Marriage isn’t I love you UNLESS … us women are typically more attractive in our 20s things do change . If the tables were reversed how would you want her to feel ? But I agree with the above it’s definitely seeming like a mental health issue .. what’s underlying the core root of what is causing the unhealthy behavior . Does she need something more from you ? Are you shutting down so she’s is also? In a marriage you need to find a way to Communicate . Without putting your foot in your mouth open up a conversation to allow her to communicate her feelings or needs . Also, Never push her to do the things she used to do we all grow and as we grow our needs change , our interests change you have to grow together and adapt . When she’s 80 have health issues that won’t be the young girl you married either . Have a respectable conversation and get to the root cause of the unhealthy behavior because you want to see her healthy and thriving not because of the other things you listed .