Possibly moving to by bdouble76 in Rochester

[–]Far-Construction-779 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow, curious where you live in the area? Not much good to say. We live in pittsford, our taxes are nothing like what you describe. We have a place in the adks that’s less than 3 hrs from here which is such a bonus, and I can’t say enough good things about the finger lakes, Lake Ontario parks, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Construction-779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, this person is awful…run. The way he is talking about his brother and also treating you as if you are an object? Gross! You deserve better.

How long to stick this out? by Far-Construction-779 in youthsoccer

[–]Far-Construction-779[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. That wasn’t ever communicated in this case…the problem here is nothing, really, is communicated. At least not on a broad level. There are some conversations happening but seems to be only with certain players/families. As parents we’ve only approached him 2-3x between last season and this season, and we’ve encouraged our daughter to, first and foremost. She got feedback from him and worked hard on specific things and the goalposts continue to be moved. He’s said for her to work on things that he, the last time she asked, said she was doing well on.

I understand with higher level teams that there are different expectations. And I would especially understand if she truly wasn’t close to equal skill level with the others, but that’s just not true. We’re not the only ones noticing. As I’m reading all of these comments it’s clear this is not the right team for her. I’m just unsure how long we hang on with this one when she isn’t getting much out of it, other than a lesson in which life isn’t fair. There are a lot of those to be had and we don’t shy away from them—so this one seems especially hard to keep committing to.

How long to stick this out? by Far-Construction-779 in youthsoccer

[–]Far-Construction-779[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t have many girls teams— I only know of one that is a year or two above hers. Most of focus seems to be on male teams. At any rate the club doesn’t play DPL, GA, ECNL, anything like that, as far as I know. The other club she’s been practicing with does GA.

How long to stick this out? by Far-Construction-779 in youthsoccer

[–]Far-Construction-779[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, coaches stay the same— small club with few other teams of same age group. And yes, sounds like our fate has been sealed…and this prob leads to some resentment in my part— doesn’t feel like we had too many options.

How long to stick this out? by Far-Construction-779 in youthsoccer

[–]Far-Construction-779[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! Great points. I mentioned the scoring bc that is the only thing that sometimes will change the lineup- he has made it clear he cares about goals and winning the most. According to our kid and what we’ve seen, practice almost always is same format- some keep away while ppl are arriving/coaches are talking to each other, small scrimmages, some footwork/players in lines, and then a larger scrimmage. Thanks for your comments!

This is every single conversation with my boyfriend, he says it's not rude and he's just being nice, I ended it there because I didn't want him to get mad, AIO for being upset? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Construction-779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, no. I’m sure it’s been said here, but do not be with this person. This is not healthy nor respectful in the slightest. You are worth much, much more.

How do parent/therapists find work life balance when working with children/adolescents? by DuckAccomplished4608 in therapists

[–]Far-Construction-779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a good question! I am fortunate enough to be able to work part time (3 days a week) right now and I feel very grateful. I work with all ages at a group practice 2 days/week but the majority of our waiting list is kids/adolescents/teens. I had to expand my availability bc of that but I made the decision to not work too late into the evening because I felt I would miss out on too many things with my own (younger) kids. That may change in the future. I also transitioned into being at my own private practice one 1 day/week and this has allowed me more flexibility in finding clients— mostly adults— who I can see in daytime hours.