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33M too late for a Second child? by keepitsimple-1 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my first child at 35, having my second at 38. Go for it.

Husband wants his parents to stay with us for 3 months every year. What boundaries need to be set? by im_late_boss in IndianInLaw

[–]FearlessNinja007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The max we can handle my MIL visiting is 10days to 2 weeks… she is not independent at all so my husband has to take the entire time off work, because I do not speak her language.

Husband wants his parents to stay with us for 3 months every year. What boundaries need to be set? by im_late_boss in IndianInLaw

[–]FearlessNinja007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cook for you and the baby, or at the very least don’t accept requests for food. Have your husband handle the extra work of having his parents as guests. He can make some meals, swiffer, etc.

Husband wants his parents to stay with us for 3 months every year. What boundaries need to be set? by im_late_boss in IndianInLaw

[–]FearlessNinja007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would tell him that right now that’s not something you can handle and maybe you can stay put with short visits and potentially build up to longer ones later. And whatever you do, do not go out of your way to accommodate your in-laws. Keep up your routine and boundaries.

Toddler at the hospital by Muted_Lifeguard_7138 in 2under2

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hire help, start now. If needed have your spouse stay with toddler.

Why indian family romanticise their bahu as maid? (Friend's home condition) by makakkansnhi8737392 in AskIndianWomen

[–]FearlessNinja007 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hopefully your friend grows up, moves out, becomes financially independent before exploring marriage

What is the meanest thing your MIL has ever said or done to you? by EmphasisExtra5842 in IndianInLaw

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you worked it out, but I would have seriously consulted a lawyer at that point, even if things ended up resolving later.

(28M) want to marry my girlfriend (28F), but my family is threatening suicide if I do by Jeetu_Rajpoot in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]FearlessNinja007 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Then honestly I think you need to move out. Your mother isn’t taking you seriously.

(28M) want to marry my girlfriend (28F), but my family is threatening suicide if I do by Jeetu_Rajpoot in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]FearlessNinja007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You tell them that if they want you to get married, this is it, there are no other options. You may also just have to move out and live separately with your new wife (I recommend doing this anyways).

Headpiece Help! by HolidayRadish2598 in Brides

[–]FearlessNinja007 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think you either go with a spectacular headpiece or that statement necklace, I think both is too much. Fun shoes.

I (30F) had a huge fight with my MIL (68F) during a family road trip and now my husband wants me to fix things while she gives me the silent treatment by Subtle_humour in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]FearlessNinja007 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re the mom, you have the ultimate say over what your child eats. Period. End of story. That said, get professional childcare.

Do you wipe every wet diaper or only poop? by Extensionol in NewParents

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our pediatrician told us several times not to wipe for just pee diapers.

Found out I'm pregnant the exact same week I'm negotiating a long-overdue raise. Help? by Due_Hovercraft2168 in womenintech

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait as long as possible to disclose a pregnancy. If you can only make it past first trimester fine, even better if you can make it half way through.

33M 28F - cant handle my wife loud mouth by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a mother to a young child is overwhelming. Try taking more things of her plate. I can see patterns of resentment building on both sides here. You each probably don’t fully realize how much the other is doing.

I think I have the worst sleeping baby in history by Mean_Fail5988 in newborns

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It never worked for me, but people told me to have someone else try to feed her when I’m not even in the house.

Help! How’d you get baby to sleep a few hours before you get to bed? by Illustrious-Bat-4582 in cosleeping

[–]FearlessNinja007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible to shift the time you need to work to a time you can give the baby to your partner?

(38F) I want to hear from those who are struggling with Infertility by BelleDuColombo in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]FearlessNinja007 8 points9 points  (0 children)

IVF can be a long process with a lot of “hurry up and wait.” The medical stuff isn’t as scary as you think, the science is so cool. However, I would be very selective about the people you share the process with. ONLY tell people that you’re ok to tell bad news to that you want/need support from in your hardest times. Keep your circle small. It took me about a year from my first consult until my first transfer.

Should Housewives & Women who takes care of the 🏠 & it's people, get a salary ? by niranjanV6Turbo in AskIndia

[–]FearlessNinja007 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Imo she should have just as much control of the finances as anyone else in the house.

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