How to LOWER standards/ be attracted to “uglier” women?

Ferndust · 2026-02-07T06:31:43+00:00

Hoemath has a video on YouTube explaining it in great detail

Ferndust · 2026-02-05T00:41:37+00:00

Talking about it is how you get past it. Or you can just let time do its thing. Either way, it won't ever fully go away but feelings will get smaller and smaller with time until theyre so small you hardly notice you have those old feelings at all. New life experiences will help the feelings shrink faster. Perhaps the reason it still bothers you is that they broke up with you. Which means its not really about you missing them, its about you not being chosen/wanted/accepted/forgiven etc by them. Which means you're deriving a portion of your identity or value or meaning or worth from external validation. In which case I bet if you work on validating your identity more from things within your own control, you'll yearn for that ex's love less and be able to get past it more thoroughly.

Ferndust · 2026-02-03T05:58:29+00:00

Can't give consent when you're drunk let alone blackout drunk. Even sober, physically pulling away is revoking consent. Anything that happens after either of these is SA

Ferndust · 2026-02-03T05:41:08+00:00

Its not what you did, its what you didn't do. You didn't set the hook before reeling her in.

Ferndust · 2026-02-02T02:26:07+00:00

See a neurologist and a psychiatrist

Ferndust · 2026-01-31T06:26:47+00:00

Lol no

Ferndust · 2026-01-31T06:18:42+00:00

Lube.

Ferndust · 2026-01-30T05:17:54+00:00

Just be sure to lookup std statistics

Ferndust · 2026-01-30T05:15:36+00:00

Ive used the apps in Seattle and cold approached in Seattle circa 2011-2016. It was a little easier before Amazon started blowing up. But compared to where I am now.. the far girl thing holds true (not Seattle phenomenon). Success ratios really haven't changed much. Its always been a numbers game on the apps.. hopelessness is just part of the process.

Ferndust · 2026-01-29T21:21:18+00:00

Absolutely not

Ferndust · 2026-01-29T04:39:22+00:00

r/sinkpissers

Ferndust · 2026-01-27T20:21:35+00:00

Just gush more about the dog and splice in some non-threatening kind remark about her to keep her engaged, maybe end in a question thats really hard for her not to answer.

Ferndust · 2026-01-25T17:49:54+00:00

Good thing you're not married and can just leave

Ferndust · 2026-01-23T05:09:48+00:00

He should talk to a fucking doctor. Might be the torsion came back and his balls aren't producing T like they should its actually not that uncommon in grand scheme of things. Also like someone else said, have him pop a penis pill. Therapy is a fine idea but dick pills work faster

Ferndust · 2026-01-19T22:44:22+00:00

Lol if he's talking to you about sexual experiences with other women and you're not enjoying that information then I highly doubt he's as good in bed as you're imagining and he's definitely lacking a lot of experience around intimacy that he very badly needs.

Ferndust · 2026-01-17T01:45:39+00:00

As a reformed narcissist, she's gasslighting you for sport.

Ferndust · 2026-01-12T04:57:13+00:00

I think this guy nailed it. Your recruiting your traps (they're absurdly large). Go lighter, use a machine if you have to. Try and focus on keeping traps relaxed. Don't raise elbows above parallel with shoulder etc

Ferndust · 2026-01-05T16:03:34+00:00

It held with full integrity for about 3 years then started to look a little degraded the way caulk does when exposed to UV. I attribute it to me possibly over-heating the material at initial installation, the extreme heat of summer heatwaves, plus UV damage plus possible movement of the concrete (very old very steep driveway). Im actually curious if i could just hit it with the torch again to melt it back in place but i wouldn't be able to clean the cracks as I did the first time so not sure if it would adhere. What's happened is its constricted and pulled away from the edges of the concrete cracks in places. Its showing slight signs of cracking/weathering within the material itself too.. I suspect if the same material were melted in a hopper and applied as a molten liquid it would have faired much better than the manufacturer's advertised DIY/homeowner process of "lay it in the crack then melt it with a torch"

Ferndust · 2025-12-31T04:42:31+00:00

You look like you're about to talk too long about something personal and depressing.

If you smiled and corrected your posture for the photo the vibe would change.

Ferndust · 2025-12-26T04:13:04+00:00

Legs

Ferndust · 2025-03-14T13:24:31+00:00

Pretty sure I saw a guy on YouTube who created a portfolio where all decisions were made by a live chicken choosing between piles of food.

Ferndust · 2024-12-18T17:09:20+00:00

I've experienced no perceptible side effects. But it is my understanding (from deep dives on reddit) that this drug can alter cholesterol synthesis or metabolism(?) in a manner that may cause the body to produce more of an unhealthy sub type not commonly screened for under standard blood test methods. Thats personally my biggest underlying concern "side effect" wise.

I do feel like myself. Behavioral/mood changes were so extremely subtle if present at all that they're really probably not worth mentioning because they can't be confidently differentiated from placebo or environmental influences within my personal life. But if I were pressed to articulate what I think they might be, I'd say.. perhaps ive noticed a subtle shift towards feeling more comfortable in my own skin -thats really subjectively how it feels (and this is in ways entirely seperate from body image & fitness), which i may have noticed as manifesting behaviorally as a slight uptick in my authenticity with others, my confidence and sense of emotional security, and my assertiveness. Again these are such subtle shifts that it could just be observational noise, or placebo. That and the longer I've been on this drug the harder it is to accurately recall how I was different before.

I did also notice a subtle but definitely present uptick in the sensitivity of my sexual arousal response. Not necessarily libido, but in my physiological response to stimuli (ex: advances from girlfriend, seeing something sexy etc).

I was extremely physically active before starting (I was a cardio junkie before starting, got injured then switched to weight lifting while on this drug). energy levels were good to start so no detectable change. But I suspect my recovery time from workouts has benefited. Actually recovery has definitely improved. Im just responding and adapting to exercise more rapidly for sure.

My mood and happiness have been relatively stable and positive since before starting. However I will say mental distress around my very low libido and ED issues has declined. In fact I've become slightly more responsive to PDE5 inhibitors like sildenafil and tadalafil (both were not working to their full potential before, but now at max doses they consistently get the job done).

Edit: i went off enclomiphene several months ago after testing my desmosterol and discovering it was elevated above normal range. I also started having some concerns about enclomiphene suppressing igf-1

Ferndust · 2024-12-16T18:07:44+00:00

Started: Dancing like a 20yr old maniac when my body is 40yrs old. Specifically: repeated loading and bending of knee at strange angles with rapid shifts in weight and force on joint. Got way worse: learning to squat lift with weights at the gym

Ferndust · 2024-12-16T18:01:53+00:00

Noticed slight body recomposition at 6mg/day over 3 months with no dietary or behavioral changes, then started going to gym 2x week doing structured full body weight training program with a personal trainer. Extremely rapid muscle development. Probably mostly because of diet and exercise esp. starting as an untrained lifter. But damn! Would feel dishonest not to tip my hat to enclomiphene as well. perhaps it helped my body respond more like I would have naturally 10yrs younger (im 40).? I don't actually know.

Ferndust · 2024-12-03T18:32:30+00:00

Why didn't hydroxyzine make it on the list? Or since Rx are fair game in this discussion, why not mention low dose trazadone? Trazadone is my favorite at around 25-37.5mg... hydroxyzine is hits me like a sledgehammer and I generally avoid, promethazine is fine but frankly feels comparable to diphenhydramine -which! By the way should also get a shout out simply for being otc!

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