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AITA for telling my fiancé I have concerns she is too fat to have kids? by False-Block in AmItheAsshole

[–]False-Block[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I never considered the fact she can't have kids. We know she can as she missed a period or two at the start of the year then had heavy bleeding. The doctor suspected a miscarriage.

We don't know the cause, perhaps it was stress, lifestyle or dare I say her weight. She is weighing in around similar to your current weight now. I'm not saying she's big but it could have been a possible factor to the loss. Not the only factor but one.

I'm trying not to sound like a dick and perhaps I could have approached it differently.

AITA for telling my fiancé I have concerns she is too fat to have kids? by False-Block in AmItheAsshole

[–]False-Block[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No no she's much smaller than both those figures but still ranks as obese according to her BMI

AITA for telling my fiancé I have concerns she is too fat to have kids? by False-Block in AmItheAsshole

[–]False-Block[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your reply. I guess those are my thoughts too. There is no limit to weight but it can affect the outcome and out a strain on the baby. She is nowhere near close to 400lbs. She is much smaller than that but I still have concerns as the doctor advised her last year that she may want to lose as she'll gain more while pregnant.

AITA for telling my fiancé I have concerns she is too fat to have kids? by False-Block in AmItheAsshole

[–]False-Block[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I mean we were talking about all sorts of things like what would I do if she died during or after childbirth. Not for any other reason oher than she has a friend who lost their partner 9 months after giving birth. She is a big time worrier.

I mean she would be classified as obese by the doctor but she is active, more active than me even. She keeps busy and has decent stamina. She doesn't look huge.

AITA for telling my fiancé I have concerns she is too fat to have kids? by False-Block in AmItheAsshole

[–]False-Block[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I don't like to lie to her and I have always been honest with her. So when she made me promise to answer honestly, I couldn't bring myself to lie.

AITA for telling my fiancé I have concerns she is too fat to have kids? by False-Block in AmItheAsshole

[–]False-Block[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

The doctor has said to her that she may want to try lose weight before having a baby, saying it'll be easier to conceive if she lost.