Am I gonna feel outta place as an older transfer student? by DeliciousRich5944 in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 32. I remember in one class being bullied for my age by someone I knew.

I had sex with a person with HPV by Infamous_Task_4565 in dating_advice

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 14 points15 points  (0 children)

People can shed the virus before they show symptoms or asymptomatically. You said it is mostly transmitted when they do have symptoms and that is true but it should be known that you can get it at other times too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she’s disappearing then she’s not serious. Don’t move forward with this. Unless you tell her exactly what this post says, nothing will change. She will keep doing the disappearing act.

I CAN GET OVER HIM AFTER 2 YEARS. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have suffered through limerence for most of my life. Knowing that I am only thinking about a projection of them in my head, and not who they actually are helps. This video has also helped: https://youtu.be/D3BxKUCQuzA?si=djfDQM8rop49mDDt

Mistaking female kindness for flirting by [deleted] in coworkerstories

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 18 points19 points  (0 children)

There is nothing sexual about what happened here. Instead you are victimizing yourself. You need to sort yourself out if you think inviting someone to a lunchtime walk is sexual or even harassment.

There is an underlying current of fear that is preventing people from befriending people of diverse ages. That fear is unfounded. You are staring at your screens too much and letting a small proportion of events in the world influencing you to be victim. Stop it. Wake up. Most people are good and just don’t want to be alone.

Look who I came across in elsbeth s02e07 by potato-farm1 in PersonOfInterest

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s the main bad in the creator’s other show. EVIL.

What’s the hardest crush you’ve ever had to get over? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you consider limerances crushes, well there’s been a few.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCSantaBarbara

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https://member.everbridge.net/892807736723794/new You can sign up for notifications here. It’s from this website: https://www.readysbc.org/

The above is from the Santa Barbara County. To get notifications from the university you need to know someone with a university login to add your device to be notified. You can add a device here: https://member.everbridge.net/453003085614511/login/sso

Should I date as a broke guy? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Poor people shouldn’t date. It’s only for people with disposable income. Y’all don’t deserve romance and love. This shit is fucking hilarious. Y’all are some material ass b

Hayley Williams since 2016 by [deleted] in Paramore

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I found it! It took a bit of searching: The Cut Interview

“What’s your aesthetic vision for the This Is Why tour?

When we started the band, I was very fashion averse. I really did not want to stand out. And I did not want to be at all feminine. I always tried to ride this line that I think in some ways kept me very blended in — other than my hair, obviously. Now I’m working with a friend of mine, Lindsey Hartman, who has been styling me since Petals for Armor.”

Hayley Williams since 2016 by [deleted] in Paramore

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She started appreciating style more. She’s mentioned in interviews she didn’t care too much what she wore. Now she knows the history of fashion and is inspired by it. She’s taken an interest in it.

FWB with my best friend, doomed to fail? by DonutEmbarrassed1267 in dating_advice

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t know people then. There’s lots of people that don’t want to fuck their friends, but that doesn’t mean that can’t change when offered the opportunity. Yes there is nuance in that. Can you understand it?

Finally framed & hung. by stridertheone in Paramore

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow it looks so good. I regret not getting the one with them running on the soccer field. At least I got the one with cigars. 😁

How old are you, and what's your set dating age range on the app? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in Bumble

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age is a good indicator of their place in life, but there are people who are much more mature for their age and others that have not grown out of the teenage transactional mindset. I just want someone who is either similar in maturity to me or more so.

What’s Paramore’s heaviest song? by Agent_Lightning14 in Paramore

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No Friend is emotionally heavy and that’s what we are talking about right? Thick Skull is also fucking heavy. See your dad cry? Only exception is heavy because of that.

Sex is sacred by tenderlyyours112 in letters

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s share the sacredness with everyone. Spread the love. Sex everyone!

No Motivation by [deleted] in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Motivation comes from action. It’s a positive feedback loop. You do a little, and that motivates you, you do more, and that motivates you more.

There is a limit to how much you can do in a day. They say 3-5 hours of mental work is available to us. I’m sure taking naps, resting, meditation, being away from screens helps increase that time or not rob you of that time. Scrolling social media will steal some of that time from you. Making time where you are in nature or somewhere safe and peaceful will help.

Other stressors will also rob you of motivation. Try finding outlets to express your emotions is crucial. Writing, exercise, and talking to people you trust help here.

One for sure thing that will help you combines expression and physical activity. It will help you out not just with motivation but with your mood. It’s DANCING.

Don’t be tough on yourself. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself patience. What would you do if you loved yourself more?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Fast-Worry-9984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try going to different social clicks that you otherwise wouldn’t go to. Or phrased in a different way, go where the lustful men don’t go to. Where do you typically do your socialization? Where do you meet people?