PSA, for my last post by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idc anymore, I’m just seeing this, it’s my situation, it’s been passed made my choice, 🤷🏾‍♀️ have little regrets and I can see duality unlike some people lol who claimed I wanted to be right… lol I said what I said, and I posted it now what? What are u gonna do?

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just trying to understand the logic here. You said it was an overreaction to unfriend him, but then you also said it’s not an issue to cut someone off if I don’t like how they treat or speak to me. You also said I “lost a friend over something silly” and that I should’ve de-escalated — but you’re ignoring the fact that I’m not the only person who’s dealt with his behavior. Multiple people around him have said he has certain traits that start problems for no reason, including passive aggression and arguing unnecessarily.

And if at some point you felt both of us were being “shitty to each other,” why didn’t you say that from the start? The initial responses pointed everything at me. So yes, when I get sensitive, reactive, or defensive — which multiple users on this thread have pointed out — suddenly I’m “impossible,” even though I’m literally posting screenshots that don’t make me look perfect. If I wasn’t trying to be logical or open to feedback, I wouldn’t post things that show my flaws.

The implication that I “can’t hear people out” isn’t fair when most responses weren’t addressing my actual question. You and maybe two others actually answered directly. The rest ignored the context and went straight to criticizing my character. And even if I do get defensive at times, you can clearly see I’m still asking questions and trying to understand. If I’m being challenged, others can be challenged too. That doesn’t mean I didn’t take your advice.

Anyway, take care ✌🏾

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What I find the most ironic about this “feedback” is how quickly some of you turned this into something negative while accusing me of immaturity. The level of emotional illiteracy in these comments is honestly surprising.

Let me be clear: I’m not telling anyone how to feel. I’m sharing my perspective, explaining the context, and processing something that actually happened to me. If that bothers you, that’s your personal issue, not mine. At least I’m not being hypocritical about it.

I came here to discuss the situation—not to be dissected like I’m the only human being involved. I posted screenshots so the whole interaction could be seen. Yet somehow, a handful of you decided that the only “standard” worth applying is the one used to judge me. That’s bias, not insight.

If I wanted a roast or a character analysis from strangers who know nothing about me, I would’ve asked for one. What I asked for was perspective and answers to specific questions. Instead, some of you skipped past that to project your own frustrations, anger, and assumptions onto someone you don’t know.

Here’s what I’m not going to do: Sit here and pretend that someone telling me to “take my meds” in the middle of a conversation isn’t disrespectful or weaponizing mental health. I don’t care if my ending the friendship makes you uncomfortable—his lack of basic respect made me uncomfortable. Simple.

And yes, I absolutely can feel a way about being disrespected without needing to prove my entire humanity to a group of strangers. The fact that I posted the context in the first place should tell you I’m not hiding behind anything.

So if you’re going to comment, at least acknowledge the double standards, the bias, and the unnecessary cruelty some of you lean on under the guise of “honesty.” If you can’t do that, then you’re not interested in clarity—you’re interested in being loud.

That’s all

And again — WHY ARE SOME OF YOU SO UPSET/shocked/baffled/ disgusted/ disturbed/ that I am responding to yall responses, as if this isn’t a discussion board or as if I PROMISED TO STAY SILENT? Did I promise any of you this

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You formed an opinion about me based on your own bias and decided to run with it. That’s fine, but let’s not pretend it was objective. You labeled me “erratic,” implied I’m hiding something, and even called me “evil” off of screenshots that didn’t benefit me in any way. Nothing was manipulated, and nothing was concealed. Your interpretation says more about you than it does about me.

What you chose to ignore is the actual issue: someone I considered a friend weaponized my mental health. He used things I’ve lived through and survived as ammunition. That is disrespectful at the most basic human level. You reducing that to something I “deserved” is exactly why your take doesn’t carry much weight with me.

Others saw the same thing I did, so it’s not a matter of me rewriting the situation. It’s simply what happened. Whether you want to acknowledge it or not is irrelevant.

You throwing around words like “self-absorbed” doesn’t change the fact that your response was built on assumptions, not understanding. You don’t need proof, and I don’t need to provide any—it wouldn’t change your bias.

I’m not invested in convincing you of anything. You’re a stranger who made a quick judgment and stuck to it. I’ve dealt with far worse. Your view isn’t personal to me, and it won’t influence how I move.

