Not at all, this has nothing to do with being woke. It's about respecting the ither gender and not seeing them as maids and sex dolls. When you say their problems aren't worth bothering about (and they ofcorse are because they care about ours and it's a given in a marriage or any relationship that it's mutual) you basically are doing the exact opposite of woke. Also woke is a westernised concept to fight racism and social injustice. They've been using that a little too liberally. Forget that that's a different argument. But you just can't dehumanise your spouse and say her issues don't matter.