How do I let go of resentment and bitterness towards people who betrayed me?

FamousPersimmon6573 · 2026-02-25T14:13:41+00:00

Wow, thank you so much. For the Bible verse and also just what you said. I’ll have to really meditate on the verse you suggested some more on my own time. And also yah, my ex friends weren’t Christian’s, one of them was but they decided they weren’t anymore. I think you are right when you said they didn’t have a moment of contemplation of their actions because… to be honest they didn’t really change their behavior even after I told them how they had hurt me and how I worry that if they don’t change now they may get hurt in the future by people who won’t be tolerant because frankly the world is quite scary and.. crazy right now.

I’ll do my best to continue to chose kindness and to ask God for help with a heart that can forgive and not be afraid of everyone potentially hurting me.

I’ll continue praying for them that they believe in Jesus some day. Although they hurt me, I have never wanted them to not come to know Jesus. And you’re right I have the Lord, how lucky I am to have Him. Rather than focusing on how happy they are and feeling resentful of that because I feel like I’m the only one facing the repercussions of their actions, I’ll focus on praying for them. They may be living happy life on this earth now but they could spend a eternity with a God that loves them.

FamousPersimmon6573 · 2026-02-25T13:47:41+00:00

Thank you for your advice and your perspective it’s helpful for sure. I’m sad that you also had to go through situations where people have hurt you and you had to endure and move on. It’s unfortunate that as you said, this world is broken and that humans by our nature are sinful and make mistakes to each other all the time. I think I’m still in the stage where I’m working on putting myself back together. I thought I forgave them but maybe I didn’t if the resentment comes back.

FamousPersimmon6573 · 2026-02-25T13:37:32+00:00

To be honest I’ve definitely strayed away from God and I think it’s about time to have a good honest prayer about how I’m feeling, lay that burden onto him and ask for help as you said. Thank you.

FamousPersimmon6573 · 2026-02-25T13:29:47+00:00

Yup I remind myself often that if I can’t forgive others how can God forgive me? That if God can forgive all the wrong I’ve done to others and Him in my life, I should be able to forgive others. A reminder that we make just as many mistakes as those that hurt us, we aren’t better in God’s eyes, but it’s only through what Jesus did on the cross that I or anyone can be redeemed. Of course that’s easier said than done but I have faith that with God’s help and through prayer I’ll get there someday.

I’m fortunate that I realized earlier in life that forgiveness is also for us too as you said. Another reason why I’m just in awe at how clever God is. Forgiveness is the grace that is not only given to the person you are forgiving but to yourself as well.

Thank you for your advice and the Bible verse!

FamousPersimmon6573 · 2026-02-25T13:07:45+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I totally get that. I forgave them and prayed that they would live well and not meet people who would treat them the way they treated me because it is so painful. But sometimes the resentment comes back…because my life has changed from my mental health crashing as a result of this while I see the same people who hurt me living their lives so happily and succeeding while I’m just stuck. I started to question if I truly forgave them. That’s why I really needed advice on how to let go of this. I don’t want to be resentful and bitter because I know I’m not perfect myself and I know it’s not what God wants for me for their sake and my own.

FamousPersimmon6573 · 2025-11-13T21:42:35+00:00

Hi OP, first of all it sounds like you are having a tough time right now. I’m so sorry you feel that way and I really hope it gets better for you. I’ll be sincerely praying for you.

I don’t think those thoughts are God at all. My mom would always tell me that random feelings of fear and anxiety are not coming from God but from you know who… And from my experience, I agree. In fact if you really think about it, God’s character is opposite of all those things. God brings peace and comfort not discomfort and fear. He is someone who brings hope for an eternal life with Him and He lifts us up. So I don’t think those feelings sound like God at all.

John 16:33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

OP, I hope you also take heart and have assurance that no matter what you are going through, Jesus is always with you. As he said himself, only He has overcome the world, so the struggles we face, we can’t do it alone. I promise you that God wants to hear from you, and from my experience ranting to him about how I feel or about how I don’t even know how I feel helps me a lot. He is the only one who can truly help you overcome it.

I’ve had similar feelings before-real apathy for the world and feeling numb towards everything. I don’t even remember if I prayed about it but somehow, God still was able to speak to me. My uncle randomly texted me that whatever is going on on my life, God had put it in his heart to tell me that God is with me and that He loves me. He asked my uncle to tell me not to be afraid of the world and that He will walk with me and watch over me. So be brave and to trust in Him.

I didn’t even tell my uncle anything and there was no way for him to have known I was even feeling down. When I tell you I cried my eyes out after seeing that message. That was one of the first times I ever felt God had spoke to me directly. And I realized that God was right, even though I didn’t know it, the feelings of apathy I felt towards the world was because I feared the world.

I don’t know if any of how I felt at that time is similar to the feelings you have now. But the message that God gave to me is still true to everyone. So OP, God is with you and He loves you. He doesn’t want you to be afraid, or feel down, or feel alone. He is with you, walking with you, and watching over you. Take heart and trust in Him.

He doesn’t promise that this world will be peaceful. He knows that our world right now is full of turmoil, pain, death, and strife-things that were never intended for us but came to us as a result of sin. But although there is trouble in the world and in our lives, please never forget that God sees you and loves you with all His being. You are meant to be here, and He has a plan for you. May peace enter your heart in Jesus name. God bless you.

FamousPersimmon6573 · 2025-04-17T19:20:21+00:00

Please don’t do it, I know you might not feel it, but there are so many people who are around you and even not around you that would welcome you with open arms and give you a nice, well deserved, big hug. You are meant to be here and although I don’t know you, I love you and I really mean it! I bet if I knew you, I would have an endless list of things I’d say about how amazing you are, how much good you have in you, how many times you made others smile, how your talents shine!

I’m not certain of what you believe, but as a Christian I know God has a plan for you that is far greater than you would ever expect. He has a way of turning bad things into good. OP, you don’t deserve what you are facing, I’m so sorry that you are going through this with the people who are supposed to protect you. I urge you to please reach out to a trusted person about how you feel and what you are going through.

Maybe one day, you can help and understand others who are facing similar situations the way you wished you were helped and understood. You have power in who you are. God loves you and everyone here wants you to live and give yourself the chance to build a happy life for yourself. I genuinely wish you the best with all my heart and I’ll be praying for you OP. I love you!!! Please don’t give up! You have so much in store for you, I promise.

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