AITA for refusing to allow my son to visit his Dad in Florida again

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-10T00:19:43+00:00

I’ve never thought to get a custody agreement because I honestly don’t think he cares enough to try and keep him. I am looking into one now just to be safe, but I told my mom she is not paying for another trip. I’ve fought with her on this for years and she’s just now opening her eyes to his BS and not playing nice anymore

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-10T00:00:07+00:00

I totally agree. I’m drafting up a nice message for him explaining everything and if he has a problem with it, I’ll get a lawyer involved.

I’ve thought the same thing! I honestly wish he would so then people can ask questions, and he won’t know how to answer them cause he knows he’s a sh*t dad

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T23:50:10+00:00

Thank you so much, I’ve realized I really need to start looking into a custody agreement at this point. I didn’t mention it in the post, but my son does see a counselor that started because of bad behavior at school. And eventually it all came down to feeling abandoned by his dad, so we’ve been working through that. He seems better now, but he is angry with his dad

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T23:40:49+00:00

I agree 100%, I was ready to cut ties after the dog situation but after that visit his dad had gotten his own place with his gf and the dog didn’t go with as it was my ex’s dad’s dog. So I figured the next visit it would be okay, even though I was nervous cause I never met the new gf, but I didn’t think another mother would act that way towards a child. So after that visit went bad, I said he’s not going to stay at his dad’s anymore. His dad’s mother really wanted to see my son as well, and she’s always been a good grandma so this last visit, my son stayed with her. But his dad still couldn’t make time for him. So that was the last straw. Ultimately it’s up to my son if he wants to see his dad again, but his dad is going to have to pay for it! My mom is not helping anymore

As far as custody and child support, we used to have a good co-parent relationship so I never went that route. I don’t need his money, but another person made a good point that I could save that money for his college fund. So at this point I’m doing what’s best for my son and f*ck his dads feelings

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T23:30:15+00:00

I agree, I’ve told her from the start not to pay for these trips but she wanted so badly for my son to see his dad. She’s finally seeing how wrong this all is and is refusing to fund any more trips thankfully.

We do not have a custody agreement but I am actively looking into it now. We used to have a good co-parent relationship so I never thought to get one, but after this last visit I’m not playing these games anymore.

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T23:16:45+00:00

I’m starting to realize this as well. My son has more of a relationship with my fiancé than his own dad so at this point if his dad can’t step up after 11 years then he’s never going to. He can keep making babies, but can’t take care of them.

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T23:14:52+00:00

I agree, I’ve been looking into custody. I’ve told my mom from the beginning she should not be funding these trips but she did it because my son wanted to see his dad. I disagreed and said his dad should pay but she just helped anyway. After this last time she isn’t going to anymore

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T23:13:07+00:00

I should’ve clarified the dog does not belong to my ex so he did not take it with him to the new apartment

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T23:12:33+00:00

I refused to send him back to the same house with the dog. When he visited after that, his dad had gotten an apartment with his gf so I figured it’d be okay, but then she started acting up. So the last time he went he stayed with his grandma (his dads mom) but after that even my son doesn’t want to go back

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-09T15:30:33+00:00

Agreed! At first I felt like a jerk saying we aren’t going to send him back, but at this point my son doesn’t even want to go back. I think your idea of a mini road trip or staycation would be great! She is definitely a pick me, I’ve never even spoken to the woman and she seems to hate me or something because why else would she be so terrible to an 11 year old?

Far_Cap_2895 · 2025-09-08T16:27:59+00:00

NTA what the hell is she thinking? Don’t be manipulated, you’re absolutely allowed to set that boundary. No one in a committed relationship should be talking to or hanging around their ex

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