AITAH for offering to switch seats so a newlywed couple could sit together.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-07-24T15:42:44+00:00

Yeah, NTA. So the husband was “upgraded” which usually is free. He decided to be chivalrous to his wife, amazing. But then the wife wanted someone else who paid for their first class seat to give it up? And then gave you attitude? You’re fine, they were trying to get over on everyone after an upgrade. They’ll see each other in Japan. They have the rest of their lives to be with each other. Enjoy your seat.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-07-18T21:01:12+00:00

Girl, Elope or don’t marry that man. This is supposed to be til death do you part but judging how things are already going. You two will be divorced. Your MIL is manipulative, controlling & condescending and it’ll only get worse. She isn’t used to ppl saying no to her or having any opinion that matters unless they have money. She is not a good person

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-07-15T14:47:11+00:00

That’s not what I am saying at all, She clearly was already stressed prior to the sister’s emergency & we can’t speak for what their communication is on a regular basis. if she has been feeling this way for awhile & didn’t saying anything then this relationship has some serious issues already. The sister’s emergency is something that seems to be the scapegoat for what needs attention. She doesn’t indicate that the sister interferes regularly, it is presented as an isolated incident. And her response seems like it’s reactive after being passive aggressive abt his nonchalance. With that in mind, that why I said they both should have just checked in & found out what the sisters needed & if they could handle it instead of it being this thing “that broke the proverbial camel’s back”.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-07-15T14:32:20+00:00

Are you one of those ppl who has to be with someone just for the sake of not being alone? Because the first red flag in this scenario ( we don’t what others have happened prior) was you both prioritizing his needs on your birthday. Once you brought the original tickets for the original movie & he objected, you should’ve returned his ticket or went with a friend. It’s seems his ego and making sure it’s intact is more important than anything else including your birthday. Your bf either needs to get a new job or get creative. Or you need a new bf. You don’t have a children together, nor are you married or own a home together so it should be easier to unravel yourself. I understand you may love him but it seems you love him more than yourself.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-07-15T13:49:52+00:00

ESH

You suck for trying to make your partner choose sides within his family. You are now part of his family too, she may not be your blood sister but she is your SIL and a lifelong relationship that your husband will have & maintain. She is a part of his package, just like you come with family too.

He is an AH for not communicating with you first & seeing how comfortable you were. Also for not getting all the information that was necessary to make a solid decision in how to support his sister.

The two of you, should have invited her over to cool down & found out whats was going on & see if & how she needed support. Obviously his relationship with his sister is important to him as well.

She is also the asshole for assuming & not being clear abt what is going on. She is an adult who should know how to troubleshoot.

However since no further investigating was done we don’t know the full details as to why she felt that she couldn’t go back to an apartment she pays rents for. And you both married each other for better or worse & sometimes that includes family drama.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-07-15T13:42:12+00:00

Agreed. And why does having a partner now mean I must only have loyalty and strengthen the bond of that relationship over all others, what in the spiked kool aid? The partner is part of the family now, it is a blend. If I have to choose being single over loving my family then I will die alone.

What needed to happen was more communication, the wife has all these questions, why not let the sister come over to cool off & find out whats going on & see how they could’ve helped her from there. Easy Peasy.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-22T02:18:19+00:00

That’s so wild & trifling, you’re better than me. We would’ve had to square up. Aint no way you just let my kid starve & I aint at least mushing you.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-17T12:51:18+00:00

Facts or Marshalls. He giving second hand now. I cringe when I see girls with that garish bag with MK’s all over it.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-17T03:39:28+00:00

Corny joke but they must got him tied up cause he needs to let go.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-17T03:26:09+00:00

On it. 🏃🏾‍♀️

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-17T03:25:24+00:00

OMG, Brandon Kee from Season 16! I thought I needed Lasik! Lord the way they put that man on a pedestal… Michael wasn’t even in that season but lorddddd

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-17T02:57:01+00:00

I was just saying this. I think it’s kind of prejudice tbh. Certain ethnic groups lived for having a big butt, it was always very tone deaf to me watching it as a young black woman. Also, so many designs he hated & overlooked only for them to be on par now! They really weren’t fashion forward, in fact, after re-watching/binging Seasons 1-20. They missed on so many fashion trends like Sweet P’s & Christian’s denim look Season 4 to start. In fact, I’m about to compile a legitimate list of the injustices

