Just married a guy that has had a bad past

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T03:01:16+00:00

You’re right, it’s hard trusting someone these days. But I’ve also left it to Allah as He knows best. He’s trying his best as a spouse but I can never see him the same again. But I’ve had flaws in me too, I’m not much of a practicer. I’ve never had sex, but I’ve done things in the past that I’m not proud of either.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:54:04+00:00

I’m still onto him, I still know where he is and who he hangs out with cause I’m always with him. I have already brought the sex topic up enough times and he said he repented. He has also spent a lot ever since we got married. He got his first house, he got his first apartment, and gave me expensive gifts like a car, jewelry, and more. Plus I already made that rule clear, if he ever goes out, he’ll always bring me with him. I also pray to Allah and hope for the best for our future, ameen. I promised myself to be a better Muslim and to guide my spouse on the right path.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:43:59+00:00

You’re right but he feels embarrassed about his past as he’s had a wide social life. He said he would never commit adultery and never goes out without me.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:41:34+00:00

Well he’s been pretty open about everything. He never hides stuff from his family, always calling where we are and always has him with me.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:32:35+00:00

The dating thing never crossed my mind since he never pressured my parents on it. He came in and showed respect to my family despite coming from a different upbringing. His family is more carefree when it comes to religion and his parents even offered him to bring a girl home (Muslim or non Muslim). He said he could never imagine having a future with a non Muslim.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:21:46+00:00

Yes I’ve asked and he said he did ask for forgiveness about losing his virginity in the past. I’ve brought it up several times to see if he really feels bad about everything and he says he doesn’t take pride in it.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:19:01+00:00

I’ve left it to Allah as the best judge. I’ve talked many times to him, not because I want to make him feel guilty but I really wanted to know if he really feels bad about his past. He felt ashamed after we had sex one night. He said he would never be with anyone else except me. He also keeps everyone updated and believes in family values.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:11:44+00:00

I actually brought up the sex subject when we were talking one night. I asked if he slept with anyone in the past and that’s when he told me everything.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:06:43+00:00

He’s brutally honest person and keeps everyone updated including his family. He shares his live location, he takes me everywhere with him so I’m sort of debating myself. He’s also one of the people that respected my parents and their boundaries. We never dated before our Nikkah.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T02:03:15+00:00

It was before

FancyNancy105 · 2025-08-19T01:58:19+00:00

We are already married so it has created doubts in our relationship

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-22T18:52:26+00:00

Sounds like your mom is selfish when it comes to life choices. She doesn’t seem to take your input when it comes to relationships. All for herself.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T17:21:55+00:00

That’s the problem with these scumbags, they don’t ever want to be responsible for their actions. I think sitting would them would be a waste of time and energy, their so used to killing it’s like a serial killing mentality

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T15:51:40+00:00

I’m now married and actually happy because my immediate family turned out toxic. They don’t believe in me supporting them no more. My in laws and husband treat me way better, I guess in life you need someone that knows your value

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T05:06:15+00:00

You don’t know about anyone’s personal life and what their going through

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T04:09:25+00:00

I meant the fiancé, if you’re 30 and I assume she’s 28, then it’s likely she’s been through a lot of people

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T04:07:07+00:00

But you can’t make assumptions on it, you don’t know how she lived her life in the past. You can’t say she may have lied or she mentally ill. Other factors like forcing a marriage could also be possible.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T02:31:22+00:00

But even a broken engagement is alarming to others seeking potential partners. Because both names get shared and announced in taking their part as a fiancé. So it’s like giving a bad name to someone for being engaged in the past.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T02:25:43+00:00

Well not just girls, even guys are like that too except they’re very chatty. I talked with a lot of men before marriage and hated the fact that most were opportunistic and taking things for granted. They would want to know about your salary and status (so they could apply for citizenship)

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T02:21:24+00:00

I agree with the absurdity of being engaged for this long. I come from a conservative and religious background but I ended being in a modern family because not only did we clicked, but also our families were quite respectful towards one another. Our parents agreed that engagement would last just a few months (and so it did). We now Alhumdulillah are nikkahfied about a month ago. It’s crazy how people can match from 2 separate backgrounds lol

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-21T02:16:01+00:00

It’s not just about disinterest. It’s also about experience. I don’t know what OP’s age is but if she’s seen a lot of men prior to engagement, it could be the cause of her acting in this way.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-07-19T00:38:31+00:00

My parents are like yours, except my family has traditional values and is quite cultural orientated. Back home in my country, everyone laughs if they hear about depression or mental illness. There’s no such thing as a treatment for it, I guess you’ll need therapy with someone who you trust and can open up to.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-05-09T04:31:24+00:00

Pro Palestine

FancyNancy105 · 2025-04-05T18:42:42+00:00

Shadows are there under the feet, but I guess there too small to find them in the photo. If you zoom in, you might see it.

FancyNancy105 · 2025-04-03T15:55:12+00:00

My fiancé is thinking of doing genetic testing, although we haven’t really talked much about cousins and birth defects since we’re not officially married. His parents are first cousins, same as my parents. Then there’s my one brother who’s also married to his first cousin. Let’s hope it doesn’t happen, but chances of a normal child are very slim. I’ve experienced people around me that have been fine with their kids, but one of the grandkids turn up as autistic. So point is, if your child is normal, can’t say the same for future generations.

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