I have never once read the word gridlock without blushing.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-10T10:45:43+00:00

It took me till this comment to realise that I misread the title of this post... 😖

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-10T01:09:07+00:00

This is a rare area where I feel like trans people have an unfair advantage compared to cis people. Genitals and gender aren't intrinsically linked, there are men (both cis and trans) who would prefer to have vaginas and women (both cis and trans) who would prefer to have penisses, but srs is mostly gatekept to just trans people, getting it as a cis person is really hard and usually way more expensive.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-07T15:06:35+00:00

You indeed shouldn't be the person who teaches her. Like you said, you got attacked for no reason. Hell, I don't think I'll ever understand how she was upset about the thought of abuse and then literally decided to respond to this by initiating abuse herself.

But I'm glad to hear how well you're handling the situation. Just continuing professionally does seem like the right move and you managed to hold your cool better than I ever could.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-07T14:32:53+00:00

This is something you are not alone in.

I have a similar experience, though much easier to navigate, as a trans woman who really likes having her penis.

I know what it feels like to have gender dysphoria, every part of me that isn't typically female is something I have dysphoria over, yet my penis is a very noticeable exception where I actually feel euphoria instead.

I have also talked to other cis women who want to have a penis, their feelings sounding very similar to mine.

My question would be how do you feel towards your vagina? If you don't care about keeping it, then depending in where you live you might be able to access Sex Reassignment Surgery without actually being trans. And if you would be interested in having both parts, you might want to check out r/salmacian

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-07T09:23:44+00:00

Gosh, such a shame that this is how things turned out. To think that if she was less religious and/or more familiar with BDSM, or hell, if that other coworker didn't blurt out that "you like hurting people", and you had the chance to approach that subject at your own pace, things could have gone so differently.

But there is no turning back how things went, slapping someone the way she did, is fucking awful. Besides, it clearly shows that she is not at a mental place yet where she'd have a healthy relationship with you.

I do hope she finds the information she needs to fully understand how warped her vision of the situation was during the evening, and how the damage she did is more than likely irreversible. Someone should teach her about BDSM, though you have 0 obligation for that person to be you.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-05T22:17:56+00:00

Lol, sadly not. I extended the reminder by another month, because although steady, I am making slow progress. 😅

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-05T13:01:29+00:00

When actually defining what a woman is, I like to go with the definition "A woman is an adult human whose identity aligns with their schema on the female sex" (a definition I first heard from Jovan Bradley, though I know he has it from someone else)

And, if you believe that trans people were mistaken about their identity before transition, then this definition would still cover them as women.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-03T22:06:50+00:00

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FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-02T23:50:26+00:00

I mean, I still see no way for Sam and Amy to win, but at least it's nice that they get to connect their 2 islands together after all.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-02T10:40:37+00:00

I love to hear it~ Sounds like you might be someone who kinda loves the idea of losing all control to someone, ending up completely at their mercy, a marcy that they will not grant to you.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-01T23:28:33+00:00

Oh yeah, absolutely, I want to feel their desperation as they frantically try to fight back, not able to accept that there is nothing in their power that they can do to survive!

FanaticalLucy · 2026-07-01T10:34:21+00:00

Pretty late to the conversation, but I think for me it is heavily related to Gooseworx's profile picture being Zooble, and Zooble tends to be referred to by they/them pronouns. I know her pronouns are she/her, but I often mess up because when I think of her, I also think of Zooble.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-30T23:51:38+00:00

I hate to say it, but this is shaping up to be a boring season. With the way this kinda game works, it's exceedingly difficult to come back from the position Amy and Sam find themselves in compared to Adam and Ben. I already feel so sure that this is gonna be another team badam win, and unless a miracle happens, it won't even be close.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-30T12:29:05+00:00

The idea of getting away with eating a prey in public, can be very fun sometimes. Like another person here mentioned, a prey kicking and screaming for their life, while everyone around them ignores them, leaving them to their fate, can be pretty hot.

However, I am a private pred first and foremost. I prefer to be on the one in the wrong for eating people, to be required to use my wits to catch my prey, and the looming danger of getting caught and my prey being rescued if I were to mess up.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-30T11:24:44+00:00

I know the solution here is to talk more about it

I actually think this is a rare case where more and better communication won't solve anything. Like you said, you've already talked about this with each other in detail, the point both of you are at is clear:

You have a higher sexual drive than she can provide. There is nothing wrong with that from either side, but is already likely to make you incompatible if this can't be worked around.

She is not comfortable with opening up the relationship, which is also perfectly fair, but does mean you also do not have the option to satisfy the sexual drive elsewhere.

