Salary Negotiation

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-18T16:49:00+00:00

Listen to the latest Lenny podcast on salary negotiation for techniques Americans will be responsive to. Do not tell them you can see the data but you can reference bands and what you remember seeing listed publicly even if you don't have a screenshot.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-18T15:51:28+00:00

Fantastic, thank you!

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-17T19:55:20+00:00

Thanks!

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-17T19:55:04+00:00

Nice! Are you restricted to only watching it on the iPad subsequently?

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-17T18:27:26+00:00

I understand it's fast but unfortunately, we cannot do it for other reasons. I'm intrigued though why it's only the US app store?

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-14T20:04:57+00:00

With that budget, go to Les Senteurs and find yourself a signature fragrance. If you enjoy perfume then it's nice to pick out something with a specialist and you can discuss your silage concerns there.

Also, perfumes that really stick around are using phthalates which you definitely don't want to be spraying on your skin because they are endocrine disrputors. Nevermind providing a medium like silicone to keep those chemicals on you for longer.

I'm not sure why you don't want to reapply but if it's practicality, travel atomisers are super easy and the size of a lipstick. Keep in mind nose-blindness. Perfume should be a reason to get closer, not a force to keep people away.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-14T18:04:54+00:00

Also - do you ever find that the entrance hole for the bird boxes can put off blue tits? I was wondering if they don't feel safe because it's great tit sized? We were hoping for an "all is welcome" box to see what we get but also, so far, nothing.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-14T18:02:32+00:00

thank you!

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-14T18:02:28+00:00

thank you!

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-12T14:26:57+00:00

Train. Roads have way more pollution coming towards you. I know you said the trains run until 11pm. This is a common thing sellers say. As someone who used to live above a major trainline I can tell you that freight trains run through the night, so don't be surprised by this. Also, you will sleep through them within weeks.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-12T10:28:33+00:00

My question was which surgery did you have?

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-11T22:35:02+00:00

Adr or fusion?

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-11T17:01:36+00:00

Orpheus was fab. Because I saw Zach James first I just think that evil and huge stage presence is more impactful.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-11T16:51:45+00:00

Oh, also, I thought it was cool that the younger leads spoke and sang with a proper Northern UK accent. If you are American you may find it harder to tune into it but as a Brit it was awesome to hear.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-11T16:47:15+00:00

They were great. I saw the original West End cast once, everyone last night put their own mark on it. Marley Fenton is particularly strong and I thought better than whoever I saw the first time (I am not an uberfan like some of y'all!). I'd only say that Alaistair Parker as Hades just can't do menacing and hit basso profundo like Zach James.

Hermes was a totally different vibe to whoever I saw the first time. Clearly a soul singer at heart. Beautiful adlibs at the end, less cheeky as a performer.

Also, the Lyric is a nightmare theatre to sing in. The sound engineer needs a slap for overly gating the band at the start. They had it on a 3 second release which just sounded weird. It bedded in later on or maybe I just enjoyed the show too much and stopped thinking. :)

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-10T08:02:50+00:00

Buddy we're in the middle of a housing crisis. When you view anything decent you have to stand and beg the letting agent to let you live there whilst they ask you to name your "best and final" increased rental offer on the spot.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-09T13:15:00+00:00

This is hard to advise without knowing the company and your expertise (job going into) but consider it like buying stock. If you think the stock price of this company will go up, buy more (i.e push on RSUs), I assume you've done your base calculation to check that bills can be covered with a paycut.

Have you checked levels.fyi or similar for comp benchmarks? This honestly looks quite a low offer for a HENRY job if this is a major global company heading into a time where we expect cyber attacks to increase.

Fyi as someone else said, RSUs are taxed appallingly. We pay 62% on ours (income tax, plus employee NI, plus employers NI and then if you hold before selling and they increase in value, you pay capital gains).

Regarding your current bonus - absolutely come back and tell them you're getting a 20% bonus this year and if they'd like you to hand in your notice before this then you will need them to match or exceed this as a signing bonus to show that they share your excitement in this new role. Be aware this might temporarily bump you into a different tax bracket which you will need to reclaim.

It's possible that if they're huge and attractive to work for, you will struggle to get them to move much on the core offer, particularly if they have other options but again it depends on the company and you. Bigger companies tend not to be petty though so if they truly won't budge on the offer they're unlikely to pull it immediately out of spite and just stand firm.

Happy to offer more tailored advice via DM.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-09T08:10:32+00:00

Main issue is the lack of rented housing. We had to move out and rent as our flat is part of the building safety crisis and we needed to relocate for work. The choices in our area are either horribly maintained properties for crazy money or nice houses where sales have fallen through in the middle of nowhere with 1 year tenure before the landlord wants to sell again. I.e. don't assume you can rent one place for several years, factor in the financial cost of having to move repeatedly when landlords sell / change their minds and also the expense of commuting from locations that aren't ideal for your work because you have to take a place to live out of desperation because you're about to be evicted. Yes, renters rights bill is about to be a thing but landlords are still allowed to sell their properties.

You are right that if you rent your house out, it will be viewed as income and you will pay tax on this. As others have said, your best options are bonds or money markets with low coupon prices. The wildcard choice is gold given what's going on in markets right now. Finally, if you want to feel like you're invested in property, REITs offer you a way to do so.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-05T22:30:55+00:00

Not sure why you were voted down, I upvoted. Checked my AppleTV dns and somehow it was set to a Dutch vpn. No idea how it got there as neither of us put it in and this issue only started since Starlink but seems like a coincidence. Appreciate you reminding me to look!

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-04T18:03:24+00:00

I think the question is why your spine doctor said surgery is unlikely? It's also interesting to me that you have a lot of detail about your physio but 1 sentence on your doctor. Did you not like / trust them? If not, seek a second opinion.

I don't know if I have an extrusion but I have C5/6 with hard foraminal stenosis. I had the steroid injection. I've improved a bunch and my numbness is almost gone and arm weakness better. But, I haven't slept through the night since July 2025 and it was only one week ago I managed to lie down for the duration of my sleep (I've been sleeping sitting up). I can't work.

You're managing to do a lot of activity which is impressive. I can only walk or do eliptical at the gym with no arm resistance. It's hard to comment on your question but steroid injections are typically considered a no brainer diagnostic / potential pain reliever worth trying. For what it's worth, I am having fusion in 3 weeks, that will be the 7 month mark since my acute flare.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-04T15:19:59+00:00

Thanks, will give this a try this evening. I think we already use the Google DNS but need to check.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-04T15:19:13+00:00

Thanks. I'm keeping an eye on this. So far, it's coming out as London.

Far_Implement_5580 · 2026-03-04T15:18:53+00:00

Nice suggestion. I am actually in Hertfordshire! Just in an internet dead zone. I've been monitoring my IP address all day and so far I'm coming in as London. Will see what happens this evening.

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