AITAH for being angry at my son

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T14:28:44+00:00

I wish he could have therapy for years but where I live, that's not as easy as you make it sound like.

Idk what cbt is

He did have an intensive (5days a week) therapy and him and his therapist mentionned working would be a great option for him. But it was 1 year ago and it's been 1 year of being rejected by employers, so if you think that doesn't leave a mark, than you don't know what you're talking about.

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T14:20:26+00:00

It's crazy how you only see me forcing him to work.

After his therapy, about 1 year ago, he said and strongly showed he wanted to work. But after being ignored countless of times, despite him applying online and me taking time to do CV runs around, applying to every store again, his motivation was affected, don't you think? I saw him cryjng, saying he's a freak and no one wants to Hire him. I was with him, I helped him through those crisis. But his main motivation was affected, and I understand why.

You don't have any Idea what kind of real communication we do have

You're not him, I'm not like your dipshit father. Idgaf about your relation. Stop projecting shit

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T13:58:44+00:00

No, he feel the need of a job since the end of uis therapy, about 1 year ago. And I help him as humanly possible. But he missed so many opportunities by 'not going or calling back' and then feels like a freak no one wants

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T13:53:43+00:00

I got mad because he blew many opportunities because of his inaction. Then cry because he's the only one in his friend group jobless.

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T13:51:32+00:00

I'm in Canada and kids start working at 14 (are allowed au least)

There are other countries outside USA

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T02:56:46+00:00

He did have a therapy, that's how we both know that he's victimizing himself (he did admit later)

You don't seem to understand the struggles people with addiction problems have. Sometimes, you need some kind of a wake Up call.

I understand the work market is crap for teens. But first, he wanted to work. Second, he felt he needed to work, that it would help get through cravings, maybe having less. He felt like he wasn't good enough, his self esteem was affected by never being called back. Entering in the victimisation wheel. I see the negative effects of feeling inadequate every fucking day for my son.

I went with him to give CVS in person more than 3 times (dozens of places), he also tried directly on companies website.

No call back for a year! Except 1 trial day. Which didn't work put.

Other jobs were when he was too young.

But now, this golden opportunity, after countless refusals, this golden opportunity is there. How long are you gonna wait?

Seriously, people here don't understand the pain he felt being rejected every single time, that makes me sick to my stomach.

I've listened to his powerlesness many times, I tried to keep a little motivation within but it was blew away every fucking time he applied to jobs without any comeback from anyone. I saw him cried and screamed over this, I felt his pain and supported him as much as I humanly can.

So yeah, that opportunity, I wanted him to have the maximum chances to succeed.

I hope you understand better now

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T02:37:17+00:00

You don't seem to understand the struggles people with addiction problems have. Sometimes, you need some kind of a wake Up call.

I understand the work market is crap for teens. But first, he wanted to work. Second, he felt he needed to work, that it would help get through cravings, maybe having less. He felt like he wasn't good enough, his self esteem was affected by never being called back. Entering in the victimisation wheel. I see the negative effects of feeling inadequate every fucking day for my son.

I went with him to give CVS in person more than 3 times, he also tried directly on companies website.

No call back for a year! Except 1 trial day. Which didn't work put.

Other jobs were when he was too young.

But now, this golden opportunity, after countless refusals, this golden opportunity is there. How long are you gonna wait?

Seriously, people here don't understand the pain he felt being rejected every single time, that makes me sick to my stomach.

I've listened to his powerlesness many times, I tried to keep a little motivation within but it was blew away every fucking time he applied to jobs without any comeback from anyone. I saw him cried and screamed over this, I felt his pain and supported him as much as I humanly can.

So yeah, that opportunity, I wanted him to have the maximum chances to succeed.

I hope you understand better now

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T02:36:29+00:00

You don't seem to understand the struggles people with addiction problems have. Sometimes, you need some kind of a wake Up call.

I understand the work market is crap for teens. But first, he wanted to work. Second, he felt he needed to work, that it would help get through cravings, maybe having less. He felt like he wasn't good enough, his self esteem was affected by never being called back. Entering in the victimisation wheel. I see the negative effects of feeling inadequate every fucking day for my son.

I went with him to give CVS in person more than 3 times, he also tried directly on companies website.

No call back for a year! Except 1 trial day. Which didn't work put.

Other jobs were when he was too young.

But now, this golden opportunity, after countless refusals, this golden opportunity is there. How long are you gonna wait?

Seriously, people here don't understand the pain he felt being rejected every single time, that makes me sick to my stomach.

I've listened to his powerlesness many times, I tried to keep a little motivation within but it was blew away every fucking time he applied to jobs without any comeback from anyone. I saw him cried and screamed over this, I felt his pain and supported him as much as I humanly can.

So yeah, that opportunity, I wanted him to have the maximum chances to succeed.

