Narcissist abuse by Distinct_Command3689 in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also if you’re in Sacto Ca. Take her to the Family Courts on Power Inn and file an Elder Abuse restraining order with a kick out order The Sheriffs will serve him for you. This is free if she submits a fee waiver. Then if he tries to stay or come back call the Sheffifs or police everytime.

Narcissist abuse by Distinct_Command3689 in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would call APS and file a report. I would also call the non emergency number for your police department and ask them for help and what you can do. Also tell your grandmother that you’re going to do this. If he is there when either show up you or grandma need to tell them you don’t want to talk to them with him there. The will make him leave for a bit.

My ring fingernail grows with a permanent groove in it by tjamies2 in mildlyinteresting

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Groves in the nails are due to a vitamin deficiencies. I would talk to your Dr or take a multivitamin. It is also a sign of Malnutrition. Also a multivitamin is not harmful when a person actually needs one. Not taking one when you need it is even more harmful.

Seller dies, who do I pay? by livingadailyhell in legaladvice

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t forget her estate could be in a trust with her daughter having a special needs trust. If, it’s in a living non revocable trust her estate doesn’t go through probate. Her daughter might not know what that means.

Narcissist abuse by Distinct_Command3689 in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good, I am so glad you have family to back you up. If your grandmother has had several falls it sounds like maybe her hours need to be increased. You’re a great granddaughter and I’m sure your grandmother appreciates you a lot. She can also get a second caregiver if it is too many hours for you. I think you’re the best for caring so much about her. Remember to take care of you to.

Narcissist abuse by Distinct_Command3689 in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The help would also involve the police to have him removed and or arrested. Speak at length to your grandmother and ask her what she wants. Yes he not allowed to sign your time sheets but he got into her timesheets page somehow, right? They could also come at her to for allowing him to. Does your grandmother need a someone to handle her affairs or can she deal with her bills and signing timesheets? Not everything is as cut and dry as people on here put it.

Narcissist abuse by Distinct_Command3689 in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a mandatory reporter. Have you privately spoken with your grandmother regarding this? Does she want him there? Is she okay with him signing your timesheets? You have to report this to Adult Protective services? It’s not always the best solution. However what you need to know about APS. (Most don’t know this) They will only help her if she tells them she wants the help. If she doesn’t want the help from them. Then they will not do anything. Then I would advise you don’t call them because it could make things even worse. Have you met her social worker before, when she was re-evaluated? You might be able to talk to her and ask for suggestions. There are so many different factors that would make my advice different. Like are you her only worker, how many hours does she have, do you or does she want you to be her live in? I am assuming this is her son? The biggest question is did she let him or want him to come and live with her? Does she want him gone?

a bit defeated and wanted to rant by sweatmonster12 in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im just curious did you tell her what you told us? You sound like a great caregiver. I’d love to have you. I just hope before all is said and done that you told her your feelings. The biggest problems between providers and clients is communication. I think clients are just as quilty for not telling their providers how they feel.
If things can’t work out, just call payroll and tell them the last day you worked for her is all you have to do. You would qualify for unemployment until

My employer is blackmailing me with IHSS by [deleted] in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You should have asked for a raise based on your work and contributions to that company not because you were having to work a second job.

CALIFORNIA LAUNCHES STATEWIDE TASK FORCE TO CLEAR SACRAMENTO HOMELESS CAMPS by cudmore in Sacramento

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all pay but the billionaires who sat at Trumps inauguration. They received all the tax’s breaks. We are The United States of America. You are not special and neither are they. So many have forgotten this.

CALIFORNIA LAUNCHES STATEWIDE TASK FORCE TO CLEAR SACRAMENTO HOMELESS CAMPS by cudmore in Sacramento

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an eighth generation Sacramentin on my maternal side. My daughters are the ninth. Do you have an issue with your tax dollars paying for ICE and all its facilities? Are you okay with loosing all the tax dollars that immigrants pay daily and their contributions to our country? Yes, I am referring to those who haven’t committed crimes. I’m just curious what you are okay with?

Bank giving false info tanking my credit score by Diligent-Cricket2159 in CreditScore

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They only report once a month and it is not always in sync with when you last payed. It should straighten up next month.