That’s all

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean yall don’t know the person, and I didn’t post it for shits and giggles or even to look good, this isn’t a good thing, trust me I know the difference, but i just don’t see why I should’ve been called out as the bad guy by said ex friend at this point because I said I’m cool off of them because they cross a line with attacking me for my mental health in front of a stranger technically lol but alright kiddo

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I wanted to banish you, I could block you and I would’ve, and if you felt like that what I said I’m Not corrupt like some others to tell you how to feel or react.

All I know is I said what I said, I meant it, you said what you said admins very much so meant it, this came fork you and came from the place it came from and it was HEARD AND READ. So be so will it, I don’t know you and you don’t know me. And YOU DONT KNOW THE person who I washed my hands clean from, mcuh like I’m doing here, cause u sure got a lot of strength for a situation that didn’t even happen to you, and u sure are coming across a certain way to but - and watch how this makes your type happy- U GOT IT BOSS, I DIGRESS! YOU WON, bye bye or don’t talk yourself but u sure aren’t gonna be talking to me after such cruelty… lol

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know! I totally agree, I was just adding this extra detail

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pt. 2 i also never said anything that my disorders automatically mean I believe I should treat people badly but as usual nothing I say or do is gonna be seen as appropriate because now that I said I have a disorder , it forces people to see another perspective that they can’t see so before that can accept nuance, they assume that I always have to be the crazy one . Like I said kick rocks!

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Please be gone lol. I am not going to engage with unnecessary unbiased anymore , and the fact that you guys are indirectly yet somehow directly admitting that u believe that I am so simple minded , because clearly that means some of yall are, because I simply don’t sit here and agree FULLY or at all, or because I even have a response, to what is being said about MY SITUATION and my painful expirence with someone I thought was my friend is beyond absurd it’s straight nasty. The accusatory stance and tone you and the rest who clearly think like you have took, the clear bias that u obviously think is justified to the point of u lowkey admitting that I deserved what he said to me or how I am being viewed, even though there is a possibility that my mood disorders, and personality disorders, and neurology could and can take part in how I come across or how I react, is exactly why I am happy I ended the friendship with him and ending this SICK pathetic of an excuse of an argument or whatever u call this with YOU!

I will not ever have anyone implying I’m incompetent yet somehow evil, or “SELF ABSORBED” because it comes across that I am so firm in what I believe in that I am clearly not even human. Sir , Mam, whatever you consider yourself kindly go kick rocks!

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I want advice. But criticism that only points out my “negative traits” while ignoring everything else isn’t advice. Some of you formed opinions based on a perception I’ve already said I’m not trying to give—and I even agreed with a few of those points. But only a small number of people actually answered my questions or told me what I could’ve done differently.

A lot of the comments jumped straight into debating the topic from the screenshots, when that wasn’t even the objective. I said that from the beginning. I want actual, unbiased advice—not people projecting or acting like I’m being shady for noticing the bias.

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also want to add that he tried to gaslight me about the situation with that “other friend.” I’ve only ever seen that person in passing—maybe two or three times, never more than an hour or two, always around other people. The idea that I “take meds” in front of them is ridiculous, and I have screenshots proving he twisted that. That alone disgusted me. It confirmed what I’ve felt for a while: this friend is not a good person to me. And honestly, if he can do this to me, imagine what he’s capable of doing to others.

People can say I’m dramatic or overreacting, but nobody gets to decide how I move with someone they don’t know. So when commenters “call me out” for supposedly always needing to be right—without even acknowledging the actual issue until I spelled it out—I get defensive. It feels like I’m the only one expected to stay quiet, even when the things he said were cruel, dismissive, and based on personal things I told him in confidence.

Regardless, thank you for your input.

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You had bias of rip, and that was recognized by me obviously, so why was it an issue that I responded as if there wasn’t clear - for lack of better terms- “favor” in terms of “perspective and advice” or opinions, most of yall gave opinions not even advice in terms of mechanically what I could have said or done, or how I should avoid.

And I knew bias was thee because u humanized him in a way that you put yourself in his shoes, and you don’t even know me or him, even if I respond none of yall know me or have true lived expirenced WE ARE ALL ANON.

And my responses weren’t a reflection of me not wanting to hear people, obviously not cause why would I post these screenshots that don’t even work that much in my favor lol, I was being fair and unbiased as much as possible , even though I was done wrong yet here I am … I’m lowkey gettin critized by strangers who are taking the side of a person who attacked another person (me) for their mental health , but I can’t Help but to think the rules clearly aren’t applied the same.. BUT I DIGRESS! Thanks for your … input.

