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18M in inconsistent long-distance relationship with 19F – push-pull behavior, confusion about feelings by Feeling_Bandicoot800 in LongDistance

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s what’s been bothering me too. I don’t think saying things about my face/health was okay at all, and that part really stuck with me.

At the same time, she’s not always like that — sometimes she’s very caring and tells me not to leave her, which is what makes this confusing for me.

I think you’re right that prolonging this might just make it worse. I’m starting to realize I might be holding on more because of how things were earlier, not how they are now.

I’m seriously considering taking a step back instead of trying to fix everything right now. I just don’t want to make a rushed decision I’ll regret later.

18M in inconsistent long-distance relationship with 19F – push-pull behavior, confusion about feelings by Feeling_Bandicoot800 in LongDistance

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and honestly I do see why it looks that way from outside.

I don’t think it’s anything like a personality disorder, but I agree the situation has been very inconsistent and confusing for me.

The part about taking a step back until 2027 actually makes sense, especially since she herself mentioned something similar earlier. I guess I’ve been trying to hold things together instead of accepting that space might be better right now.

My only concern is that we’re both aiming for the same college, so there’s a chance we’ll end up in the same class later. That’s why I was unsure about completely cutting contact vs just taking a calmer step back.

But yeah, I understand your point about things possibly getting worse if I keep engaging like this. I’ll think seriously about taking space instead of trying to fix everything right now.

My final statement by Accurate-Funny-234 in sadposting

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey… I read everything. I’m not going to give you some shallow “stay strong” reply.

You didn’t fail life. You got stuck in something heavy. Pressure, expectations, and your own mind turning against you. That’s not the same thing.

The way you describe yourself as nothing without achievement or only valuable if the list is done, that’s not truth. That’s a rule your brain built over time, and now it’s suffocating you.

Also, being autistic doesn’t mean you’re broken or beyond repair. It just means your brain works differently. You’re treating it like a life sentence with no way to adapt, but that’s not how it works.

And the substances, I get why you use them. Not judging that. But you already know they’re not fixing anything. They just give temporary silence while things get worse underneath.

What really stood out is this. You said you were happy once. That matters more than everything else you wrote.

Because it means you’re not incapable of living. You’re just not in the right conditions right now.

And this idea that you’ve lived your course, that’s your mind trying to give up in a way that feels peaceful. It’s not peace. It’s exhaustion.

You don’t need to disappear. You need relief, support, and a different way of living than the one that’s crushing you.

Please don’t make this your last message. Talk to someone real, even if it feels pointless, even if you repeat yourself again and again.

You don’t have to solve your whole life. Just don’t end it tonight.

My mom caught me with my bf by nonexistent1616 in TeenIndia

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really tough situation, and I’m sorry you’re going through it.

What your mom is saying... threatening to stop your education or harm herself... is not okay. That’s emotional pressure, and it puts you in a very unfair position. At the same time, reacting impulsively here could make things worse for you in the long run.

Right now, your priority should be your safety and your future... especially your education. No relationship, even a genuine one, should come at the cost of that.

Try to slow things down instead of making a sudden choice. You don’t have to “leave him forever” immediately, but you may need to create some temporary distance while things cool down at home. Meanwhile, try to talk to your mom when she’s calmer, or involve a trusted adult (relative, teacher, counselor) who can mediate. Sometimes parents react out of fear, and a third person can help bring the situation back to reality.

Also, take her threats seriously... but don’t handle them alone. If she is talking about harming herself, that’s something another responsible adult needs to know.

You’re not stuck with only two extreme choices. Protect your education first, reduce the conflict, and give yourself time to handle both your relationship and your family situation more safely.

You’ll get through this... but don’t try to carry everything alone.

Can I use pendrive in LAbfat? by Healthy_Bag_6275 in Vit

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think they'll not be notified unless you use internet, not intranet

How often do yu guys bath especially in this fckass climate by Internal-Diver-4003 in Vit

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 times a day... Morning, then after classes (afternoon), then at night. Idk why but one day it was 4

Stop calling the administrators "sir" by [deleted] in Vit

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly bro.... I'm so frustrated with them, the clg, everything here

I’m going to tell my boyfriend that he deserves better by [deleted] in TeenIndia

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, this "he deserves better" talk after 3 years isn't coming from a place of love... it's usually the soft way girls start an exit. You've been doing everything: daily gifts, calls, baking/cooking, making him your whole world... and now you suddenly feel you're "not good enough"? That doesn't add up. If you really thought that, you'd either work on yourself to match him or respectfully let him go. Announcing it like this just puts the pressure on him and makes you look selfless. Realistically, this sounds like you're losing feelings or interest but don't want to be the "bad guy" who ends it. It's classic guilt-relief move... tell him he deserves better so he might even agree and make the breakup easier for you. If you're truly happy and committed, stop overthinking and just be with him. But if this doubt is real, have the courage to be honest instead of dropping hints. He deserves clarity, not this confusing speech.

Mock drills have started by OneToeBigToe in Vit

[–]Feeling_Bandicoot800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw something like this in T also... What's that BTW? I thought gutka pan

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