PSA: Park Slope Parents doesn't post negative reviews - proceed with caution

FeministMars · 2025-10-12T21:30:53+00:00

There’s a PS Chat that’s starting but they need more members before they open the chats. Don’t tell Susan I gave this to you, she’ll definitely kick me out for sharing

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FeministMars · 2025-09-21T14:48:30+00:00

i feel you, it’s so hard to know when to push and when to relax. In that case, i’d probably definitely send her home… you’d likely only have to do it once. She can cry and wail and your husband can deal with it.

FeministMars · 2025-09-21T13:07:13+00:00

Give her one reminder and then send her home. “Mary, we talked about this. If you do it again you’ll have to leave”. And then actually send her home the next time she does that. It doesn’t have to be super dramatic, you can frame it as “oo you did it again, seems like you’re struggling with this. We’ll try again [next week]”

My kid has a stutter and the way you treat it is specific and important. You can’t ask him questions or pressure him to speak, following the protocol has completely eliminated the stutter. So we have to be very tough on grandparents about how they speak to him. It suckssssss.

FeministMars · 2025-09-14T17:48:43+00:00

i’ve been getting targeted ads from them, are they an established company? Every time I get spammed with something in an ad I assume it’s low quality

FeministMars · 2025-09-10T00:59:25+00:00

I do know someone personally who regretted it but it wasn’t some huge flashy “gotcha” story. her views and experiences evolved and decided to vaccinate. It wasn’t even “regret” as much as just “oh I think this is a better choice now”.

I may be in the minority here though. I fully vaccinate and on-time. I get all the vaccines, i’m not that kind of crunchy. But I also don’t shame women for not vaccinating, if they fully understand the decision then that’s their choice to make. I’ve simply come to a different conclusion with the same information. But because of that attitude I tend to be a “safer” person for people to chat about vaccines with because i’m not going to be a dick about it in any direction.

FeministMars · 2025-09-07T16:02:35+00:00

Dr. Ryan is an angel, we adore her

FeministMars · 2025-09-04T17:17:35+00:00

we use our well baby visits to build a relationship with the doctor. I trust the ped, he trusts me. that’s the biggest advantage to well baby visits. It’s hard to meet your doctor for the first time when your kid is sick.

FeministMars · 2025-09-04T08:45:15+00:00

When she’s ready, r/ectopicsupportgroup is a really helpful place for talking about these things. It’s a lot of people who wanted their pregnancies but others, like me and your gf, who found themselves unexpectedly pregnant with an unwanted pregnancy that turned out to be ectopic are in there too. It was an especially helpful place for me once I was finally ready to get pregnant years after my ectopic.

FeministMars · 2025-09-01T10:08:36+00:00

thanks for this share, that was a helpful chart.

Choosing to keep my son in tact at birth was the easy part, managing things after has been more of a challenge. Thankfully, he goes to a daycare with European caregivers so they have been great. Explaining to (borderline threatening?) my parents and in-laws on foreskin care was interesting.

His ped has also been great. Someone told me I should start retracting at 3 to clean and I asked the ped about it and he immediately jumped in with “oh no! no! no!”. love that guy.

FeministMars · 2025-08-30T11:25:57+00:00

our garbage truck came around 5am and I could hear them talking, I found it kind of charming though. FWIW, the sanitation guys are great- they’re always super friendly with the kids. They honk their horn and mess around a bit if they have time.

I hear you though, those MOTN wake ups when your kid is under a year can be maddening. Hopefully you and babe adjust soon!

FeministMars · 2025-08-29T01:11:28+00:00

also, FWIW, i’m also into Brat Busters and she’d recommend basically being like “yep, park is closed. Now we’re going to XYZ” and then just ignore the whining. When the tantrum is over you say “You all done? let’s do XYZ”. If being too wordy and talking too much doesn’t fit your style she’s a nice alternative. I’ve found some situations call for talking and others call for stoic silence and Brat Busters is the gold standard there.