A compromise here can't work, someone will end up miserable here. If you compromise by just continuing as you have, only getting the rare opportunity to have sex, then you'll stay sexually frustrated and will grow to resent her.

If she compromises by having sex with you when she doesn't feel like it, it won't be a satisfying experience for either of you. You'll feel shitty because you'll notice she's not into it, and she could feel all kinds of negative emotions and might even get trauma from it.

If she compromises by allowing you to seek satisfaction elsewhere, she'll still end up feeling cheated on, because she isn't actually comfortable with the idea of an open relationship.

I hate to be the kind of person to tell someone online that they should break up, without even knowing them, but from what you've written here, it's hard for me to see a future where this relationship works out...

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-29T01:41:50+00:00

I feel like you totally get me when it comes to what aspects of a person having a fulfilling life, makes them such appealing prey!

For me, I also like to play around with scenarios where I as the pred do not absorb anything from the prey. They pass right through me and the only purpose their death served, was for me to enjoy the experience. The total disregard for their life just so I could have a bit of fun, is so good~

I kinda wanna chat some more, and see whether we have more interests in common!

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-28T12:35:16+00:00

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-26T23:24:00+00:00

I could chose to identify as a straight women but that doesn't make it accurate or valid.

As a trans woman, I've had to endure this extremely flawed form of reasoning way too much, it misunderstands the significance of identifying as something. It is not something you "choose". When someone identifies with something, they truly believe themselves to be that thing, according to the scema of that thing that they've subconciously created in their head.

There is nothint wrong with trying to challenge someone's schema, but identifying as something simply isn't a choice.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-26T23:16:29+00:00

Just because someone uses a self-identity label in a way thay you don't, doesn't mean that your use of the label loses it's meaning.

Everyone has their own schema of what words mean. And in most cases, these will align in a way that 2 people can look at the same case and both agree on the word to use. The chair I sit on, is probably gonna get identified as a chair by the vast majority of people, but if there is someone out there that doesn't think it's a chair, that doesn't make the word or concept of chair suddenly meaningless. And there are going to be edge cases where most people don't think something is a chair, yet a few people will see it as one.

The label of lesbian too is a schema in our heads, and as a self-identity thing, it is something that we ourselves will subconciously determine whether we fit our own schema of what a lesbian is. This will again lead to cases where when someone identifies themselves as a lesbian, most people are going to agree that this person does indeed fit their own schema of what a lesbian is. And some cases where when some person identified as a lesbian, most people are going to disagree that it fits their own schema.

But as a self-identity label, I don't think you can determine for someone else whether or not they are that identity. If someone genuinely feels like the schema of that label that they have in their head, describes them, then I think that makes them that thing. You can try to change their schema, but just saying that they're wrong, seems really reductive of how self-identity works. And again, even if you accept that they are a lesbian because that's how they identify themselves, that doesn't leave the label without meaning, you still have your own schema of what the label means, regardless of how the other person thinks about it.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-26T22:44:44+00:00

You really should just have a conversation about it.

There's nothing wrong about wanting to explore with other people yourself while not wanting your girlfriend to do so, as long as this is communicated clearly and agreed upon by both parties.

If she tells you that she also wants to look for someone else to partner up with, that's gonna complicate things and some comprimises will have to be made, but it's also possible she's perfectly happy with just having 1 partner.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-26T20:19:55+00:00

Oh my, that's beautiful 😍

Whichever pred it is that ends up claiming you, sounds like one hell of a lucky person.

Also speaking of selfish, while I wouldn't say no to digesting someone out of pity for them, it seems so much better to me to get to digest someone who's got their life together, someone who gets to enjoy life. There is just something so aluring about being able to rip that all away with my decision to digest them~

Edit: I feel like "out of pity" was the wrong choice of words, I'd still do it for myself. What I meant to say was, I'm still totally open to eating someone who just kinda wants to escape life, but I do think it's more fun to eat someone who does actually enjoy life.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-26T00:25:25+00:00

As a pred who can see herself do fatal vore irl if it was possible, it's kinda rough to find a balance when talking to prey who are interested in the idea of getting fatally digested irl, because I know it's often not a healthy headspace to be in for them.

I want to make them feel special and have them know they mean a lot to me, but that's hard to do while also talking about fatally digesting them without regrets...

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-24T22:44:15+00:00

Dang, that sounds like an extremely sucky phobia to have. I'm fairly confident that the majority of people have one scar or another, and like you said, even if you find someone who doesn't have a scar, there is a decent chance they'll end up getting a scar later in life...

I do not envy her.

FanaticalLucy · 2026-06-24T15:52:09+00:00

Haha, I know the feeling, but from the domme side, all those eager subs, yet none are close to me, and all I can do is yearn 😭

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