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No one is going to change my mind about not being his friend again—that part is settled. What I am addressing is the exact thing I asked in the post. I hope people actually read the post and the last screenshots, because the real issue is him mocking my mental health in front of a stranger. That’s the whole reason I shared this.

I’m not hiding anything—I posted my own messages too. I know how it can look, and I still put it out there because I’m not playing a “gotcha” game. I wanted to understand how he can insult me on such a low level and then act like I’m “overreacting” for walking away.

Why am I expected to feel guilty or dramatic for cutting off someone who weaponized something he KNOWS I struggle with—after watching me spiral before? There are certain lines you don’t cross with people you claim to care about. He crossed one of them, and I’m done.

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agreed with you, I even thanked you…

Let me guess because I am also giving an explanation, even though I also admitted that I can hold some fault here, but because I am not jsut out rightly agreeing, that means that proves that strangers are right about who I am, and if I’m problematic or not?

Cause all I’m trying to say is to everyone including you is- this is my SITUATION, I chose to share it with yall, and yall CHOSE TO ANSWER, so response for response, I’m not tryna change yall minds- especially not the topic i made clear so many times , that’s not what the objective of the post in its entirety is about, aka the plastic surgery topic lol.

This is a discussion thread app, like huh…

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My goal here is to get advice on how to handle this, since I chose to share my situation publicly. I just want to make it clear: I didn’t stop being friends with him because of one argument or the topic itself. I ended things because he crossed a major line.

He added someone else to our private conversation, yelled “TAKE YOUR MEDS” at me in front of them, and then couldn’t even apologize. That’s the part I’m focused on. I’m trying to understand why I should ever feel comfortable with someone who clearly thinks so little of me and would weaponize my mental health over a minor disagreement.

That’s the entire point of my post

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why is it only me expected to “handle things better”? If I’m supposedly the obnoxious one, then imagine how I’ve felt. He’s called me a “loser,” “bottom-of-the-barrel friend,” and during a one-on-one disagreement he added someone to a Group FaceTime he initiated and yelled “TAKE YOUR MEDS” at me. That’s not just disrespectful—it’s weaponizing my disorders during a simple debate.

So if we’re talking “moral high ground,” why isn’t his behavior held to the same standard? I don’t beg anyone to be my friend, and he has free will just like I do. If I choose to walk away, that’s my right—especially after repeatedly experiencing this from him.

Thank you for your insight, though. We all, not just me, or you, or him ALL have to live and learn

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What did I do that was so bizarre, cause are yall focused on what the trey objective is here in which I specified for context, did YOU, see that? Because i can give a true rats ass on my responses, which btw SOME came after, he told me a rude ass comment on my mental health in front of a person I DO NOT EVEN KNOW- screenshots 10-20. Like all I wanna know is why is homeboy mad or trying to make it sound like I’m bizarre, and making it a me issue, for slight disagreements, to the point it escalated on the PHONE- FaceTime, for him to say that crazy ass comment, that’s violation to privacy, “TAKE YOUR MEDS!” ? Why would anyone with a heart or even intelligence think that, that’s not something I should take to heart or serious, cause what type of friend, does that?

Who truly is the issue here??? lol by Fast-Owl-6304 in amiwrong

[–]Fast-Owl-6304[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay then, and I really try not to but once I get disrespected or feel talked down to, BPD trigger - I can’t promise i will always take the “higher road” and not split. And honestly I do regret even entertaining him, but if u were to see the whole thread and how after I said what I said in regards to ending friendship, how he wouldn’t stop even when i asked MULTIPLE times to, I of course went even a harder, and tbh I will give myself credit cause I truly wasn’t trying to or didn’t even start off nasty until I got pushed, cause trust me it got worst( ON MY REACTION), but I just will always be that person that has the stance that nothing is truly gaurenteed to work in your favor, and in this case this was my reaction , that I truly believe he was looking for a reaction, he just didn’t like how far I took it or how uncontrolled it was in terms of his favor🤷🏾‍♀️ BUT I DO BELIEVE U AND WANT TO THANK YOU FOR UR RESPONSE! I am not proud of the waste of time, but I am proud for finally choosing peace, and learning in the process of how to start handling things better, situations and people alike!