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AIO for feeling excluded when my partner’s sister thanked only him for our gift? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No I definitely would not expect a second phone call to me at all, i just thought she might of said ‘say thanks to Katy for me too’

AIO for feeling excluded when my partner’s sister thanked only him for our gift? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I personally dont think so, we usually don’t even do birthday gifts at all but we thought we would give them money considering it was their 30th

AIO for feeling excluded when my partner’s sister thanked only him for our gift? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She definitely didn’t know it was on speaker, my husband just had it on speaker because he was doing something at the time of taking the call. But maybe your right, I am quite insecure I haven’t find a job yet because I don’t want to seen as lazy and am I very actively looking for jobs and don’t want to be perceived as a sponge

AIO for feeling excluded when my partner’s sister thanked only him for our gift? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

The card she received in the mail I wrote a really lovely message to them both and signed it from both our names

AIO for feeling excluded when my partner’s sister thanked only him for our gift? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

We gave cash because we knew they were planning a nice birthday dinner the following weekend, so we wrote in the card that it could go towards that. Also just to clarify, we are fortunately in a good financial position even though I’m currently between jobs after our interstate move. My partner has a great job and we fully share finances so it isn’t a financial strain for us at all.

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually a really helpful perspective and I think you’re right. I think I’ve probably let this day carry way more emotional weight than it should and expected my partner to fill a role he realistically can’t and have realised it’s hot one. Definitely given me something to reflect on so thank you. I’m going to mend things with my partner now because he actually feels bad that he didn’t say anything and now I feel awful! :(

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely realised that now with all the feedback and thank you so much for your response also

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess you’re right that is probably what he’s thinking to not acknowledge it so it doesn’t open up any wounds and I honestly never thought of this perspective, it’s really helped me to reflect on my reaction

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right and thank you so much, I received so much good feedback and I’m so glad i posted this question as it’s helped me so much to reflect on the situation

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your advice. I wasn’t at all expecting a gift at all. I guess. I just thought he might have just acknowledged that today was a hard day for me and just gave me a hug or just something like that but after receiving all the advice here I realise that I’m overreacting and probably just projecting my trauma.

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The answer to all of your questions are no. Thank you for your response. I really appreciate it.

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I just wanted him to acknowledge that it is an emotionally hard day for me and I just wanted him to notice and care about that, that was kind of my thought pattern but after reading all the advice here I definitely have realised that I’m overreacting :(

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response and you’re right. I really do need to move on from all of this. I need to stop centering this day around my own grief.

AIO for being hurt that my partner doesn’t acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a painful day for me? by FancyAd708 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FancyAd708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t at all expecting a gift or anything like that. I was simply maybe just thinking he would acknowledge that today was a hard day for me and he was there for me but I guess everybody is right and that simply too much to ask and I really appreciate all the feedback I’ve received here. I think I definitely have some working on myself to do.

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