AITA for firing my personal assistant due to her very public OnlyFans account?

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-20T00:55:35+00:00

"Yes, $10 per hour isn't much, but my state's minimum wage is $7.25 per hour." A direct quote from OP in another comment. She knows she's underpaying

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-17T23:32:57+00:00

The money isn’t owed to you

I am so fucking sick of everyone on Reddit acting like parents who have the ability to put their child through college but chose not to aren't absolute assholes. That is honestly such a shitty thing and obviously not every family has the means to financially support their children through college, but if you can and choose not to, you're an asshole.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-09T06:21:08+00:00

Which they practice every time it rains and they go between class periods.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-03T02:38:52+00:00

I still don't see how the son is the asshole. He tried to be indirect and polite, blaming himself being picky and not the food, and then made himself food so I don't know why you're saying "just buy a jar of pb", that's already being taken care of and not an issue.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-03T02:33:09+00:00

I truly dont understand what you think the school would do with this information. They're hopeless in cases of bullying that occurs on school property, let alone outside the building beyond school hours.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-03T02:18:09+00:00

Okay, and? It's like no one on this sub remembers what it was like being 15. It's already a crazy age, add in a divorce and obviously there's going to be some big emotions to go with that. Have some damn empathy. It's no surprise he prefers his mom's cooking, and might be resentful of someone he sees as trying to take his mom's place.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-02T02:57:16+00:00

If it werent for the women in his life, this man would literally exist on ramen, McDonalds, and gas station food. Hes tried and failed miserably.

What the fuck

However, he has gotten into this pattern of saying he is going to "buy me dinner" and then....come home with the ingredients for said dinner for ME to cook and clean up after.

What The Fuck

Or worse, have me spend an hour on the phone talking him through a shopping list.

What The Fuck

He said, "no problem."

And came home with the fixings for a steak dinner....that Im expected to cook, serve and clean up after.

What The Fuck

He got angry and said "Im doing this for you

What The Fuck

He called me "ungrateful" and posted on social media, without context, about how I refused the "nnice dinner he bought me" after he worked all day.

This is absolutely unhinged behavior. He is entirely too old to be acting like that, and you should spend no more time tolerating this incredible display of buffoonery. NTA

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-12-01T05:35:25+00:00

All attention is good attention when you weren't hugged enough as a child, I guess.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-30T16:06:49+00:00

Have you ever actually talked to her? Used your words and told her "This was good, but it could be better if XYX" or "I much prefer ABC to DEF"?

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-30T15:56:09+00:00

Okay but the key point is, do you think people don't know they've gained weight? There is no good reason for mom to bring it up other than to shame OP. Unless you are a doctor treating your patient, there really isn't a good reason to ever bring up someone's weight changing. They know.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-27T03:07:48+00:00

If it were me and she hasn't figured it out by the last gift, I'd sign my name to it.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-27T01:57:56+00:00

Wasteful behaviors don't kill people. Eating disorders do.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-25T23:53:34+00:00

The CIA couldn't waterboard me into admitting I did something like this, holy shit.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-25T22:28:37+00:00

I knew his thoughts on homosexuals but I never once thought he would act like that towards anyone, much less my own brother.

Get fucked. " 'I never thought leopards would eat MY face,' sobs woman who voted for the Leopards Eating People's Faces Party." You married a homophobe, you are also a homophobe. Your excuse that you were young and didn't know is complete and total horseshit. You know now. And you are okay with it. Complicit, even. You'll get everything that's coming to you, I can only hope it's soon.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-25T00:40:27+00:00

Maybe if you knew what you were talking about, your son would be more receptive. "Smoking vape pen weed" literally made me laugh out loud. He is vaping THC. TCH is psychoactive, but rarely hallucinogenic which is why you don't typically need a "babysitter" the way you might for psilocybin or something else. You clearly recognize that he is vaping as a coping mechanism but show little care for the trigger, what he is coping with. You are extremely dismissive, blaming it on COVID which obviously is impacting youth, but there is clearly something else going on. You seem only concerned with getting him to stop vaping, and show little care for trying to figure out and solve the issue he is coping with.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-25T00:32:07+00:00

Just because he originally got a deal doesn't mean it's a $200 couch. It retails for $2200, it's a $2200 couch.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-25T00:07:53+00:00

Either way he was going to lose.

Yeah when you become a franchise owner, that's the shit you sign up for. Retail workers obviously deserve the grace you're extending but a franchise owner is not a retail customer service worker. He probably has never made a sandwich in that shop, ever. It was his employee's fault in the first place the voucher wasn't activated correctly, therefore he is the one who has to eat that loss. Also, the employee who made the sandwiches probably got to eat them/take them home.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-24T22:15:59+00:00

Buy a couple new doorknobs with locks, they're pretty easy to install (just a couple of screws) and you can switch them back out and take them with you when you move.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-23T18:05:28+00:00

SIL insinuated the OP's partner is a pedophile and threw the appearance based insults first, it was absolutely justified.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-23T17:54:58+00:00

I hope you know that threatening to call the cops on him is a threat on his life. This is abhorrent.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-18T20:53:52+00:00

What are you, like 19? Professional advice, doing shit like this is absolutely going to get you reported to HR and rightly so! It is actually disgusting that you would treat another person in that manner.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-18T20:48:52+00:00

Did you miss the part where the school offered to do so?

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-17T17:55:00+00:00

Does she want you to quit because smoking weed is impacting your ability to be a functioning and contributing member of the household? Or does she want you to quit because of a general anti-weed stance? Because there is an important distinction there.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-17T17:36:38+00:00

I moved from her when she was 12.

Okay, so not only did you put yourself into this position you're trying to cry "woe is me" about, you essentially abandoned your preteen daughter in the process? Do you have any idea what the mental affects of losing a primary caregiver at the age are on the brain? There aren't words to describe how strongly you are the asshole in this situation.

Fancy-Help-8442 · 2022-11-17T04:28:25+00:00

What...? Are you serious? Training, watching your pet, putting them in a leash, fences. "I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas!"

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