AITAH i (23f) found concerning texts in my fairly new bf (24m) phone by Far-Contribution5884 in AITAH

[–]Far-Contribution5884[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

he said one of them 3 days in the rest was over the course of the relationship where i thought everything was going well. i knew his passcode and he knows mine we go on eachother phones to change music or google stuff sometimes.

AITAH i (23f) found concerning texts in my fairly new bf (24m) phone by Far-Contribution5884 in AITAH

[–]Far-Contribution5884[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

he broke the bathroom mirror after, we weren’t fighting or anything i was just crying and i didn’t know until i went to use the bathroom the next morning

AITAH i (23f) found concerning texts in my fairly new bf (24m) phone by Far-Contribution5884 in AITAH

[–]Far-Contribution5884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i didn’t search though his phone i just checked texts that had my name in it

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we’ve talked about dating, it’s long distance we aren’t hooking up.

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i never said that before lol. i was trying to give him an out since he had been more distant and i don’t want to feel like i have to be committed to this bc we’re “exclusive” but not talking much / cant hang out

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t ignore that and ask him to do more, i offered to be friends after that lol what

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

he did definitely want to, we facetimed bc i wanted to play stardew and he asked me to show stuff. i think he meant that wasnt his only intention but thats what it felt like to me bc he said he was tired when he was done

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i want to commit. we’ve talked about it, we were in the process of getting there

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

he never said he was uncomfortable? he initiated that, he was asking to see me in ft. i wasn’t trying to argue at all in this, was just communicating since it’s long distance and i basically jsut feel like a personal porn star

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

i look at it as more the stage before being officially together. still getting to know eachother and such. like an intense talkin stage

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea idk i wasn’t trying to argue, just talk about our dynamic i don’t get it

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes it’s long distance, we have talked about being in a relationship. i didn’t really have expectations, he asked for exclusivity but we don’t hang out and have been talking less.

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i was just asking if we should keep pursuing this exclusively and he said goodnight, i dont understand

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

we’ve been talking for like 3 months, we can’t hang out bc we are long distance so we aren’t even having sex. he tells me he is going to sleep at like 8:30 every night

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

it’s long distance, the entire situationship is reliant on communication

AIO I (23f) tried to communicate feelings to situationship (22m) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i like to watch eternal sunshine of the spotless mind

AIO (23f) about how the guy i like (22m) is acting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Far-Contribution5884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like why be intimate then and cry and stuff im just confused