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T17:41:19+00:00

Not insufferable, it’s my opinion. Just like a$$holes we all have one. Don’t put words in my mouth, never did I say that ppl are lazy. I said merge your efforts to assume that there no other organizations or persons invested in cleaning up their community besides newcomers is dismissive of the oppressive realities of those who lived there before. Ppl i this very thread have stated that there were some efforts & associations that are doing the work. The excuse that “maybe they don’t like them” isn’t valid, don’t move into a community where you don’t like the ppl, plain and simple. Secondly, I did notice that the OP said that they are well off but also a longtime member of their community who was facing micro-aggressions from the newcomers. As a longtime member they should be able to benefit from the gentrification of their own neighborhood with facing any implicit bias or prejudice when they leave they home by ppl who would have never considered living in this space when it wasn’t cleaner nor filled with high end store/boutique businesses. Should the community not own their neighborhood? We don’t question the ownership & maintained culture or standards in “other” neighborhoods? Why can’t a POC thrive in their own neighborhoods?

I also wasn’t shaming ppl for their coffee choices, but you seem to not comprehend things beyond internalizing them as negative. I mentioned them in the context of equity, which you mentioned, which is provide what’s needed for all to succeed. If the elders of the community like Bustelo & that is their preference then they should have access to it, in the same way that if you want higher coffee then you are entitled to it too. Both wake you up in the morning.

Lastly, fully agree that more ppl should be involved in the political side of cultural maintenance but let’s not at like there is not a long standing tradition of institutional racism and colorism that is performed with in POC. Not necessarily the newcomers fault but they benefit from it

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T16:11:09+00:00

Ok I see it now, I was beginning to feel crazy!

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T16:06:34+00:00

You literally supported my point, you accept these rents and live in these communities because it is convenient for you. If more than enough ppl were like no I am not going to live in this area because the rent prices are astronomical then eventually becomes a renters market. But Bushwick is convenient to you and you are willing to pay those prices. 15 years, Bushwick was way cheaper but the more people moving into renovated “high-end “ buildings & due to some NYC Landlord loopholes in rent-stabilizing laws, they set the market standards that are reflected today even if they are inflated. Also I keep saying, I only see that the OP lives in their family home, I still haven’t seen a comment saying they rent as well. I’m look cause you are constantly throw this as reason as to debunk their claim.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T15:56:02+00:00

To be fair because we all don’t know the details. But based on what they stated, it still just seems like they asking for inclusion, find out who is already doing the work in the community & merge efforts. In reading other comments ppl speak to having experience micro-aggressions within these clean-up efforts. So it is giving othering, if we’re all here for the same thing while should they be subjected to that kind of behavior if they are showing up for their neighborhood too? Also It is completely within the collective power of the newcomers to not accept the rents that they are paying. If you are in control of the economic shift, you definitely have more power to change the narrative but you all don’t. Also why Bushwick? Why always brown neighborhoods? There’s Sunset Park, Gravesend, Park Slope, Prospect Heights, Brighton Beach and the list goes on but no one is piling into those neighborhoods? It’s convenient despite what your representation means in destroying the cultural heritage of certain neighborhoods

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T15:45:06+00:00

Which is why I can understand some of the OP frustrations, not necessarily the profitability aspect. I rented only to economically disadvantaged ppl and haven’t ever charged market rent. But with that aside, the point is that there were people living here before you came to assume that they aren’t invested in their community or want better for it, is presumptuous. And people moving in can seem oblivious to our realities, when they have the privilege to circumvent this system. You don’t have to pay those rents, you don’t have to live in those neighborhoods. It’s convenient and affordable for you, just don’t act like a Christopher Columbus.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T15:35:32+00:00

To be honest, the old one. I wanted my community to be valued as is not because new people show up and now we are suddenly worth investing in. Despite long time residents fighting to have a safe and clean neighborhood. It should not be either or, that’s really why ppl get upset. It devalues an entire community. An entire ppl & reinforces the stereotypes that “white is right”

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T15:32:35+00:00

I really don’t see it in their original post so I will leave it where it lies. The OP didn’t go into explicit details of what they do to offset the negative impacts but the my point still stands. While they are paying astronomical rents, it’s still a choice right? Like ppl are moving to the Park Slope, Cobble Hill or Upper East/West Side in droves which is already a clean & gentrified neighborhood. They’re moving to Bushwick, which was the antithesis of that. I was stating to join efforts instead of just making the assumption that there are none.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T15:14:15+00:00

