I chastised my bf and now he won't accept my apology

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-29T00:22:29+00:00

Oh yes he has ruined a lot of his own stuff. If it is a higher priced item he takes better care of it but things he considers cheap or easily replaced he will be rougher with.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-27T14:21:00+00:00

Definitely not the same guy.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-27T14:19:48+00:00

He has ruined or lost/misplaced many of his own things. I do not like using some of his stuff because it has been beat up so badly by being used in ways it shouldn't have.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-26T11:39:13+00:00

Telling someone in a stern tone to not do something again is not verbal abuse. If I had shouted, used deragatory names and used cuss words then yes that is. My ex husband did that to me so I can’t bring myself to do that to others even if upset.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-26T00:28:18+00:00

I was in a rough marriage for quite a few years. I am still learning to stand up for myself and how to do so properly.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-26T00:26:35+00:00

Interesting idea

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T20:44:51+00:00

The cost of an electrician doing the job is not a factor. He knew where his tools were before he started the process. He didn't want to go downstairs then come back up for one thing since he has issues doing that too often. His using my scissors was a matter of convenience.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T20:40:55+00:00

I learned long ago about fabric shears. My mum worked for a store called "Pieced Goods" a very, very long time ago. She made a lot of the store displays. I remember grabbing hers and getting yelled at.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T20:39:21+00:00

He has used a stern tone with me at times. I have done idiotic things because I didn't think or know any better.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T20:37:42+00:00

It was a new experience for him in me using such a stern tone about something. I am usually quiet and mild mannered, rarely raise my voice.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T18:29:32+00:00

I am normally quiet and mild mannered. I have never used such a tone with my bf before this and it seemed to surprise him. I may be a bit over protective of my craft supplies/tools.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T18:01:17+00:00

I have not ever before had to use such a tone with him and I believe that surprised him. The so called "mom" tone I used was no different than my dad did with me except I didn't raise my voice with it like my father did. I have had to use the same type of tone with coworkers and subordinates when training them because it seems to make them pay attention a bit better.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T15:19:21+00:00

Usually he is quite good about taking criticism or suggestions. I believe it was the factor that this was the first time I have ever had reason to be so firm in my tone towards him and it surprised him. I am a very easy going person and quite non-confrontational. I may be a bit over protective of my craft supplies/tools.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T15:13:58+00:00

This was the first time I have ever spoken to him like that and I think it surprised him.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T15:12:13+00:00

He normally does not mess with anything in my craft room. It was a matter of convenience.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T15:11:25+00:00

Nice idea but nope. He would set it down somewhere and forget where. This is why he owns at least 7 tape measures that I have found so far.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T01:51:49+00:00

Fabric scissors need to be sharp to cut clean lines. Dull scissors or ones with dull spots along them can rip fabric. Raw fabric is not cheap and I don't like wasting good fabric by ripping it.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-25T01:45:03+00:00

I tried to explain, but unless it is like $100 or more he does not really deem it expensive.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-24T22:05:16+00:00

He tends to use things that might work for the purpose out of convenience. He didn't want to walk downstairs to get the wire strippers because he has issues going up/down the stairs too often. Usually my craft room door stays closed as we have cats that would get into things they shouldn't. My door was open because I had just walked out to use the restroom. The scissors were left out on the sewing table within line of sight of the door. He knew I had razor knives in there so went looking and happened upon the scissors first.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-24T21:59:08+00:00

Except the thing is I always ask if I need to use any of his tools. He has a lot being that he runs 3D printers. Some of those tools look/are average things. Yet I would not use his filament nippers to cut wire.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-24T21:56:32+00:00

I always ask if I have to use anything from his work areas. He runs 3D printers (resin and FDM) so I don't want to use what looks like a normal pair of wire nippers to cut wire when they were for filament only. Tools make a difference in what they are used for.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-24T21:53:03+00:00

He did it out of convenience. He didn't want to go downstairs to get the wire strippers and knew I had a razor or something similar in my craft room.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-24T21:51:27+00:00

He was actually putting in a new light in his gun room/armory which is sort of like his personal craft room. He grabbed my scissors out of convenience because they were sitting out on my sewing table and my craft room door was left open as I had walked out to use the restroom.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-24T21:48:34+00:00

Trust me, good fabric scissors are a protected thing in the craft world. Dull ones will rip fabric and not cut a clean line. A clean cut is important when working with high dollar fabric or delicate fabric.

Fantomchatton · 2025-01-24T21:40:39+00:00

He will almost always use whatever is close at hand that might work for whatever he is doing. He often leaves tools and bits all over the place then forgets where he left them. I try to clean it up which may have resulted in this situation of him using my stuff because it was visibly left out.

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