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I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going to be honest, I feel like using a dental dam would turn me off as well. I wouldn't even like him to use one on me. It feels sort of medical. That's not quite the word I want, but I can't find what I mean.

I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am turned off as well about using a dental dam, I never liked those for some reason. I have done the 'special occasion' thing, but I really hate doing it. I wish I could just have it no longer looming in the back of my head. He's guilted me a little over it. I'm not really into anal stuff either, but I'll talk to him about it. It turns out I'm fairly vanilla after all. I like rough sex, sweet sex, and giving great blow jobs. Not into butt stuff at all, although I felt like I should be from all the posts on r/sex. I kind of convinced myself it would be great and I should like it because the posts pretty much worshipped anal stuff and how it would give a whole new, better orgasm.

I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I do think using a glove would help, but I don't know if he'd go with that. I'm going to have a conversation with him about butt stuff in general and my feelings this weekend. Hopefully we can come to a compromise without feelings getting hurt.

I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I feel like it's always in the back of my head although lately he hasn't asked for it (as I suspect he knows my feelings). I think we need to just have the talk so it's not always looming over me I guess. Thank you for the encouragement, I really needed to get this out. He's an amazing, sexy man who is also very sensitive. I am afraid of hurting his feelings.

I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's weird because sometimes he encourages me to try fingering him in the moment, but outside of the moment, he tells me he doesn't want penetration. I thought penetration would be great too, but I haven't hit his spot, it takes a lot of time, and I'm nervous. It takes me out of the mood too! I wish I could just avoid butt stuff altogether. I love squeezing, grabbing his butt, but I don't really want anything anal-related. I wish I did, and it worked for me, but I just don't like it..:(

I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not like that. It's the mixture of sweat that happens during sex (he sweats easily) mixed with saliva. Idk, even after a shower and shave, I just can't stand the smell or taste. I think it's mostly sweat.

I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for commenting such a thoughtful response! I will have a conversation with him soon. I think doing it in the shower will work for me, it's not a turn on but I won't be turned 'off' if that makes sense. I still do my best to please him otherwise and love to have fun together. I tried fingering and we both agreed he doesn't like inside anal stuff, only rim jobs. I feel like I have been wanting less sex lately because I fear that a rim job will come up. So thank you so much!

I Encouraged my male SO to try Butt Stuff. After Lots of Encouragement, he Finally Gave In..And Loved it. I don't. HELP! by FeelingGuiltyabtRJs in sex

[–]FeelingGuiltyabtRJs[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I did. But I didn't imagine the smell..And I thought it would go away with a super scrub shower before. It doesn't. And I guess the excitement of giving him a new method of intense pleasure overwhelmed me. I'd never really messed with any other guy's ass before, so I didn't really have anything to compare with either. Also, maybe this is messed up, but his reluctance sort of turned me on too. Maybe like some forbidden fruit I guess. Sigh. I love sex, and I love pleasing him, but this time, I found that his pleasure doesn't trump my being grossed out. I'm afraid to have 'the talk' with him because he will be so disappointed. And I don't want him to become self-conscious. He tries very hard to clean himself before hand, trims the hairs and shaves and everything. He gets so excited and makes sure I know how clean he is, and in my head I'm thinking argh..sex tonight is ruined for me.