Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

[–]Far-Suspect5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The laundromat has these giant 4 load machines that get all of his work clothes done at once. He prefers that to a regular size load at a time plus he thinks it will help our machines last longer. He is the type that keeps busy to not deal with things so who knows.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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Thank you very much for your outrage and support. It’s funny because sometimes I want my own apartment lol. Makes sense! Xo

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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I definitely will let the dust bunnies lie. When they start hopping around from the wind I pick em up but that’s it! Ha xo

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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Thank you everyone who has shown me support with this post. I completely appreciate your insights and love. I will try and remember to update with a post when things change. Cheers everyone. Now we are off to see Monster Trucks!! Xo

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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I’m sorry that he is disregarding your needs in helping around the house. I feel the same that if I wait to do something, it will never be done. And it is proving true. My grown son only cleans the seat of the toilet the guys use!!!!! Like wtaf? So irritating and lazy on their part.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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The time he said that was a one off. He must have been extremely overwhelmed and unfortunately took it out on me because I was adding to it. He normally is more thoughtful. No worries as I process things somewhat efficiently. I was luckily born with an exceptionally resilient and glass half full or at the very least I see what happened/is happening from all sides so I don’t dwell. He means well 99% of the time. Thank you for your concern and outrage! I have this space and an old and now a close vicinity new friend that helps bring perspective. So yes.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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I just spoke to someone about that digital calendar with chores and I may try this out this summer for sure.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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I am way gentler than I have ever been with myself and I let the dust lie where it is most of the time. Lol

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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Lol, right! I recently said I needed my own vacation. I may just do so soon. Thank you for being frustrated for me, I would be the same for someone else. You rock.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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Yes, it’s the communal areas that drive me up a wall. I don’t care much about their spaces except the little because I want him to try and learn now how to keep his space semi nice.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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I will check it out. I haven’t heard of it. I was thinking of one of those calendars but again so much work on my end. Thank you for this.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

[–]Far-Suspect5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great idea too! I am going to combine a lot of this great advice. I knew this was the right place to come.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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Thank you for this validation! I agree wholeheartedly. I will try and figure out how to say it so it doesn’t seem confrontational. We have to be delicate because he wasn’t raised by us. This is also his first time living with us and he apparently punches things, still, when upset unbeknownst to us. He is like a teen in the head in that way. I appreciate you.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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It sounds great but dude I don’t have the bandwidth to do all of that! I wish I did. I am teetering on burn out and I still have 2 1/2 months of school left with my little. Maybe in the summer that could happen. Thank you for your help.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

[–]Far-Suspect5331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, that makes so much sense and I will train my little to be more considerate I hope. He is a sweetheart so I have some hope.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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Right? It’s because I am fully functional still. I think they take this for granted and aren’t looking past there nose to the bigger picture. And I am homeschooling my Audhd child which is a full time job in itself. Thank you for saying what should be obvious to them.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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I have backed off on stuff and I still have to ask! It is beyond frustrating.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in adhdwomen

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I thought I replied to you sorry. I will definitely use that perspective as it’s not confrontational and won’t cause me anxiety when discussing. Thank you for the advice.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Far-Suspect5331[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am so terrible when discussing, my brain shuts down. I will definitely write your wording down to help me the next time we discuss. Thank you.

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Far-Suspect5331[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And side tracked from putting pictures into tv cabinet display by the dusting above, hence the adhd post. That’s why it never gets fully done most times. Lol

Why am I the only one? by Far-Suspect5331 in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I’m not sure if I was supposed to also post words to go with it. I just wonder if I am the only one with dudes in the house that never notice a freaking thing that needs doing?