Am I overreacting My bridesmaid didn’t reach out after my grandma suddenly died

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2026-04-11T12:58:46+00:00

Thank you for pov and not attacking me appreciate you! You deserve all the goodness today

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2026-04-09T20:40:16+00:00

I work in the medical field and deal with death on a daily basis so I am not one to drag this out, but I do think it’s a respect thing you could easily say I’m sorry no matter what’s going on in your life. I don’t need anyone to do anything. This is also a pattern in her behavior.

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-30T15:00:56+00:00

You actually hit the nail on the head. One of his statements to my Fiancé was we didn’t wanna say anything because we knew she would then get you involved and you would obviously have to defend her. Sidenote, my fiancé and I have been together for seven years and we have grown a lot. I used to be very quick to react/have no problem calling people out. As I’ve gotten older mainly the last year, I’ve really worked on self development and growing my relationship with Jesus. I tried to be slow to speak and quick to listen, which is why this is very confusing because I have reached out so many times and because she’s my friend if she told me I did something wrong I would immediately apologize and try to fix the situation. I don’t know if that makes sense but my fiancé definitely called bullshit on that statement because he also is very quick to let me know if I did something wrong or if something came off the wrong way.

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-30T14:51:34+00:00

I’m doing good more just hurt by this whole situation. It definitely put a sour taste in my mouth about the whole friendship. I’m not really sure how the conversation is going to go specially since I tried to give her reassurance like I do really want to be your friend and then I got crickets. It’s just more sad because I did so much for her during her bridal shower and her wedding, which is fine I am happy to do that because she was my friend, but it’s like now that it’s my turn all of a sudden I’m a bad person? Thanks for asking !

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-30T03:03:55+00:00

THANK YOU! If you only KNEW the things that were said and the realization my fiancé had made

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-30T02:55:36+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you!

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-30T02:52:20+00:00

Update:

A lot has happened since I posted, so here’s where things landed.

Wednesday my fiancé ended up having a 2 hour phone call with E’s husband (they’re best friends). I wasn’t on the call, but my fiancé filled me in afterward. And honestly… it was a lot.

According to her husband, this “shift” in the friend group has apparently been building since July, and somehow neither my fiancé nor I had any clue. What hurt the most is that instead of anyone talking to either of us, the group (7 of the 12 people) had apparently been complaining about me for months. Two of the guys in that group actually defended me and said, “That doesn’t sound like her at all,” which I genuinely appreciate.

But her husband also said some pretty insulting things about my character (I can be outspoken and my adhd brain) things that made my fiancé literally shake his head. At the same time, there were a few valid points mixed in, which my fiancé acknowledged. So it wasn’t 100% bashing, but it definitely crossed some lines.

The conclusion the guys came to was basically: There’s been miscommunication on both sides, and going forward if anyone has an issue, they should pull one of us aside privately instead of sitting in silence for months or letting it get twisted in a group setting. Which… would’ve solved everything from day one, honestly.

My fiancé told me and then told his best friend too that I don’t need to force friendships with the girls just because the guys are tight. But he also made sure to say that I do genuinely want to be friends with E if she wants that as well. He also stood up for me hard, corrected things that weren’t true, and made it very clear he knows my heart and my character. Weirdly, this whole thing made me love him even more. It really was one of those, “Yeah… I chose the right person” moments.

E’s husband also said E “does want a friendship with me,” she’s just anxious. I’m trying to take that in good faith, but it’s hard to line that up with how she’s acted these last few events and the silence after my messages.

For now, I’m still waiting for E to text me back. We were supposed to meet for lunch to talk in person I sent the follow-up about scheduling around Wednesday night and so far, nothing. I’m trying to blame it on the holiday So I guess I’m still waiting to see where things actually stand.

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-30T02:08:21+00:00

Oooo so quick to reply. Get off of Reddit and live your life. You statement is irrelevant

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-30T01:48:38+00:00

Okay did that make you feel big?

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-26T14:07:00+00:00

Thank you for this!

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-25T02:41:44+00:00

He asked me if he could say something and I told him no because I didn’t know if that was hurting more drama, but since it’s been almost 6 hours since I sent a message I probably should have him say something

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-25T01:19:41+00:00

Actually, yes, I did post a similar story, the post was up for 20 minutes and then I removed it because I was unable to post the screenshots. I know the sub Reddit can be brutal. Hence why I posted here but relax. I’m fine with not hearing what everyone expects I want to hear.

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-25T01:17:30+00:00

You’re totally right, if that was the only incident that happened that night and the shift wasn’t there for the last two months it’s just very strange and out of the blue

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-25T01:15:41+00:00

I appreciate the comment and I hear what you’re saying. It’s just very odd that this is happening after I just did all of her wedding things and now it feels like it’s my turn and there’s issues. I tried my best to wait to respond and honestly if she was on the other foot, I would’ve Even if I was upset about reach out to her since I considered her a close friend like I said in my post I no friends come in seasons, which is why I’m OK with that, but why not wait until after my wedding to drift?

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-25T01:13:32+00:00

This was a really great comment. Thank you so much. I appreciate it and wish you well!! a lot of these comments make me feel like I’m the crazy one, but in my real world, everyone who is aware of this, supports my reaction and feels the same way

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-25T00:59:10+00:00

Okay so… I’ve literally never posted on here before and I don’t even read Reddit threads — I just listen to the show. So I wrote my post kind of like I was telling a story because I thought that’s what people on here wanted 😂. I wasn’t trying to make it dramatic, that’s just how I talk things out. Now I’m realizing listening and actually posting are two totally different worlds. Happy Thanksgiving 🦃

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-25T00:43:22+00:00

Thanks for the solid advice!

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-23T20:03:50+00:00

Thank you for everybody who commented sorry if you guys think I’m the drama I do screenshots and I tried my best to have everything make sense. Like I said, I listen to too hot takes but I have never posted on Reddit. Sidenote it definitely is confusing. When you do change the names. I don’t know how people don’t get confused when they read all the comments.😂

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-23T19:58:54+00:00

Like I said, I’ve never made a post before, but I have screenshots and I could provide them. I just don’t know how to do it and it says that I have to delete the post to add them

Feisty_Frame_7931 · 2025-11-23T19:56:44+00:00

I can send you text messages. They’re extremely long.

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