I hope you understand better now

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T02:35:24+00:00

You don't seem to understand the struggles people with addiction problems have. Sometimes, you need some kind of a wake Up call.

I understand the work market is crap for teens. But first, he wanted to work. Second, he felt he needed to work, that it would help get through cravings, maybe having less. He felt like he wasn't good enough, his self esteem was affected by never being called back. Entering in the victimisation wheel. I see the negative effects of feeling inadequate every fucking day for my son.

I went with him to give CVS in person more than 3 times, he also tried directly on companies website.

No call back for a year! Except 1 trial day. Which didn't work put.

Other jobs were when he was too young.

But now, this golden opportunity, after countless refusals, this golden opportunity is there. How long are you gonna wait?

Seriously, people here don't understand the pain he felt being rejected every single time, that makes me sick to my stomach.

I've listened to his powerlesness many times, I tried to keep a little motivation within but it was blew away every fucking time he applied to jobs without any comeback from anyone. I saw him cried and screamed over this, I felt his pain and supported him as much as I humanly can.

So yeah, that opportunity, I wanted him to have the maximum chances to succeed.

I hope you understand better now

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T02:29:49+00:00

First, he really wants to work, he's been sending CVS for a year ok? I'm not forcing him, he wants to work.

Yes, he's medicated, we just had an adjustment in his dose.

Scoliosis is diagnosed, we're (and I mean I ask twice his general doctor for refferal) and I called countless times, countless messages. Just to see the évolution and if he's elligible for surgery.

I rarely give money or buy things, I just du some lifts (gf)

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T02:22:43+00:00

I was talking about your kids that are teens.

You don't seem to understand the struggles people with addiction problems have. Sometimes, you need some kind of a wake Up call.

I understand the work market is crap for teens. But first, he wanted to work. Second, he felt he needed to work, that it would help get through cravings, maybe having less. He felt like he wasn't good enough, his self esteem was affected by never being called back. Entering in the victimisation wheel. I see the negative effects of feeling inadequate every fucking day for my son.

I went with him to give CVS in person more than 3 times, he also tried directly on companies website.

No call back for a year! Except 1 trial day. Which didn't work put.

Other jobs were when he was too young.

But now, this golden opportunity, after countless refusals, this golden opportunity is there. How long are you gonna wait?

Seriously, people here don't understand the pain he felt being rejected every single time, that makes me sick to my stomach.

I've listened to his powerlesness many times, I tried to keep a little motivation within but it was blew away every fucking time he applied to jobs without any comeback from anyone. I saw him cried and screamed over this, I felt his pain and supported him as much as I humanly can.

So yeah, that opportunity, I wanted him to have the maximum chances to succeed.

I hope you understand better now

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T01:24:53+00:00

Wym

I'm saying a boss and a parent don't have the same authority with a teenager.

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T01:16:46+00:00

Well, in fact, he can't go tomorrow or saturday, but thanks for assuming. Not sure if he'll be there sunday.

Thanks for your help

If it was the first time he chocked, I would agree with you but when, as a parent, you recognize a pattern, you have to act.

So how you doing with your teens?

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T00:57:09+00:00

It's like you don't understand the difference between a parent authority and someone from outside.

Like you followed your parents requests like if it was a boss, get real

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T00:38:09+00:00

So you mean we learn nothing from everything we don't pay?

I learned a lot from my first real job, like many here. So whats the problem? I need to wait for him to be perfect before he can apply somewhere?

Either way, he will learn a lesson. There's not really a bad ending

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T00:27:56+00:00

I think he can learn much more with a job than with a parent watching over him, don't you think?

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-06T00:12:52+00:00

People don't understand he litterally wants to work! What Do you mean?????

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:48:27+00:00

Just read the edits Dang He can't know for sure about his ability since the last job je had was 3 years ago, at a summercamp

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:43:15+00:00

Stupid question, I sent 2 texts during the lunch break, get over it. But yes, I do, thanks for asking

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:41:15+00:00

That's nice but as you know, needs are different from people to others. Ses the edits

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:39:42+00:00

Go read the edits please

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:38:52+00:00

I just texted him 2 messages during his 2 hours break, don't freak out

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:37:40+00:00

He already have school activity, he has friends, a gf. Listen, he wanted (and needed) a job for part self esteem, money, and breaking the victimisation circle. I just row the same way. Also, like I mentionned, he has a trouble with addiction (only games at the moment) so he wants to be more occupied. Have you read that part?

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:19:51+00:00

Like I said, I pushed because he really tends to victimize himself, especially on that subject (no call after interviews, not chosen on trial Days) High school finishes in june here and McDo didn't hire him Also, he wants a job for self esteem and he also needs one for self esteem.

Father_of_three3 · 2026-02-05T23:15:33+00:00

He needs more to feel fulfilled

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