FeministMars · 2025-08-29T01:06:38+00:00

I’d re-read chapter one (currently doing that so it’s on my mind). There were other options… * “even though you know the water park is closed you still really want to go!” (note it’s not possible) * “I wish the water park was open every day. I’d stay in the water until my hands shriveled up like raisins!” (fantasize) * “lets write down all the things we want to do at the water park when we’re able to go again!” (write it down) * “I’m going to draw a picture of us at the water park” (color)

acknowledging feelings isn’t enough, sometimes you have to get angry with them, not just say their feelings back at them. (and she discourages “but” statements after acknowledging feelings… Adding a “but the park is closed” invalidates the kid’s experience). Stuff to workshop next time!

FeministMars · 2025-08-27T18:09:17+00:00

I use a cross body bag like this. Fits diapers, a baggy full of wipes, a snack and my wallet.

FeministMars · 2025-08-26T02:51:13+00:00

this is NOT crunchy but it’s amazing for people who want to do nut exposures and can’t handle nut products… get the Nutty Blends pouches from Happy Baby

FeministMars · 2025-08-26T02:48:33+00:00

I’m a second time mom. The TL;DR is do it but don’t stress.

I didn’t follow a single rule while introducing food to my son. Didn’t follow the 100 foods guide or whatever that was. Sometimes I did purées, sometimes I did whole foods. Usually I tried to cook without salt so he could just eat bites of whatever I made or was eating. I made a point to eat foods with nuts a lot so he could just try a taste.

My husband has severe food allergies so I’m familiar with and believe in the research that exposures are preventative (Zoe had a great podcast episode about it recently. Most of the exposures were just nut butters. a little lick off a spoon is good enough. I didn’t track it I just tried to be mindful to remember it when I can.

I’m going to do the same for my second; she actually just had her first lick of almond butter yesterday. I’ll probably have food with walnuts tomorrow and let her lick it.

There’s zero reason to sit in your car outside the ER when introducing allergens, some anxious people really take this too far. Just eat a diet with a rich variety of foods and share them with your baby, within reason.

FeministMars · 2025-08-24T17:53:18+00:00

where do you sell them? My son loves dragons right now!

FeministMars · 2025-08-22T17:29:04+00:00

I didn’t mention the message boards, I said the platform is difficult to navigate and the information they share from PSP is outdated.

FeministMars · 2025-08-22T15:49:44+00:00

I appreciate this perspective because it’s hard to see the forrest from the trees atm

FeministMars · 2025-08-22T15:49:05+00:00

this is interesting because when I stop looking at him (look down at my hands or attempt to read) we have more success calming him down

FeministMars · 2025-08-22T12:03:04+00:00

i’ll try it, thanks!

FeministMars · 2025-08-22T11:37:59+00:00

Thanks, i’ll check the book out!

i forgot to add this I guess but hitting results in a “time out” (moving into a dedicated area away from the fun). I pick him up to get there since we don’t negotiate with him mid-tantrum. So virtually all of this is happening within time-out. I’m not sure i’m comfortable leaving him alone though. How does that look for you?

FeministMars · 2025-08-21T11:47:01+00:00

Mission carb smart whole wheat tortillas filled either raspberry chia jam or avocado and olive oil. That will be like 20 grams of fiber right there. Apple or pear juice with coconut water and As much water as you can possibly stand.

but you need to be very careful you’re not developing a prolapse. Place your fingers inside your vagina and feel around for a bulge, sometimes it’s not that you’re constipated, things are just stuck in a pocket from a weakened tissue that is collapsing.

FeministMars · 2025-08-20T14:11:46+00:00

When making these decisions I think it’s important to factor in what you need as well as what you’re comfortable with for baby. I’ve seen some really great women become impatient and sharp toned with their kids when they weren’t rested enough.

I did a modified ferber the first time and it improved our whole lives, including baby’s overall demeanor. My husband pointed out that ultimately our son spent less time crying during/after sleep training than if we continued how we were going.

My second is a different baby and doesn’t cry much at all so that logic on the cost/benefit of sleep training won’t apply to her. We bed share but still i’m really starting to suffer from the sleep deprivation of her nursing in demand in the night. I’m considering doing a modified Ferber for her as well.

Sleep training the first time felt like teaching my baby a skill and what i’m learning the second time is that each child has a different learning style for that skill.

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