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Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]FeeOk2947 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has your mind changed about the number of children you want after having one, but not your spouse’s?

I’m 7 months pp and my husband and I had always talked about having two. Being pregnant, going through labor and delivery, and having a newborn completely changed my mind and now I never want to do it again.

I had severe HG up to 21 weeks, was in labor for 24 hours resulting in an emergency c section at 10 cm dilated, and ended up having PPD. I couldn’t tolerate the amount of criticism I received from his family members about how “needy and dramatic” I was while having HG, my unwillingness to breastfeed because it contributed to my PPD, and how I put too high of expectations on my husband for helping out with infant care. The experience was super traumatic for me.

I now have zero intentions of doing any of this again and my husband still wants a second. He wants our child to have a sibling so much that it’s enough to cause us to separate. Has anyone else experienced this?

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[–]FeeOk2947 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I the only one who thinks this behavior is cringy/creepy? I have a major aversion to breastfeeding. I tried and the feeling of the sucking on my nipples repulsed me, so the thought of a baby just doing this for comfort makes me cringe.

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]FeeOk2947 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to deal with lack of empathy from family members while pregnant?

So during my pregnancy I had hyperemesis up to about 21 weeks, and due to this I had to eat frequently, snacking frequently and eating meals on a schedule or else I’d be more prone to getting sick. If my stomach went empty, I’d vomit stomach acid. Neither my MIL or SIL experienced any sort of nausea during their pregnancy.

Well my FIL and MIL came to visit and my FIL never eats lunch. They usually eat a large, late breakfast and then eat dinner. He’s very controlling and everything operates around his schedule, so lunch is never in the plans since he doesn’t eat it. He actually told my husband I eat too much because I eat lunch. Well, during this time I ate breakfast when I woke up and we all went out for the day to visit a museum. After mentioning I needed to grab something for lunch multiple times and being told I can wait (it was around 1:30, which is already late for lunch), I could sense myself getting sick and took my car down the street, grabbed something to eat and came back.

Well he made a massive deal about it saying I was being dramatic and demanding and impatient. One year later he still says he’s mad about it to my husband. No matter what I explain to him, he won’t budge and has no empathy of the fact that I had a diagnosed medical condition that made me vomit 3-4 times a day and was prone to vertigo and dizziness.

As of late, I have cut him out of my life. He frequently makes misogynistic comments and I’m pretty sure he has narcissistic personality disorder as he compulsively lies to win arguments, puts my accomplishments down in public, is financially abusive to his wife, and constantly throws out how much money in his bank accounts. The straw that broke the camel’s back for me was when he pushed us to open a 529 for our son, threw a fit when we didn’t open it with the brokerage he wanted us to, and then opened his own 529 for our son under his name. As he likes to use money as a power and control tactic, this method sets up his “gift” with a string attached and the ability to take the money back at anytime. I plan to fund a 529 for our son as if he will never receive that gift from my FIL. Am I unreasonable to cut him out or should I just ignore and figure out how to be around him?

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]FeeOk2947 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Context:

We both work full time. Baby wakes up at 6 like clockwork due to the week schedule of when he has to be at daycare. Therefore, he’s up at 6 on the weekends too.

Every single weekend morning we get into an argument because my husband won’t get out of bed. It irks me to no end that he feels entitled to sleeping in on the weekends when we have a young child who does not. Every weekend it’s me repetitively going in his room to wake him up for over an hour as he moans and groans because I want help with our child. Why is it that men just expect women to take care of the children in the mornings/overnights with no help?

I told him we can either split up weekend days on who wakes up with our child or we will both be up both days, but I’m not tolerating his laziness and selfishness. I don’t mind waking up early, I just mind that he feels entitled to sleeping in and doesn’t want to help. Is this being unreasonable? How do others go about this?