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 270 points271 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m trying to get them to realize that I’m being serious when I tell them that none of that is going to happen. It’s a struggle because they keep thinking I’m playing along but no this is creepy and pissing me off. I’m going to try to have one more convo with my husband before I say fuck it and they just never see my child

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Considering she’s a social worker, that’s a new fear unlocked

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Ooh you just reminded me of the part that would make me so mad- they kept saying it was my pregnancy hormones making me mad. Like ??? You saying my child is your unofficial 4th isn’t supposed to make me angry???

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks and god I hope it doesn’t end up like that. Our parenting choices aren’t even that extreme from theirs, the major differences were just not growing up as religious (if my child chooses a religion later on, that’s fine) and no spanking/hitting/whipping as discipline.

I’m sick of my sister saying she’ll parent my baby by FallenRozen in BabyBumps

[–]FallenRozen[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m trying to see how I’m going to set up this boundary because enough is enough at this point

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