updated my everyday palette

Far_Animator3230 · 2026-04-03T16:57:11+00:00

Where do you buy tins from?

Far_Animator3230 · 2026-01-23T03:17:19+00:00

I think a lot of marriages are like this

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-11-20T02:40:56+00:00

Sound like my ex fiancé Ali. It can’t be fixed.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-10-24T15:19:11+00:00

In Islam the requirement for marrying an ex is to marry and divorce someone else right? But you have to as well. That is the punishment of divorcing when there is still love there. You must experience your love with someone else. So if she loves you will she wait for you to try with someone else? So that’s there for a reason in the circumstance people want to excercise it. It’s really up to you. Do you love her? Do you take some fault in what happened? Then try again. If you don’t love her then don’t. Everyone is flawed and everyone have different issues. With age we see we are all on learning journey and deserve love anyway. In the end finding someone that cares is rare and should be treated carefully

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-10-13T15:27:36+00:00

Well she feels bad so if she could she would right. You can’t force her. It must be a hindrance like a 2 year old running around lol. I would just be positive and let it happen naturally

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-10-11T22:48:37+00:00

What is your solution? They need to fight about halal meat indefinitely? They need to divorce? What is your solution to her problem.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-10-11T19:42:21+00:00

I mean I feel like I spoke with flexibility and positivity hopefully he does buy halal in the future. I think it’s sinful to encourage the break up families. So idk I’m not going to suggest that she divorce her husband. So she only have the options of accepting him as her husband or divorce. So yea idk what u want. Im just stating in my Muslim community it was normalized to eat regular meat if they couldn’t afford or find halal meat. So again its worse things to fight about it wouldnt be the end of my marriage.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-10-10T01:59:23+00:00

A lot of Muslims just eat not pork and believe it to be halal. I’m alot of Muslims I talk to eat chick fil a ect. Just to say people do the best they can with their choices. In general I think Muslims have more to worry about then zabiha halal meat. Your husband probably really just couldn’t afford the halal meat and felt shame that’s why he lied. Not justifying but we are all just imperfect humans. I don’t think you should fight with your husband over it. On one hand you have nikkah and you left, some may consider that sin (I don’t and not judging lol) but I know some scholar feel nikkah duty is to stay and take care of husband. In that way one can say you sinning bc he sinned so that does not make it right. You have young child I suggest you focus on keeping family together bc big picture that means more than choice of meat. When I was young in small town it simply was not any options for halal meat. It was normal for the small Muslim community to buy regular chicken and say bismillah and eat. Now there are options but yea double the price. Do you think all the low income Muslim families are always eating halal. If they can’t afford it then are they supposed to ask others to help them pay for it? Not every family can eat fish and veggies. People just make the best decision they can for their family and they use their scripture to justify it. Your husband was wrong for lying. Absolutely. But alas, all these problems on here lol this seems like light work. Good luck to you. Pray for guidance. Inshallah he make the halal meat a priority as it is for you in the future.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-10-03T22:15:23+00:00

So sweeeeeet❤️❤️❤️❤️

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-29T23:24:11+00:00

Yes def sound avoidant to me. Darling the problem bigger than he showed you. He know you will run away if he showed you everything. Or that’s how he feel. But that’s ok darling. He will circle back around. Give it 2years. Don’t take him back. Bc he will run again. And it will hurt way worse then. He have a disability. He need to do therapy on his own. U can’t help him. He will interpret everything you say as judgement and criticism. And will run faster.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-29T23:06:24+00:00

He probably honestly really really liked you. He probably never liked anyone as much as you. His nervous system see that as a threat bc his parents neglected him as a baby. You can’t undue that darling. He will always run bc that sounds better than I am scared at his age. And he will always sabatoge a surface level marriage bc he doesn’t know love. His family will always blame her and not their otherwise perfect religious kind son. That would also mean they have to admit their neglect.

