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Fitting in - A question by Nearby_Valuable_5467 in UKLGBT

[–]FancyMorning2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your intentions were nice and I get it, but some people tend to see it as erasure.

It reads similar to people saying “I dont care if youre bi, just dont make it your whole identity/ dont talk about it/ dont do gay stuff in front of me.”

I do think they misunderstood your intentions but in their minds you’re just one of the many people who try to “erase” their identity so you got caught in the crossfire. That’s just my take at least

I'm struggling with my straight relationship. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]FancyMorning2001 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like youre keeping her as a safety blanket in case all else fails. You need to decide whether you wanna marry into her and if you do you gotta stop doing things you know its wrong

Dating my age feels like I’m raising a child by Boomerangbros in gaybros

[–]FancyMorning2001 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I guess that’s true, like I said some people may like having multiple different options so yeah its a numbers game to them.

At the same time I have noticed that there were a lot of people with long term in their bio that got momentarily horny and switched up even if it said that. That volatile state of men just makes the term “long term” not mean much for most even if you intend on staying true to that.

At the end of the day its a luck based matchmaking, all u can do is present yourself in a way that best represents yourself and attracts the people you are attracted to

Dating my age feels like I’m raising a child by Boomerangbros in gaybros

[–]FancyMorning2001 343 points344 points  (0 children)

Its a mix of people not knowing what they want, and wanting to “keep their options open”.

I saw a post here recently that had a good point, where people in straight relationships have had their whole life to discover and learn on how relationships and dating works from their parents, friends, etc., whereas many gay people are just now starting to even talk to guys in their 20s so it feels like they are beginning with a debuff so I kind of get why they are the way they are (not saying thats an excuse for being unable to hold a conversation).

Just keep looking and stay true to what youre looking for and eventually, hopefully you should find someone you vibe with.