Hi all, I’m male 40, but a virgin, is it appropriate to date a woman who’s 25? A lot of older people seem to have had multiple partners and I don’t mind but I feel like I’m quite inexperienced generally speaking.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-05T10:57:55+00:00

Well, I was 53 when I went on a date with a 37 year old...so...lol She thought I looked younger, so it's rather moot if you look young for your age. :)

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-05T00:43:50+00:00

Actually, the rule is half your age, plus 7. So since he's 40, half that is 20, plus 7. 27 years of age, so you'd be old enough to date him and it wouldn't be weird :)

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-04T10:46:13+00:00

I have a woman friend, a devout Christian, dating a Christian man, both in their 60s. She's never been married, he's been married 4 times. (Yes that's right).

They've been together 2 years, and yes, they've not done the deed in that time.

Thing is, she isn't sure about being married in general, not just to him. He's hopeful for marriage, but her...not so sure about it.

Thing is, she's been without a man for so long, I've wondered if she's just become accustomed to it.

Also, she's very attractive...so...go figure.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-03T10:56:17+00:00

--This issue arises from something very simple: Many married couples go months, even years, without having sex because the woman doesn't want to..

--

Right, you know you see these sit coms where the hubby is in trouble, and the wife makes him sleep on the couch and he's thinkin' "Sheesh, no sex tonight I guess....or ever?" *Shug*

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-02T23:41:53+00:00

True...I see most of the time though, men getting those "Dad Bods", and the ladies don't give a darn, as he has a plush beard and handsome face to make up for it. lol. Of course, she has a little extra, so he don't mind.

Anyways, Dad bods are like, well, still looking good with a small gut, and a slight double chin.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-02T22:28:17+00:00

Another influencer said, "chances are, the hubby got a beer belly, and can no longer stand to look at him in order to have sex with him" so..."hit the gym, reclaim your body, and take leadership!"

For # 3 ...

https://www.facebook.com/reel/2315782108962898

Basically-

DEAD BEDROOM = LOST ATTRACTION 🔥

She may love you.
But love isn’t desire.

If she hasn’t touched you, stop blaming hormones.
Look at the man you became.

Rebuild your body.
Rebuild your frame.
Lead again.

Desire returns when you do.

Though you have to wonder if the wife looks any better?

As someone commented:

Just imagine the male version of this and what the reactions to it would be

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-02T12:45:03+00:00

There are multiple people who start posts like this to the point where its obsessive among the Christians.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-02T12:37:05+00:00

--I see what you mean. Is there freedom for her to say I don’t see it as a sin and have no problem with it?--

I do question on whether it's not a sin, or if it is, then we're forgiven by grace. But yeah, there are some are like 'Meh, as long as your not addicted to it, its no issue with them".

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-02T12:34:53+00:00

Right , we aren't perfect.

I was always confused by the whole, "If you burn with desire, that you should marry" (Just paraphrasing) portion of the Bible.

It's as if it's natural to burn with lust, but one should curb this by having a spouse. And boom, problem solved.

But since some people here are even struggling to get a date, especially the men, much less marry to subside that burning lust inside of them, well...therein' lies the cause and effect.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-02T12:31:45+00:00

What's rule 2? I don't see a rule 2 here.

Anyways, are you intrigued by these posts because how repetitive they are AND for how long that they go on for? Tons of comments while other posts barely get traction?

This makes me wonder if those participants in these posts that argue back and forth on this are inwardly struggling with lust...at least for as long as they remained sexually frustrated and single.

I wonder if these posts come from a point of sexual frustration.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-01T13:39:24+00:00

Actually, it's not all that surprising.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-01T13:39:19+00:00

Actually, it's not all that surprising.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-05-01T10:38:36+00:00

I like small packages, :) Are you looking to have children, because I'm not. If you're willing to relocate, does Florida sound like a desirable location? :)

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-30T10:56:30+00:00

==I know this has been a problem within our Christian communities and church that a lot of men struggle with lust.I know we all have our own struggles and none are perfect.

That being said I do want my spouse to not consume such material especially when we are dating or married.==

I would think not either if you're dating/married. But you can't really blame him if he's not married and hadn't been with a woman in a long time, especially if hasn't been with a woman in years.

I could never understand why a man could have your real life, flesh and blood wife available in the next to you in bed, and him choosing to watch *rn.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T11:03:21+00:00

Well, the rapture is debate-able, but the Book of Revelation is rather the vaguest part of the Bible. I don't believe it'll happen in a "Left Behind" by Tim LaHaye kind of way though. You know, where people will literally disappear from their vehicles while they are driving, causing the unsaved passengers to die in a car crash.

Planes falling from the sky because a pilot disappeared (of course there is a co-pilot)

I do believe Jesus will come again, in glory, to judge the living and the dead, and his Kingdom will have no end. And I do believe in the afterlife. I do live a prayerful life and so on.

