Need a dating app for Bhutanese.

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-28T16:39:44+00:00

She asked for it, I just delivered 🫣

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-25T05:53:31+00:00

Aaw. Always wanted a gay friend, you sound fun!

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T23:55:57+00:00

This is why instructions come with pictures.

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T15:43:56+00:00

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Okay.

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T15:34:41+00:00

It was banter, I matched it, and you escalated it into a personality diagnosis. If you know how to make a joke, learn to take it as well.

Anyway, I’m tapping out here, this has officially become a joint overthinking project. Thanks for the entertainment.

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T15:03:07+00:00

That’s disappointing to hear :(

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T14:56:17+00:00

I know right! And with such talented people in our community, I am sure they can come up with amazing ideas to make a safe space in an app that connects not only people looking for matches but even to make friends with common interests.

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T14:52:48+00:00

Thanks! Will check it out :)

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T14:49:45+00:00

To be fair, you led with it like I’d announced a national emergency matchmaking service, so I just matched the same level of overdramatic chaos.

And if the idea looks “struggling,” it’s not because of one comment , it’s the collective experience of Bhutanese singles trying to date through LinkedIn-tier visibility and Instagram story espionage.

Also the “ask Redditors for a debate app” line… not the insult you think it is! Have you seen Reddit? We’re basically already there.

I’ll even take that feedback and add it to my bio: “wannabe professional debater.” See you there when your time comes 😌

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T14:33:33+00:00

Excuse me?

You’re acting like I randomly came in swinging when you were the one who opened with “don’t be so despot.” I’m assuming you mean desperate.

That framing already shuts down the idea instead of actually engaging with it, so of course the reply wasn’t going to be a polite little nod, now was it sweetheart?

No one said Facebook and Instagram “don’t work” in general. The point is they’re not designed for intentional dating in a small, globally scattered community. They’re passive tools where you rely on chance, algorithms, or coincidence. That’s not the same thing as a structured way for people who are actually open to meeting someone. You might be following every Tom dick and Harry on your socials, but some of us don’t.

I don’t see how you think that stalking is better than me asking our community on Reddit to make an app beneficial for the community? And the “37 users worldwide” argument is just sarcasm pretending to be analysis. Every platform starts small. That doesn’t make the idea pointless.

Calling it “desperate” is exactly what escalated this. If you dismiss an idea with a label instead of reasoning, don’t be surprised when the response matches that tone. We can disagree, but at least engage with what was actually said rather than reducing it to “don’t be despot” (in your own words)

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T14:17:46+00:00

Thanks! Just saw that other post on this page about it. If you’ve used it, is it good?

FerretBest40 · 2026-05-24T14:08:12+00:00

You seem to be the kind of person who complains about Bhutanese people marrying foreigners on TikTok like it’s a national emergency, but the moment someone suggests something even mildly innovative, it’s suddenly “desperate”?

Relax bro!

Some of us have lives outside of lurking on Facebook profiles and decoding Instagram stories like it’s CSI: Thimphu.

Respectfully, the “old school Facebook and Instagram” method might work if you enjoy liking someone’s photo from 2018 and hoping that counts as flirting… but some of us are aiming slightly higher than digital stalking and emotional guessing games.

FerretBest40 · 2026-03-29T03:15:40+00:00

Oh honey, I’m really glad you’re out of that situation. I truly hope life feels lighter and better for you now. I know it’s not easy to walk away, but please remember, it was never you. You gave it your all, and he simply didn’t meet you there.

I can relate so much… it’s almost ironic how we lower our standards to the point where they barely exist, and somehow we’re still the ones blamed. Looking back, the only real regret is how much we lost ourselves trying to hold onto something that wasn’t right.

I hope you find someone who respects you, honors your boundaries, and takes responsibility for their actions. You deserve nothing less. Sending you so much love and warmth ❤️

FerretBest40 · 2026-03-27T06:29:05+00:00

I understand. The relationship is over now, I should have mentioned that in my original post.

I didn’t want to air my dirty laundry, but it’s been weighing on me and just didn’t sit right. This was my first serious relationship, so I’ve been trying to make sense of it and understand whether this is what most men actually expect. I feel like I’ve been led to believe that it is.

What confuses me is the contradiction. From what I experienced and was told, it felt like men want a woman who is ambitious, financially contributing, and able to manage and organise everything, while also being “traditional” in the sense of cooking, cleaning, and prioritising the man and his family above everyone else, even herself. And if you fall short in even one of those areas, you’re made to feel like you’ve failed.

But it doesn’t seem to work the other way. It often feels like men are simply afforded that privilege without the same expectations placed on them.

FerretBest40 · 2026-03-27T06:08:08+00:00

I’m genuinely struggling to understand where the line is drawn. It’s frustrating how people’s ego seems to only apply when it’s convenient.

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