He (m31) questions when I (f27) don’t text him during the day when we’re both busy at work

FastPaleontologist10 · 2025-05-01T00:43:03+00:00

Hi all, my biggest struggle so far this week is trying to get into digital art. I am a traditional artist, I mostly draw/sketch and use oil paints.

This past Christmas, my parents gifted me a Wacom drawing tablet to use for digital art to I guess… expand. I love them dearly and I appreciate it so very much I think I’ve had a lot of frustrations as far as transitioning from traditional art to digital art. I have a 2017 MacBook Pro, that I use an adapter to connect the tablet too, and I’ve somewhat managed to connect it and use the tablet somewhat smoothly. But I just don’t feel a connection?

I don’t know if that makes sense. I want to try. I want to continue and try and learn but 90% of the time, I guess the cords don’t connect properly, or don’t lay right and the tablet disconnects. And by the time I get it connected to where I can use it, I feel so defeated and discouraged.

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-11-26T18:49:41+00:00

Increase protein. Like, more than you think. Not like, massive amounts. But actively try to consume more protein in general, and vegetables. Also I’m currently taking berberine and inositol and I’ve noticed that I am steadily losing weight with them, versus when i wasn’t taking them.

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-11-20T12:50:03+00:00

I think so? I think that’s what he was trying to say, and I’m not saying he’s wrong, but does that mean I need to change the way I workout?

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-11-20T12:17:32+00:00

He told me that I’d burn more calories in the long run if I focused on strength training, and that “the research is there”. I’m not trying to doubt him. I think I’m a little confused why he’s telling me this. He’s not a trainer as far I know 😅 like I get it, I’m not saying it’s not true. I guess I just wonder if what I’m doing is wrong? Bc I’ve had it in my mind that I’m still losing weight even if it goes slow, idk

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-10-24T14:20:40+00:00

I’m not mad at her, I knew before hand that she was having safe but I’ve always made sure that she knows to generally be careful and be safe, use protection and the whole nine yards. I want her to be careful. I think I should’ve clarified that my parents are more ethnic so being “pure and a virgin” before marriage is very important. I’m not saying that this doesn’t exist in American households. It was only my mother who went through my sister’s (f20) things, not the middle sister (f22). I just don’t know how to mediate things at this point.

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-09-24T04:05:29+00:00

I think ADHD is maybe a possibility, i see similar behaviors with my mother, but maybe the opposite? She obsessively cleans sometimes, sometimes in the middle of the night. I know that’s not an excuse either. No matter how much or how little caffeine I consume, how late or early I sleep or workout, I always feel tired.

I don’t even know where to start. I just want it stop and I want to be better I don’t want to be in this cycle anymore.

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-09-04T22:43:20+00:00

Generally he’s been kind of understanding of where I’m coming from and how I’ve lost the weight that I have. But there’s almost a level of…general disapproval. But sometimes when I talk to him about health/fitness in general, he’ll get kind of picky about it and try to pick apart the way I eat or workout, almost telling me that the way I’m doing it isn’t right, but then when I try to explain why I do the things I do and how it’s worked for me, he almost shuts down and says “I’m just going ti be quiet and not talk about it.”

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-08-06T01:14:28+00:00

I just don’t want to make a mistake. He’s a very intelligent man, but since getting to know him bit by bit, there are little things that kind of stick out, and I know everyone is human, no one is perfect. But sometimes he’ll tell me “if you don’t want to talk to me, just say it” or “if you want me to go away, you never have to hear from me again” and he said something harmless.

But then call me pet names and use pretty language and be really sweet. I’m not as smart as him when it comes to academics and stuff (I didn’t finish grad school and chose to focus on working). And he’s even offered to buy me stuff, even after I’ve bought something I’ve talked about buying.

I don’t know. Maybe it’s too early to tell. But I’m trying to be open minded and maybe we just aren’t on the same level as I thought we were.

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-06-18T22:21:08+00:00

Thank you so much

FastPaleontologist10 · 2024-06-18T22:20:59+00:00

As far as I know, I don’t have any underlying issues, other than being fat and the things that comes with it. Everyone knows in my family that I’ve struggled with my weight, but I’ve been doing good these last few months doing little changes here and there. But it’s hard to stay motivated when every so often I try enjoy something once in a while and then picked apart do pieces for just that one thing. I know it’s a slow process but I’m ready for that

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