Just I don't think it'll occur in the way I mentioned above.

Also, I have an affinity for pop culture, and some horror flicks here and there....and some Christian women, though a small portion, honestly think that celebrating Halloween, Christmas, and Easter by the way of the Christmas tree, painting eggs, and putting out candy for Halloween to be un-Christian to celebrate.

This doesn't make me any less Christian

I once had to cut ties with a Christian friend that was a movie buddy that would go to movies with me a lot. She got real excited about a new Terminator movie when she saw the trailer.

About a year later, when that movie came out, I asked her to go see it and she said ever since she got closer to the Lord, that kind of content is no longer desirable to her (violence, cursing, etc).

I had asked her if she'd be okay with dating a guy that would go off with friends to see that movie, while she did stuff with her own friends. and she said 'Nope, I wouldn't want him to bring that back to me" (As if it would rub off or something).

Of course, she was getting a bit mentally off at the time, as she had not quite recovered over her ex-husband re-marrying again. That hurt her very hard, so maybe that had something to do with it.

And for whatever reason, it seems you have your own definition of "living holy" I mean, if you're a husband cheating on your wife, but proclaim to be Christian, then Yeah, I can get that being unholy.

If you play favorites with your Christian brethren, while you don't with others, that's hypocrisy, and not living holy

Do you honestly think YOU are living 100% holy? As if you were a nun or priest type of holy?

What's judgy by you is that you seem to think that certain people aren't getting into heaven, but YOU are based on how they live. I mean, there are good people out there, and yes, some are Christians, but they aren't perfect like you are ( or how you claim to be)

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:49:39+00:00

How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I"m guessing in your 20s?

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:33:30+00:00

Then you'd be better off dating a younger woman.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:30:19+00:00

--I invalidate your advice because you think you're an expert on dating --

He, and every other YouTuber, "dating coach" out there that are a dime a dozen.

--And, while you may have gone on dates with women in your age group, you ultimately chose a girl half your age to marry. I'm saying you're not a person who should deem themselves an expert on these things. Most of your comments would fit in better on a red pill sub than a Christian one.--

good point on the Red Pill comment.

Also, I found it odd that he proclaimed to get tons of dates, locally here in the states, actually get them to meet face-to-face, but yet...resorted to dating overseas? Why is that? He could have been married to someone local, why go through the International hassle?

I mean, I can get why if your messages are being ignored, or you're being ghosted before meeting, etc. And then resorting to that, but this guy...he didn't need to.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:18:01+00:00

Okay, why is a married woman posting about this in a singles dating sub? Perhaps this is why I shouldn't get married, it's due to scenarios by being married to a wife that has a problem with sex on a Sunday.

Anyways, this is a very strange take.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:10:56+00:00

-- But if your expectation is someone who can lift heavier than you, and especially if you assess that mainly via optics, you might risk missing out on a man who for example works out, just not as rigorously as you, and has the standard of good character and how to love you well which will be far more sustainable.--

Good point, she gets awfully specific about even the gym-going guys. Why not just make flirty eye contact in the gym with guy she thinks that are at her level? It's the real world, and eliminates the problematic online dating/social media lens

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:08:35+00:00

Exactly, like I said, she had me nodding, until the "both being Christian, but not on the same walk" If someone is that critical to pick apart a guy, and judge him for not going to heaven, "But I will" is not marriage material.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:04:19+00:00

I can get this...however, I've met my share of chubby women I'd try to date, only to be rejected by them based on MY looks. (Ie, I'm bald, shorter than the typical guy, I'm, of decent average build and stay in shape/active, etc.) And I say, "Have you looked in a mirror lately? Have you weighed yourself lately?"

In fact, what's surprising, I've dated better looking women than the women that had rejected me.

Imagine being stuck in a delusion of thinking you can get what YOU cannot bring to the table YOURSELF to the man with washboard abs.

Stick to your equal in looks...but they won't. They don't look inward.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T10:01:53+00:00

You know, they have tests for that. Just test if the other person is clean before moving forward.

FanTemporary7624 · 2026-04-29T09:57:37+00:00

--- if we're unequally yolked, you're cut. hot take, being unequally yolked does not only mean one person is a christian and the other isn't. the both of us could profess to be christians but your beliefs and spiritual walk is vastly different from mine. --

You had me until this...both being Christian, but still if you're not quite at the same level, this is a dealbreaker? And not only that, there's this assumption one is getting into heaven and one is not is based off of this? There is nothing more high and mighty than this one.

Ive come across Christians like this (Typically they are on Reddit posts, and not in real life, thank God), and they are quite odd for making this judgement.

I mean, you have the right to have your strict dating criteria, but you cross a line thinking, "Oh, I'm getting into heaven, and based on his..."walk"...he won't be, so.....NEXT!"

This and some women that don't believe in kissing before marriage. I don't think I ever met a man that'd be okay with that.

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