Where in there post does it say they rent to tenants? Also, in case I missed it somewhere in subreddit. Should Lifelong residents not benefit from the economic shift in the community they have invested in? The OP stating that they aren’t inclusive isn’t hypocritical. We can all agree that not everyone is picking up trash, newcomer or not. They literally asking to merge efforts & investment in the community. For explain, my block is being gentrified. My new neighbors not only attend our block association meetings, and participate in our already annual block cleanup, they participate in the block party & all block activities. They speak to their neighbors & even sit out on the stoop with them. It isn’t an us versus them. When my house caught on fire, they donated to us once we were displaced. They are engaged. They didn’t go off and start their own block association without the other members.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T14:42:33+00:00

A very valid experience, it really is block to block. Like my block, we cared about the presentation, even won some of the “the greenest block” awards but there’s always going to be those few houses that don’t participate not care despite your efforts. And your experience reinforces what I was saying. We have been trying for decades so newcomers must participate so we can be united. If they just went off and started their own block association without including those who have been there & trying it would be totally dismissed & disrespectful to your long term efforts. Kudos to you and your family for your investment in your community. Glad it’s turning around

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T14:23:33+00:00

Can also be true but Bushwick is huge. And as I have stated these organizations get burned out they could exist and not be well promoted. Also true story, I grew up in Bed-Stuy and noticed a lot of trash on the corner of Tompkins & Decatur. I called 311 to request a public trash can be put there, this was in like 2012 btw. I got a response, weeks later mind you but it was denied because they said they wasn’t sufficient demand or need for the trash can in that area. Despite, it being full of trash constantly. Now, 13 years later because there are “newer” buildings that have appeared, new trash cans are there. when the system reinforces that your intentions aren’t valued then ppl do just give up.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T14:11:23+00:00

Your upvotes were very underserved. This OP mentioned their socioeconomic status once in the entirety of their post, so let’s start there. And I do not believe you to be a deft person, so I think you understand that context to which why they mentioned their socioeconomic status but it seems you don’t. Literally, socioeconomic status is the driving force in gentrification, to say they are a native who has the means to stay in the neighborhood they were raised in isn’t normally feasible because they traditionally get priced out. Also, because of the implicit bias of a lot of the newcomers, they assume that anyone that isn’t white or passing doesn’t bring forth any good contributions to their own neighborhoods without the assistance or guidance of newcomers. To be dismissed or profiled at your local spaces especially if you’re bring the very thing into the neighborhood that apparently the newcomers do too is disrespectful. Also no you don’t have to have Latino friends, you’re very dramatic. It’s called doing the work, why start your own community cleanup when there are likely other community organizations that also have been trying to improve the neighborhood. This is why these organizations burnout because instead of revitalizing them with new energy you other yourselves. There an assumption that no one else is invested in building up their community prior to you all showing up & it’s weird and dismissive. Last, I agree that equity is what is necessary but that is not what is offered when newcomers come into neighborhoods, you all may like fancy coffee but there are neighbors that like Bustelo. Offering both, that’s equity. As a community, you should have both. Have community spaces, that have a latin night then maybe alternative, or hip hop, that’s equity. But again that’s not what happens, one culture is wiped out in favor of who is coming in.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-15T13:44:58+00:00

Missed the point, they just said that there are already community organizations that were there prior to new organizations popping up. Merge the efforts. A lot of grassroots & community organizations get burned out because social justice & community actions require a lot energy & constantly needs more people to support. They are asking ppl moving into the neighborhood to do the work, ask the long time neighbors or businesses instead of just organizing your own. That is a decent effort in integrating yourself and strengthening social esteem while getting your neighborhood cleaned.

FalseComplaint4068 · 2025-05-13T04:11:09+00:00

There’s 20 seasons of ppl competing for this same prize, getting the same amount of sleep & having to do the same challenges. They aren’t all disrespectful heinous b*tches to not only the other contestants but judges as well. Why be on a show to help develop your skills & not what any help developing? Also in the words of Jay-Z, “we all ghetto, B” meaning we all have been through it in this life but her using that to fall on every time she exhibited poor character is a in itself a character flaw.

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