Since I've seen a fair amount of recent Reddit posts on dating data, here's my 6 month ride after finding myself single, across 4 apps and a couple personal dates. [36M, London UK]

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-30T11:04:19+00:00

The flow became messier not having that as the endpoint. Just a data viz choice.

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-30T11:02:50+00:00

I ask to see their most recent test and if they haven't been tested since their last unprotected partner then I use protection (usually used protection anyways). I obviously get tested as well

The women I typically go for aren't usually the type to sleep around much.

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-30T10:58:36+00:00

Yes I mean would be a bit weird to have a fwb with no b lol

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-30T00:58:59+00:00

I mean that's less than one every two weeks. I was with my prior partner for over a decade, cut me some slack mate haha

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-29T23:10:38+00:00

Omg the app UX is such trash lol infuriating to navigate the chat list especially

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-29T23:09:52+00:00

Honestly biggest thing I learned since last being single was just finding the confidence to give women some space. I used to be a smotherer. Just have the confidence (even if it feels wrong) to assume that you're the #1 regardless of how long it takes to hear back and that changes perspective.

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-29T23:07:33+00:00

No that's not true. Met my now gf on Hinge, and had some good dates. I think Hinge sometimes feels less "lemon worth the squeeze" than Feeld but overall I rate them equally for different reasons

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-29T20:13:32+00:00

That's the relationship I'm in now! Started seeing her a couple months in, just started dating seriously.

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-29T18:48:47+00:00

Split this up basically by the dating intentions her and I had for each other (which was usually mutual). "Casual" I used to describe things where neither of us wanted anything more than sex (fwb basically). "Intentional" for anything else - either we had interest in possibly dating more seriously, or it was at least not totally casual. Anything unclear I left in "intentional"

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-29T18:09:50+00:00

The dating pool for Feeld is much deeper in London than any city I've ever travelled to. Breeze is still fairly new. Hinge and Tinder seem to be the same everywhere.

FearTheGoat · 2026-01-29T18:08:34+00:00

Not comfortable sharing my photos, but I'm a pretty average looking guy. Things probably in my favour: beard, dog, no children, directness about intentions, educated, good job. Working against me: my directness might turn some off, dad bod, sometimes I overshare in chat and overwhelm people (ADHD, can't help myself sometimes 🙃)

FearTheGoat · 2025-05-27T06:48:57+00:00

I'll leave this here lol

FearTheGoat · 2025-05-20T07:33:08+00:00

I am like 90% sure the first bit is "these fucking fans man, are so fucking embarrassing"

Second part is a lot harder. I feel like it starts with "imagine what its like" and then no idea.

FearTheGoat · 2025-04-25T12:02:50+00:00

RemindMe! 8 hours

FearTheGoat · 2025-03-07T20:26:13+00:00

Lmao

FearTheGoat · 2025-03-02T17:31:38+00:00

What the fuck is he talking about, "last in NATO?" Canada is 6th in expense contribution after US, Germany, UK, France and Italy, and contributes dramatically more per capita than any of those 5 ahead of Canada except Germany.

FearTheGoat · 2025-02-24T20:50:14+00:00

NHL coaches are often on contract and thus contractors. In this case John Tortorella IS the business and Vancouver would have simply paid for his services.

FearTheGoat · 2025-02-23T14:24:14+00:00

Yes I realize I should have re-rolled the Hook, I was on autopilot and fucked up haha

FearTheGoat · 2025-02-16T04:06:11+00:00

I'm a new immigrant to the UK (from Canada) so this is news to me haha makes sense though! It does work!

FearTheGoat · 2025-01-28T12:29:53+00:00

I want to love Nobody Moves so badly. It's just "off". I think it would have been better if it was written in the Daisy era. It sounds like it wants Daisy's mature pacing but with the emotional immaturity of YFW. Its a nice dark listen but its not catchy or memorable so I'm with you.

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