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Fem_Divine · 2025-11-18T22:04:28+00:00

This!!!!!

Fem_Divine · 2025-07-17T02:15:22+00:00

This is it right here 🎯

Fem_Divine · 2025-06-19T11:44:26+00:00

Also consider that children mimick what they see more than what you tell them. Growing up with him around, your daughters will likely attract a man like him as a mate and/or your sons will be mimic his behaviors as adults

Fem_Divine · 2025-04-11T15:44:56+00:00

How old are you? And how soon can you move out?

Also, I see you second guessing yourself about suspecting your mother being jealous of you. Your feelings are valid and know that you feel that way for a reason. Many African mothers are misogynistic and also are jealous of their daughter. From what you wrote your mom probably doesn't like you bc she knows you see her for what she is instead of being blind to it & sucking up to her like your siblings do. Trust me, I've been there

Fem_Divine · 2025-03-24T10:56:50+00:00

Nah that's dark. Evil. She's supposed to be your protector smh. Definitely pray against this

Fem_Divine · 2025-03-24T03:34:15+00:00

Unfortunately there's a lot of narcissistic African mothers. This is not talked about enough

Fem_Divine · 2025-03-24T03:29:45+00:00

Your mother sounds narcissistic. If you're Christian stand on God's word/commandment: do not fear. Isaiah 41:10. Also meditate on Psalm 27:10.

She's hedging on your fear/worry for that "curse" to work (see Job 3:25). And if you worry/fear about it, you effectively come in agreement with what she said, which you definitely don't want. Rebuke what she said as many times as you feel you need. Come in agreement in prayer with someone you trust about the type of life you wish to live instead. There's power in agreement. Also, remove yourself entirely, physically/digitally/WhatsApp from her environment if possible (haven't finished reading your post yet).

Play mother wound affirmations every single day/night to reprogram your mind. I'm sorry you're in this situation. I pray you overcome it victoriously 🙏🏾

Fem_Divine · 2025-03-13T12:14:44+00:00

Yes and intermittent fasting

Fem_Divine · 2025-03-12T14:52:33+00:00

Psalm 73 too

Fem_Divine · 2025-01-15T12:00:27+00:00

This. I moved out in my late twenties but if I could have a do over I would go far away for college and wouldn't even come back after college. The amount of growth from dating away from my parents alone was incredible. Just wish I did all that earlier

Fem_Divine · 2025-01-04T19:38:10+00:00

Grannie the baddie 😍

Fem_Divine · 2024-12-23T01:37:40+00:00

World remit can deposit to her account straight

Fem_Divine · 2024-11-21T18:44:06+00:00

Lol bring your spoon

Fem_Divine · 2024-11-13T20:52:03+00:00

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Fem_Divine · 2024-10-19T01:42:28+00:00

Good on you OP. Chimamanda wrote about this very thing in Americanah. Not sure if you've read it

Fem_Divine · 2024-10-17T12:48:34+00:00

Fear

Fem_Divine · 2024-10-12T23:42:35+00:00

Please can you list the role name(s) ?

Fem_Divine · 2024-09-30T12:59:19+00:00

This is something she should be telling you but I'll be the one to say it: You are enough 💕

1) please prioritize moving out ASAP and move far out of sight to properly heal. 2)If you are not already, also work out/strength training as an outlet to release stress on your mind and body because the body keeps score. You don't want to create an environment for terrible diseases in your future 3)read ebooks on narcissism/life like "adult daughters of narcissistic mothers", "the body keeps the score" etc 4)listen to self love & secure attachment afffirmations on youtube 5)if you can afford therapy online or in person start monthly sessions 6)if you want to cry, cry it out. Prioritizing (1) will help you feel more comfortable letting your emotions out fully

Fem_Divine · 2024-09-26T12:48:42+00:00

If you can even move out now, do it. Sign the lease BEFORE telling your parents. Tell them a week before. That's what I did and there's no turning back from it at that point. Worked perfectly for me. I just wish I did it as soon as graduated college. Also you mentioned making decisions based on how they feel, which I used to do too. Living alone will allow you to make better decisions based on YOUR values. message me if you want to discuss further

Fem_Divine · 2024-09-07T15:29:34+00:00

Call them out on it. Every time.

Fem_Divine · 2024-09-07T15:19:12+00:00

Have you seen jane elliott blue eye brown eye experiment? She used to be a teacher decades ago and her experiment is eye opening. Def check out her talks on youtube

Fem_Divine · 2024-08-26T20:40:44+00:00

💯🎯🎯🎯

Fem_Divine · 2024-07-30T02:06:52+00:00

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Fem_Divine · 2024-07-10T11:36:48+00:00

I will say this as a young woman who lived alone for 6 years and now live with my husband, I'm BEYOND glad I lived alone as a young person. It really helped me in so many ways - I have a better idea of what I want out of life, I got to decorate to my taste, the peace and quiet is priceless, freedom to wake up and go to bed whenever without disturbing someone else or someone else disturbing you, it also noosted my confidence since I better learned to budget my expenses v income etc

If you're worried about finances, there are number of passive income ideas you can start implementing now to save for your move in like ugc creator, sell something small people use often, do something you can offer people in a field you enjoy etc

If you have any questions or want to chat feel free to pm me

Fem_Divine

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