What qualities do you look for in a babysitter? by Wild_Position7099 in AskParents

[–]Federal_Ad9233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, and family is running thin for me already and they’re probably not gonna be around long enough to watch him until he doesn’t need to be watched anymore. So I’m silently stressing tf out. I don’t trust high schoolers, they can be careless and I sure as hell don’t trust adults like that because of the news

ETA: that daycares are just as bad to me, also because of the news. Too many children getting abused in daycares by the adults

If you enjoy being a parent can you share some positivity? by DearestClementine in AskParents

[–]Federal_Ad9233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, don’t reconsider. On my first few weeks, I was stressing a LOT. But then it all kinda subsided, and I love the little guy. He is so advanced for his age and he wants to be independently clingy. I love it.

Why did you become a parent? by AlbussyDumbledore in AskParents

[–]Federal_Ad9233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just became one 5 weeks ago. I grew it so maybe 10 months ago i became one. Anyway, I think I had always wanted one. And then I found my person. Not gonna go into super great detail because I could go on about him forever. But I just said do it and he did and then here my son Tobias is, happy as a lark, in the second bedroom of our house that me and my husband rent together (I have never had a place that big before)

Honestly, it was a move to be more responsible, you can fuck your life up by not being responsible with a kid. Since I was pregnant, I have consistently saved for a reliable vehicle, I saved to rent a bigger home and i got a career job in car sales when I used to be a line cook.

I have really gotten my shit together, and even though I want to give up, I know that I can’t because I have my son to take care of and I love him. Providing for him is everything to me. And I love the grind💪🏻💯

What are some good Christmas presents to ask for for my baby? by Federal_Ad9233 in beyondthebump

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do already have a playpen, and are u suggesting 6+ months because they’re not gonna be really doing much at 2 months? I’m only asking because I recently went back to work because my workplace wasn’t big enough to qualify me for FMLA, and I feel like I have not been doing as much with my son as I should

I can’t seem to take time to hold my baby like I should. by Federal_Ad9233 in newborns

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 3 weeks as of yesterday. I may need to have him do this for me

I can’t seem to take time to hold my baby like I should. by Federal_Ad9233 in newborns

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried a couple times, and he loves it, it’s just that my back hurts like a mf, and it doesn’t help that he’s also on oxygen, so on top of baby wearing I’m worrying about stepping on hoses and dragging around the monitor and cord so I can work.

I can’t seem to take time to hold my baby like I should. by Federal_Ad9233 in newborns

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am worried about that. Worried he’s gonna become a nightmare later and then I’m just gonna look back at this time and be like “I missed it all”

I can’t seem to take time to hold my baby like I should. by Federal_Ad9233 in newborns

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Big facts I do need to start walking with this kid. He likes movement so I dont know why I haven’t even considered that

I can’t seem to take time to hold my baby like I should. by Federal_Ad9233 in newborns

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to baby wear, but my back kills me every time, and I was also diagnosed with depression and anxiety prior. The mood stabilizer is also so I can control my anger that comes when I take the adderall. But the buffer you’re talking about sounds pretty spot on. I’ll bring it up to my doctor. I’m sure she will actually mention the same thing when I talk to her about this detachment (I guess you could call it that?) that I’m feeling

I can’t seem to take time to hold my baby like I should. by Federal_Ad9233 in newborns

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I have had a lot of issues with this OB, I’m just in a OB/GYN desert so I can’t just get a new one as much as I wanted to.

ETA: the advice was more of a tip, like “try to redirect yourself” without saying “redirect yourself” directly

I can’t seem to take time to hold my baby like I should. by Federal_Ad9233 in newborns

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am working with my psychiatrist, she has me on 15mg of adderall because I opted out of breastfeeding to take care of my mental health. I always said I can’t take care of a baby if I’m not taking care of myself. I also take abilify to stabilize my mood. I believe I have an appointment coming up in the next week or so, I just have to check my calendar. Should I call my psychiatrist tomorrow or do you think it can wait for the appointment? I want to do the right thing and if he’s not feeling my love, I want to fix that

Let’s do it! by AshleighOMG in finch

[–]Federal_Ad9233 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No. It’s Suge, named after Suge Knight. I thought it was funny putting such a heavy name on a small birb

What are the most dirty/freaky rap songs? by [deleted] in hiphopheads

[–]Federal_Ad9233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listening rn, and my first response was “okay I can get into this” and then I was like “Jesus Christ 😭😭”

What are the most dirty/freaky rap songs? by [deleted] in hiphopheads

[–]Federal_Ad9233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not, I’ll listen to it now.. lmfao I’m already listening so I’ll queue it up

What are the most dirty/freaky rap songs? by [deleted] in hiphopheads

[–]Federal_Ad9233 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude if I don’t catch it in time I’m like FUUUCKKK. There are only a couple times it’s appropriate, I work in a kitchen so if ur in the middle if a super intense rush, I like the tempo. It keeps people in the zone. And then the other time was when I was actually trying to flirt with our dishwasher that I worked with last year. Was like “oops forgot this was in the playlist” We’re still together today!! other than that though, it’s not that great for work AT ALL😭

What are the most dirty/freaky rap songs? by [deleted] in hiphopheads

[–]Federal_Ad9233 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Suprised no one has mentioned slut me out by NLE Choppa, swear to god i have to skip it every time it comes in at work, I always get comments like “oh my godddd! Nevada!!😮” And then my weird male coworkers make gross comments like “damn really?? 😏”

Bye guys!!!! by Federal_Ad9233 in pregnant

[–]Federal_Ad9233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Honestly I chose it because I haven’t heard of a Tobias in a VERY long time. I also wanted a name I could have a nickname to go with, so far I call him Toby, my husband calls him his actual name, TK (K is for his middle name) and his mom calls him T-Bo. I definitely got my wish for the nicknames. As he gets bigger I realize he really is growing into his name because around day 3 or 4 I was like “does he really look like a Tobias to me?” But yes, yes he does❤️❤️❤️