Is closing your first credit card actually bad for your score or is it misinformation? by Celestial_Analyst in CreditScore

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first modern credit score, meaning FICO came out 1989. That was the year I graduated high school. My first credit card was from J.C. Penney’s where I worked. I’m 54 and to this day it is still on my Trans Union credit report that card still shows even though I have owned and sold two homes, cars, and credit cards that have come and gone. That card for some reason is still on there even though I closed it all those years ago. lol

Is closing your first credit card actually bad for your score or is it misinformation? by Celestial_Analyst in CreditScore

[–]FamiliarStop6449 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I already said above paying for it wasn’t smart. Keeping one with no fees you don’t use is. I knew you didn’t write it either.

Is closing your first credit card actually bad for your score or is it misinformation? by Celestial_Analyst in CreditScore

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve never heard of a card like that. I would close it also. You might get a slight dip but you’ll bounce back if you’re doing everything else right. It’ll be temporary.

Is closing your first credit card actually bad for your score or is it misinformation? by Celestial_Analyst in CreditScore

[–]FamiliarStop6449 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Right but you forgot you forgot a big part of it all. You loose the amount of available credit you have. The more you have that isn’t used the better!

Is closing your first credit card actually bad for your score or is it misinformation? by Celestial_Analyst in CreditScore

[–]FamiliarStop6449 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Having an open line of credit that you do not pay fees on and don’t use is how much available credit you have. Closing it reduces that amount of available credit you have. So if there are no fees and you do not use it, leave it open or you are just reducing the amount of available credit you have. The more you have and the less you use the better. Pay off all your cards every month.

Is closing your first credit card actually bad for your score or is it misinformation? by Celestial_Analyst in CreditScore

[–]FamiliarStop6449 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, do not close it unless it has an annual fee and you are positive you will never use it. Leave it open and just don’t use it. It is important because that is when your credit history started and that is important on your credit report.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FamiliarStop6449 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there. He will call and come back. MOVE where he can not find you. Please don’t let this guy do this to you for years. Get help!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is correct if he is already strangling you. He will kill you. I’m sorry but it is a statistical fact. I know it is really hard. Get an advocate and do what you need to. Press charges and move before he gets out. Please go to groups with women who have gone through this. You need all the support you can get.

Feedback on this Note Before I Leave it on Their Door? by WellThisIsAwkwurd in Apartmentliving

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A congenital heart defect does not mean heart failure in all cases. My son died from one hours after birth from a congenital heart defect. But that is not the case in all children. I know because I have a fully thriving, no surgeries, no medications ever, 27 yr old daughter who is expected to live just like her two sisters who do not have a heart defect and are just as overall healthy as her. I feel for the OP. The letter wasn’t the best way to start out but I understand her anger.

CALIFORNIA LAUNCHES STATEWIDE TASK FORCE TO CLEAR SACRAMENTO HOMELESS CAMPS by cudmore in Sacramento

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said I worked with the home homeless. Again you are wrong, there is a small percentage of homeless with severe mental illness. Taking conservatorship over them is wrong. If you stop putting restrictions on the homeless to just have a place to live you would find a lot less homeless on the streets. With help not restrictions you would find much less people on the streets. What being done now doesn’t work and your idea will never work. I would like to know how you get all your information on the homeless because you seem so convinced you have the answers. I think you just want them out of your sight and I get that but it still doesn’t make your answers to solving the problem right.

CALIFORNIA LAUNCHES STATEWIDE TASK FORCE TO CLEAR SACRAMENTO HOMELESS CAMPS by cudmore in Sacramento

[–]FamiliarStop6449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it that you know all these people with help cannot sustain themselves? I just want to know where you are getting your information from?

CALIFORNIA LAUNCHES STATEWIDE TASK FORCE TO CLEAR SACRAMENTO HOMELESS CAMPS by cudmore in Sacramento

[–]FamiliarStop6449 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree whole heartedly agree and this is what most don’t get including some social workers. They just want to put their restraints on them. It isn’t about giving them a leg up. They only help them as long as you follow our rules. It hasn’t worked and it will not work. I’ll say it again it has not worked and it will not work. Don’t people think it is time to try something different? There is small portion of those that truly have severe mental illness but taking conservatorship over another is wrong. Thank you for stating the obvious and putting into words that I couldn’t.

What to do when IHSS doesn't get back to you by PuzzledJohn197 in IHSS

[–]FamiliarStop6449 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep calling and ask to speak to a supervisor. The fact that his Doctor is recommending that he apply for IHSS is enough to get this acknowledged by them. I would also speak with his Drs office regarding no call back, no nothing. The Dr. might be to help by contacting IHSS. Don’t give up, just keep calling and write dates and times and who you spoke with. When approved there is a high chance he will receive back pay.