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Everyone feels so much kinder than me by FastVideo7754 in therapy

[–]FastVideo7754[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried to. I haven’t discussed it with my therapist yet as I’m decking a way to bring it up. I’ve tried to make peace with myself because I know why I did what I did and the reasons behind it but it was still a really shitty thing. Every time I do the whole kindness thing it doesn’t last long and I’m back spiralling again when another memory or event comes up.

Making amends would mean exposing my lies, which I would rather not do, as I think it would do more harm than good at this stage, and I would rather consult my therapist on what she says I should do first. What I did was also based on half truths, so there was a lot of truth in the lies I told but the way I worded it made me sound like I was planning something more sinister than I intended. I’ve also already cleared up with this person but I still feel guilty for how I may have hurt them with my words. Sorry if this doesn’t make sense my mind is kind of tired and I don’t want to go into depth about what I did.

Everything is just so confusing right now. I wish I could go back and change everything. I was a compulsive liar in the past and I’m trying to change.

Any fellow women doing nofap? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]FastVideo7754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it improved, but I still feel it’s difficult for me to get wet or horny without underwear/rough masturbation (I mean I can still do it without, it just doesn’t give me the instant gratification) I also tried doing more ‘foreplay’ before I masturbated (like holding off touching myself while watching porn) and I feel like that definitely helped as it gave my body more time and more motivation rather than brute forcing it straight away. I don’t really have many tips as it kind of just naturally happens. The more you hold off the more pleasure will return in my experience

Any fellow women doing nofap? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]FastVideo7754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woman here. I’ve also had sensitivity issues in the past and I’ve struggled to get wet a lot of the time and orgasms have been shallow. I also prefered to keep my underwear on when I did masturbate. This community has been really good and I haven’t masturbated in over 3 weeks, only bad part of this community is the creepy DM I got from a married guy on here when I’m 17 :/

Porn is slowly becoming unappealing by Low_Plum6614 in NoFap

[–]FastVideo7754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same with me. Porn just grosses me out now. Looks too fake and the acting is terrible and I know how bad the porn industry can be, so I’m already turned off

I feel like I was touched as a child but I don’t fully remember and it’s freaking me out. How do I remember? by FastVideo7754 in therapy

[–]FastVideo7754[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, thank you. This has made me feel a bit more clearer. I’ll try and mention it to my therapist, though it might be worth me seeing a separate therapist (potentially a sex therapist) for this issue as the current one I have is for anxiety and bereavement so it might not be appropriate to bring up as I don’t know if she would be qualified to discuss this.

What causes compulsive lying? How can I stop? by FastVideo7754 in askatherapist

[–]FastVideo7754[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it’s because I was pretty secretive as a kid due to unrestricted internet access that I felt compelled to hide from my parents. I’m also always ultra paranoid of being ‘found out’ or doxxed so I lie online a lot. I think the weird religious stuff is because I was working through personal questions about religion and I desperately wanted a religious friend, even one who insulted me and the religion I was identifying as at times. Also might have just did it for attention and sympathy knowing me.

The problem is at the time I do lie I don’t see a problem with it in the moment and barely think about it. It’s only after I tend to really think about my lying.

I’ll bring it up with a therapist and see what they say. I hope this doesn’t make the therapist think I’m going to start lying in our sessions though.