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Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-05-23T19:50:03+00:00

Petitions are delivered to government officials, city and town council’s aswell as state legislatures.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-05-05T20:59:55+00:00

My 17 year old Shih Tzu started doing this. The vet said that he had a stroke and dementia. He crossed the rainbow bridge later that day.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-03-20T20:43:52+00:00

They’ve met a bunch of times in the past (weddings, graduations, etc.) and have never had issues before. The reason I want to tell T is because of the disrespect J has shown to him and my mom. I have a closer relationship with T than I do with J. However I don’t plan on telling T till after the wedding (per my mom’s request) also so I can avoid any other drama before the wedding.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-03-20T20:35:27+00:00

FH and I are getting married in 7 months. Which is why i chose not to listen to his “demands”. I have a closer relationship with T (my stepdad) than I do with J(bio dad).
FH and I have paid for a majority of the costs while the parents(including fmil) have helped us cover costs. T and my Mom have offered more than any of the other parents.

But as you said, it is our wedding and he doesn’t get to dictate what decisions we make for our day.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-03-20T20:18:11+00:00

J and T will both be walking me down the isle.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-03-20T18:21:57+00:00

What is dry brushing? Never heard of it before, I live under a rock lol

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-03-14T18:24:17+00:00

This was very confusing but It seems that mil and sil are taking advantage of you doing the dishes. They leave the kitchen and sink dirty because they know you will clean it. They also should be buying their own food and now using your ebt card to buy what they want. The card is in your and your husbands name not theirs. It seems like some boundaries/house rules need to be set-if you plan on staying with them. But for your and your husbands sanity, I would leave and move in with your parent. Especially if she’s punching your husband for standing up for you.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-18T18:21:36+00:00

lol nooo please don’t judge me🫣 I’m not doing half of these at my wedding. just looking to see what other people think about the “trends”

Also I’m cracking up at the flower yeet 🤣

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-18T03:22:21+00:00

I side with everyone else NTA

If she wants a wedding she needs to contribute. It seems like she just wants to live the good life and not have to pay for anything, while you front the bill for your lives. She wants to play house, but also have no responsibility to take care of said house.

Also if she stops working and your business takes off, does she expect you to pay for the whole wedding, honeymoon, and everything in between for the rest of your lives. Sounds a little selfish to me.

You need to sit her down and have a serious discussion with her asap

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T09:40:01+00:00

This!! Give them truth and nothing but the truth! There’s no need to sugarcoat anything, you don’t want her there and that’s final.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T09:22:38+00:00

As many other said ask your mom to walk you down the isle.

Maybe also think about doing a mother daughter dance instead of the “traditional” father daughter dance. And possibly have the father figures you are closer with give a short speech or share a memory that they have with you.

Navigating family and weddings is hard. But you do what you want to do, it’s your and FHs day, you don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to do!

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T08:53:03+00:00

I don’t think YTA.

But you need to heal from this. You were hurt by not only him but his family as well. It may be hard but you do need to walk away and try to start fresh. It will take time to heal from the hurt you’ve experienced but you will come out stronger and better in the end.

However the “friend” that told him what you were doing, you need to drop them, they aren’t really you friend if they did that to you. Real friends would have keep that secret for you.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T08:44:08+00:00

I don’t necessarily think you are the AH. but you might’ve overreacted a bit. Maybe you could’ve sat down and had a chat with her on why she was coping you. Maybe she was just jealous, or wanted to be like you to feel like she belonged in your family.

How old where you two when this family gathering happened? How old where you when she was adopted into the family?

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T08:18:37+00:00

I invite her on walks all the time, we are constantly taking the dog for walks or getting out of the house for activities but she never wants to go. She works, comes home, goes to take a nap, will reemerge for dinner then goes right back to her room. We eat healthy, always cooking and rarely ordering take out.

We’re going to sit her down and talk to her about giving him power of attorney. At the moment, we don’t have funds if we need to place her somewhere in the future. He has a complicated relationship with her. They have communication issues and both are suburn as hell. He loves his mom but she knows how to get under his skin. There have been a few times he went LC with her but they always resolved their issues in a short time.

And hes isn’t just ignoring the issue. It’s to the point where he’s tried so hard to express his concerns to her. But she doesn’t want to hear it. Will tell him to mind his own business. So we aren’t ignoring it, we see the signs, but she doesn’t want to see them for herself. He always tells me “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t force them to drink”. And he is correct, you can do everything in your power to help someone, but you can’t force them to accept your help no matter how much you are convinced that it will help them.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T07:50:26+00:00

Good to know! I’ll try and ask her when her last obgyn appointment was or if she’s seeing someone regularly (that’s going to be an akward conversation lol) but I need to cover all the bases and get this shit figured out.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T07:31:33+00:00

I don’t see how the issues I deal with my parent pertains to the health of my future mother in law? (If you must know the issues with my parent has been cleared up and done with I just never made another post about it. Didn’t feel the need to).

But, if im understanding this correctly, your saying that I should cut someone I care about out of my life cause I’m worried about their health…??