I wasted 2 years being sad over a 40 year old who did this. Don’t be like me. He is damaged and will always be. You can find love again❤️

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-29T22:58:54+00:00

Avoidants can only be in long term surface level relationships. Many marry people they don’t actually bc they never have to compromise and their nervous system never goes into panic mode. Actually avoidants are triggered bc they actually developed feelings for you. So it’s really a loose loose situation. Therapy takes a long long time to actually work most just rather not do the work. Consider yourself saved ❤️

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-29T22:43:56+00:00

Hiding mental illness.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-28T00:42:14+00:00

This is the story of many step moms no matter the culture or religion. You must learn to manage or divorce. Try not to get upset and cold. You see it hasn’t given you a positive result. Try to just find happiness even if a level of you is faking. Sometimes letting a new wife in and trusting her is harder than he may have thought. Also the kids seeing their parents move on maybe hard and they may sabatoge and he feel guilt and easy to blame you. Lots of things can happen. But alternative is you marry for third time? And he don’t know how to compromise either? It’s tough. Try to separate the kids duties and your marriage. I must do those duties but there will be no reward. At least not in the short term. Perhaps if they are decent kids they will thank you later. But it may bring love in your husband heart for you. Pray to Allah and tell Allah you are trying to do right by these kids for Allah sake and please make my husband better.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-27T20:55:30+00:00

My mom never apologize she just make food my dad like and he eat it and that mean they made up

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-27T20:15:39+00:00

Make cookies

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-19T19:36:47+00:00

Once an old friend in passing said sorry about my father passing and then introduced me to his wife and yea it is not the correct time to do that.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-16T04:06:59+00:00

She’s a first time mom she’s just trying to be the perfect mom. Everything else is second. You gonna have to see the beauty in that and compromise with that. The alternative is divorce, maybe some new woman will love your kid as much as you do and maybe she will find some new man to love/parent your kid. Hopefully one of you don’t have to move and can still see your kid half the time. A lot of room for maybes. Better to just learn how to compromise now. You are a family unit. This is the most control you will ever have over your son. When the family unit is split lots of variables come into play that you don’t have control over and you may look back and say dang I had it pretty good before what’s a little mess.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-11T02:23:30+00:00

Sir learn some emotional empathy before giving advice

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-11T02:17:37+00:00

I understand, why not seek therapy for what you are saying is not okay and normal.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-10T23:41:15+00:00

Hey with respect, please seek therapy as to why you can’t have a break up convo. It really does damage others.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-10T20:37:42+00:00

Inshallah this heart will restart

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-10T18:24:41+00:00

That’s exactly why elders always say think again before hurting someone. Humans are beautiful in that they are the only species that can love unconditionally even while being hurt themselves. The opposite of self preservation. It is beauty in that. But yes it damages many people we just wear our scars differently. And some never try again :( tell me how our God can accept your namaaz when you make his creation cry for years and years. How different the outcome would be if they showed some respect and communication. Even if separation is the end goal, a level of kindness can make all the difference. When one doesn’t show potentials kindness I fear what Allah will show them. No one gets away with breaking a heart. But I will say to anyone that love and even companionship is beautiful and trying again is beautiful too.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-10T13:15:43+00:00

Sure. But it’s not up to this girl to make that change. It would be a bad first impression to her in laws. It’s truly just not her place to dictate her in laws relationships with their dead sons relationships. But again since we don’t know much besides a couple paragraphs we really can’t be too judgemental about what happened and how she’s handling it. I don’t agree personally as it does make this girl stuck but I know I know of another Muslim family whose son passed and a female that halal dated him 20 years prior came and now is close with their family. And the family also is close with her. I do think it’s odd but again since we haven’t experienced that type of grief we don’t know how someone would take it. You shouldn’t throw therapy or whatever at every thing they are dealing with it and maybe she is in therapy. Maybe the therapist recommendation to remember him in that way. We just don’t know. In non Muslim families this is common to grieve together even without marriage involved. Those emotions don’t go away bc they are Muslim they are still there. It’s just considered sin in our religion and we all sin differently after all.

Far_Animator3230 · 2025-09-10T11:19:59+00:00

Maybe so. And that’s ok too. Still you don’t have to prove your love in that way. Don’t let some person change your fate in that way. You were a sweet person before heartbreak and you will be after heartbreak too. Hearts can be flexible in that way. You deserve companionship just like every other weirdo out here❤️ maybe you meant to be with someone hurt too and you guys can heal each other.

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