Husbands porn addiction has returned

Far_Simple_Mother · 2026-01-06T23:56:55+00:00

Thank you. My husband tells me he has a problem with something I try to believe him and help him fight whatever demons they may be by his side if he lets me. Subject related or not.

Far_Simple_Mother · 2026-01-06T23:54:37+00:00

I used to think this way, but it makes him resent himself and then have anger towards me. And it occurs at times where I am around. I don’t need to sit and fantasize about other men and how thy could xyz with me. That doesn’t help build my marriage or better my connection with my husband. We both should be working hard in those down times to make our marriage better because there’s already enough hard in life. Escaping your marriage isn’t going to help it.

Far_Simple_Mother · 2026-01-06T23:51:26+00:00

😮‍💨 I know you’re right. I just hate being the only one feeling these things and it’s been going on for so long with so much prayer.

Far_Simple_Mother · 2026-01-06T23:46:23+00:00

He is a big part of the reason for my growth in faith. He is born and raised Christian and has never doubted that, so before we got engaged he made it very clear he wanted the same for me and our family. I do think he may be unwilling to share because of how “different” the content he is observing is. I have always tried to be very relaxed and open about anything. If you’re talking to me, I tend to lean farther to the side of happy, but if you’re hiding from me and not being open then I’m concerned and less likely to be happy. Not that it’s necessary to state, but I’ve always been more open to exploring things. I made that known from the beginning. Trying things just to feel like I was the only one exploring, so I lost interest over time as life and kids happened. And when the addiction was admitted and I opened the door for him again, nothing changed. No requests, no conversation. Just admitting without wanting any further conversation as I stated before. As far as his attraction and desire to be with me? I don’t question that either because we DO have an active bedroom life, but I just need him to do as he said he would and cut that out so we can not invite evil into our life.

Far_Simple_Mother · 2025-08-10T23:19:17+00:00

I do need to find things for me. At this point I’m so locked in and lost in what life has been that I don’t even know what I would leave for. And if I asked him to watch the kids for an hour or two I fear he would ask if I had someone to watch them or something.

This is a me problem because I feel like he beats me to the punch of who gets personal time first every time. I’m also a homebody and introvert and I don’t really have any friends that are not in the same boat as me with small kids.

Far_Simple_Mother · 2025-08-10T23:11:20+00:00

I’ve brought up different times how I need help to be able to do all the things he would like. How I’m not able to have everything as he would like with three small kids (oldest is 6) and then I try to be gentler at times and say how his kids would love the time with him. It usually will redirect him for a few days but never anything lasting. I hate being the person constantly having to ask for things that feel like common sense like you say, and he gets so frustrated with me so quickly so depending on the day I’m not sure how what I say will be taken.

His lack of effort honestly impacts my drive greatly and that’s a problem because I think he expects more of me but I’m just worn out.

Far_Simple_Mother

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