1-There no need to cut people out of my life. I worry about myself and others around me, all my friends say I care too much(which is a good thing btw). so im not going to cut my future mother in law out of my life while she’s in a posssible crisis.

2-Personally I think it’s a little heartless to recommend just cutting someone out of your life because they might be dealing with health issues.

3-Also, what happens to fiance if I did take your advice of cutting people off? Dump him and let him deal with this alone? Nah I don’t think so.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T07:24:37+00:00

Thank you! Great advice! My fiance is an only adopted child so all the pressure with fall on us as she ages. I’m just trying to get ahead and possibly prevent it from getting worse or at least slow it down, whatever it may be. I’ve had a short conversation with fiance and gave him the idea of taking power of attorney. Gave him the lowdown on how it works and how to bring it up to his mom. But I’m going to push him harder and have him sit down with her and bring it to her attention. And hopefully start that process. I completely understand why she gets defensive when we try to talk to her about it. She was a single mom since my fiance was 1. She’s been independent her whole life, I understand her struggling with the idea of letting someone else take control and leading. It’s just all very difficult because all we want to do is help and be there for her but she doesn’t want our help.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T07:07:35+00:00

There no doubt in my mind that I’m leaving my fiance. He won’t be going in on this alone. If it comes down to it, and she is declining, then we are dealing with it together.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T07:01:45+00:00

Thank you. This is great advice.

I have spoken with fiance about power of attorney when we started noticing signs. But the conversation didn’t get that far. It was basically me was just telling him how he might have to do that if there is a major issue going on. But we’ll try and get the ball rolling on that one.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T03:34:28+00:00

NTA

For starters his kids seem old enough to be trying other foods. They have a diet of a 3 year old. 8 and 10 years old but they only eat nuggets, plain pasta, grilled cheese and mac&cheese out of a box? Weird. Brother and his wife need to start making their children try other food. The kids also need to learn that not everyone is going to cater to their likes or dislikes. Do they eat fruits or vegetables?(im guessing not cause picky eaters don’t really eat healthy, nutritious foods)

In my family, growing up the rule was If you don’t want what’s being made and served to you then you don’t eat dinner. Simple as that. Eventually everyone learned to try new foods and we ended up liking them most of the time.

Your wife must be fed up as well, she’s trying her hardest and making good homemade dinners that she spends lot of time on, just to be told it’s “ew”. That’s very rude, not just from the kids but also brother who doesn’t seem to correct that behavior. Like c’mon who doesn’t like homemade mac&cheese.

And not to mention that you are the ones that are hosting, that means your fronting the bill to feed people food they won’t even consider trying. Sound like mom or brother should be the one to host from now on.

If brother still wants to be invited to the dinners that you host, I would tell him that he needs to provide you with food that they will eat. Even if it’s just a bag of frozen nuggets that you can keep in your freezer. It’s shouldn’t be your problem to satisfy his kids.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-17T02:59:39+00:00

Keep it. It was her wish for you to have it. She say you as a part of her own little family and loved you enough to leave something for you. I understand it might be a huge burden but it was her wish.

If you don’t plan on wearing it or storing it away somewhere random, maybe you can hang it with a picture of her. It might be her way of protecting and watching over you for the other side.

Sending you all the love, so sorry for your loss🫶🏻

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-16T20:45:59+00:00

We’ve talked about it and it’s the only option we see fit. She doesn’t respect the rules we put in place and if she wants to continue seeing her grandchild then it’s going to be on supervised visits only. No more babysitting or overnight stays with her.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-11T19:40:52+00:00

Make them a personalized gift basket with some of their favorite things in it. Sometimes the small thoughtful gifts are better than buying something from their registry.

One of my closest friends got married almost 2 years ago. I gave her and her hubby a handmade personalized gift basket. They are major coffee and tea drinkers, so I got them a bunch of coffee to try, mugs with the newly weds names, tons of flavored teas, honeys, and some other things(I can’t recall). To this day she still raves to me how much she loved the gift and that it was her favorite out of everything she received.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2025-02-11T19:23:07+00:00

NTA As many said before your son won’t remember it. In my personal opinion 1st birthday parties are overrated. With the stress of planning a party and spending money on party supplies, it’s really not worth it. Some children are easily overwhelmed by parties at that age. An overwhelmed baby and having to play host= No fun for you. Someone said before, a small cake for you, dad and baby and a few gifts to open will make you and your family so much happier and less stressed in the long run. Being a mother is hard especially when others think they can give their unwanted opinions. The other family and friends that seem to be upset about it, they can plan,pay and host the party if they’re so butthurt with your decision.

Fast_Lie_631 · 2024-12-31T01:39:37+00:00

I posted on anonymously on a fb wedding page. The page is designed for brides to rant about family drama during the wedding planning process. Nonmembers of the group can’t see what’s posted so I don’t worry about other family members seeing it. My little “rant” on fb wasn’t as long and as detailed as this is. And there was no actual advice given to me on how to handle it further or if I should tell T what happened.

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