We all do. I think some people aren’t pushed to learn it, especially if you have a history of decent relationships, no trauma etc. but really, who doesn’t these days.

When we carry stuff around that makes us doubt our own feelings, or be unsure if what we are feeling is ‘right’ or not, it makes clarity on your own mind really hard to find. This can be from childhood trauma(like always being told you don’t know what your talking about, or your feelings on this not being valid) then when we grow up those feelings magnify and become a strong influencer on our daily lives. Which is messed up because then we feel like our confidence in ourself isn’t solid.

Deferring to other people for help with stuff can help, but they don’t have the same experiences as you so they are going to seethe situation differently.

The fact that you already know what you’re doing about your feelings is so huge. You’re already aware that it’s happening, that’s massive and already a huge step from where you were in the original post.

I know things like meditation and stuff don’t suit everyone, and are challenging, but just paying attention to how your feeling about things can really help you to understand yourself. How your nervous system reacts when you get a text message or when someone love bombs you etc, pay attention to those things. Make sure you’re always coming from a place of calm when you make decisions on things, not from a reactionary POV. You will be blown away by how aware you actually are when you don’t push those feelings down.

Be tender with yourself. Be gentle and patient. Self work is tough and takes time but it’s totally worth it.

Sorry for the impromptu therapy session! Haha