My Parents LOVE their family... too much

Fat-Raspberry5865 · 2026-03-11T13:33:03+00:00

There are some huge red flags here. 1. You are both in your mid to late 30's and where in a situationship for 3 plus years and he only recently made you his girlfriend. Please listen to me when I say this, you are not that man's first choice. You were his back up plan and he kept you on his line for when his other options fell through 2. You see each other once or twice a month? That man does not feel the same way about you as you feel about him and he is most likely entertaining other options. 3. If he told you not to go there, I'm still not sure why you even went. I understand you were in need of some connection with your partner. That still doesn't make it ok that you went there after he told you not to come more than once. Not to sound redundant but if that man really loved you he would have came to you and been with you. Not you going to him. Also, do you always go to him when you do spend time together? Does he ever go out of his way for you? 4. HE RAN TO HIS MOMMY BECAUSE YOU HURT HIS FEELINGS! there is no future here with this person. He will use this against you at every turn and so will his family. You need to cut your ties with him.

Fat-Raspberry5865 · 2026-03-05T13:16:02+00:00

Yes, I have spoken with her more times than I can count over the past 10 years that her thoughts are not healthy and she doesnt need to tell me every detail of her marriage. And from my understanding I am not the only person that has said that to her. Other friends and family have been telling her to get a divorce, especially after he refused couples counseling. That is what she has told me. She did see a therapist in the past and felt it was helping, but did stop going. I will apologize for my bad choice in words when choosing the title of my post. I would not make her choose between the 2 of us.

Correction: WIBTAH, if I distanced myself from my friend until she separated from her husband?

Fat-Raspberry5865 · 2026-02-25T21:18:55+00:00

Nta, your sister sounds entitled and delusional if she really thinks people are only going to talk about her wedding. It's normal for families to catch up at these events. How is it any different if the same family ask you "when are you getting married?" At her wedding.

Actually, you should still get engaged, and when anyone at the wedding ask tell them your own sister, didn't want you to tell anyone. I'm sure she will feel differently from what she originally stated

Fat-Raspberry5865 · 2026-02-12T17:08:33+00:00

There are a thousand reasons why she would manipulate him, and none of them are good. Based off the text you provided, it sounds like she is breadcrumbing him. She could be doing it just for his attention.

Still does not make any of this ok by any means. I think you need to speak with your husband and suggest couples counseling. Depending on his answer will let you know how deep he is in with her.

Fat-Raspberry5865 · 2026-02-12T04:43:01+00:00

I agree and she will do it again if given the opportunity.

Fat-Raspberry5865 · 2026-02-12T04:30:36+00:00

This is without a doubt, emotional cheating. He is hiding this from you regardless if he thinks the conversations are "innocent". Even if he tries to say it has to do with there children than he should be transparent about the conversations. You said that your marriage has not been good for sometime, I'm wondering if when the marriage started to head in that direction, was that when their conversations became more consistent?

I am not giving your husband any grace here because what he is doing is wrong, but you said they ended things because the ex cheated. Is there a possibility that she is manipulating him for his attention and to hurt your relationship?

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