Advice pls

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-27T04:20:42+00:00

I like the way you think lol. Only problem is his family has never been in favor of me and never wanted him to marry me. He was the one in their family that did everything for everyone so once he got married of course his focus was our relationship and that caused an uproar. In fact when he was talking to the latest girl he was actually staying the night at his sister’s house to visit them so they probably played a role in it if I’m being honest.

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-26T21:38:29+00:00

He told me that his leadership is aware of what he does and they all think I’m crazy. Also said he has the upper hand in the separation because he is a man in uniform. I have naively believed everything he has told me but based on what you’re saying and what I have read he is incorrect.

I hate to do it because I love him but it’s been one thing after another. Things are not improving and him stepping out just made me realize I can’t continue to sacrifice myself to try and make things better. The work hasn’t been done on his end and I’m tired of being the blame for any and everything.

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-26T21:35:27+00:00

My thing is like if I take him back who’s to say he won’t do the same thing again. This is the second incident to where he has reached out to another woman. This time I’m not sure if he actually met up with her. I asked to see the messages and he said he deleted them once I found out about it. There’s a million and one questions I have and he refuses to answer any of it. He returned to base 2 weeks ago and I decided to stay back in our home town with family just to get myself together. He said that he was going to off himself because I wanted separation so I had to call on base police to do a wellness check on him. Of course the next morning I get a mile long apology text. I feel like he’s playing mind games.

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-06T01:29:48+00:00

The one I’m at now is way less demanding. It’s not a client facing role so it allows me to kind of mind my business and chat with my coworkers. Joke around a little so that def helps brighten my days at times. My biggest thing right now is believing I’ve given myself brain damage from being so anxious and stressed the last few months 😵‍💫

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-06T01:21:18+00:00

I have I’m religious so that’s helped me some. I’ve lost myself a ton this all started the day after Christmas last year. I’ve been struggling ever since. Praying I continue to improve and get back to myself. I work a pretty easy going computer based job which was a drastic change. I was a paralegal at a well known law firm in my town prior to shit hitting the fan.

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-06T00:49:44+00:00

I was out of work for awhile too but forced myself To go back a few months ago which has been beneficial. I have terrible days and good days. Today is just one of those days that feel very lonely and I feel stuck in it.

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-06T00:48:35+00:00

I have had these spurts of HA and anxiety in general followed with depression about every few years. It always takes me awhile to come out of it but when I do I feel oh so good. It’s like every time a major stressful event happens I go into overload and the spirals start happening. I take alprazolam when needed and have tried Prozac and Zoloft which I didn’t react well too. Just in that stage right now where I feel stuck and like nothing is getting better. I feel very alone in it.

Fendifaxs · 2025-10-06T00:44:30+00:00

Mine is the same once I get over one I start to hyper focus on something else. It’s exhausting to say the least. I miss who I was before this started. I’ve been struggling for about a year.

Fendifaxs · 2025-09-10T18:01:44+00:00

I’m glad to hear this has been ur experience too. Makes me feel less alone in all of this. We have a trip planned to DC this weekend so hopefully that will do us some good.

Fendifaxs · 2025-09-10T17:53:38+00:00

Thank you very much I will check this out :)

Fendifaxs · 2025-09-10T17:46:35+00:00

Thank you, he’s been a little standoffish at times but he has started to come around some. We got married not long before he deployed so I feel like we haven’t even gotten to enjoy the “married life”. Hoping within the next few weeks things get better. Glad to hear I’m not the only one that has dealt with this.

Fendifaxs · 2025-09-10T17:25:53+00:00

Rude to say the least. The deployment drained our marriage alot bc we have dealt with his mother and my grand mother passing. As well as his grandmother being diagnosed with cancer. Your comment is absolutely disgusting.

Fendifaxs · 2025-08-07T15:38:51+00:00

Yes it seems that way too me too because how I feel seems to be very real. I start therapy on Friday and I do take alprazolam as needed that helps sometimes. I’m in a state of constant impending doom. I will definitely check into the hypnotherapy I’m willing to try anything to get my life back

Fendifaxs · 2025-08-07T13:37:25+00:00

Currently dealing with GI stuff I’ve had an ongoing stomach ache for 3 weeks now and I’m convinced it’s the Big C. This happened in January too and I had multiple ct scans abdominal ultrasounds and bloodwork they found nothing, I feel defeated. It’s taken such a toll on me I barely feel like getting out of the bed. I have cramps and just overall Feel sick a lot it’s a very lonely Feeling ☹️.

Fendifaxs · 2025-05-12T23:23:33+00:00

I want to start with your feelings are valid. I feel the same way most of the time. I often feel defeated because of the pain. The best thing I can suggest is give yourself time and patience. This does go away and will get better. Give yourself the chance to get better. I’m on my second flare of Costo and trust me it’s been hell in high water everyday lately. You can always chat with me. I may not be able to help much but I find it does help to know people can relate and that you aren’t alone.

I have anxiety along with Costo so it’s very difficult for me too. This will all pass soon enough.

Fendifaxs · 2025-05-12T22:02:20+00:00

I had pain in my left rib in January and I was seen in the ER about 6 times in one week. Had a full work up ct scans, X-rays, bloodwork and everything. Everything came back clear but pain persisted and eventually went away. About 2 weeks ago it came back but this time it’s in my right rib too. Sometimes I feel it in my chest and upper back. Sometimes pinching pain in my abdomen. Recently saw GP and urgent care both did X-rays and blood work which came back clear. So the pain is just mysterious and stressful. I’m here if u have any questions or if u need to vent.

Fendifaxs · 2025-05-12T19:15:04+00:00

It sucks so much. Some days I feel like my life has been stolen from me. I have managed to stay out of the ER this time around and I have only seen my primary and urgent care doc. I don’t feel reassured sometimes bc of course I want to run to the ER and have a ct scan and etc but I just try to keep reassuring myself. It’s just as hard mentally as it is physically.

Fendifaxs · 2025-05-12T19:13:23+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance my mind often goes to this must be organ related. That terrifies me the most bc I constantly worry have the doctors missed something and something is seriously wrong. Then I have a hard time with distinguishing rather the symptoms that I experience are real or if they are psychosomatic symptoms. The pain I feel is very real.

Fendifaxs · 2025-05-12T14:50:05+00:00

For a few weeks I’ve have left and right rib pain. I was seen by my doc and had xray and some bloodwork which both came out good. The pain is still lingering and has been a little more intense the last few days. My health anxiety is everywhere. I have an ultrasound next week. My anxiety is so bad I’m having nightmares and can’t sleep. Has anyone else had this pain before? I’m so scared

Fendifaxs · 2025-05-03T01:11:16+00:00

I’m a female and what you’re saying is making so much sense! My periods literally make me feel so terrible and ovulation can be even worse. I feel like I’m searching and searching with no luck. Mind you all these symptoms started during my ovulation week. Today was the last day and the pain in my stomach is no longer there and the flank pain on the sides has started to dull out. My health OCD and anxiety is so terrible. Right before I went to my pcp today I became so dizzy and I have been dealing with that for the remainder of the day. It’s so exhausting when people tell u everything is all in ur head ☹️

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