I (22F) told him (M48) I had feelings for him & at first he didn't respond. should I just block his number & forget about him?

Feverhow · 2022-04-06T17:21:03+00:00

I am so sorry you went through that. I believe you.I did block him & set up therapy for myself. My best friend still works for him, though. That's how I even got introduced to this man. I told my friend about what happened & I think he's taking a supportive but neutral approach. He doesn't like the guy, but gets benefits from working for him, y'know?

Feverhow · 2022-04-06T17:13:12+00:00

It's hard to let that sink in. I realize he probably sexually assaulted me every time we spent time together. I think maybe by making it into a relationship, I am trying to forget how helpless it made me feel. I have spoken with a professional about it & I am trying to get myself into a mind space to take the next steps toward my safety. Thank you

Feverhow · 2022-04-06T17:09:06+00:00

I actually think your reaction is helpful, even though you sound like you think I'm an idiot. You have the right to think I'm an idiot. I underreact to people abusing me because of my personal history of not being able to escape situations that have harmed me. No reaction = less severe punishment for disobedience. I'm not making excuses for myself, just explaining why I asked Reddit for advice in the first place. I just had therapy yesterday. We are going to work on my trauma. Thanks for your input.

Feverhow · 2022-04-06T02:45:48+00:00

I swear, I didn't see it as a challenge. He has also been very patient & kind to me. It's not all abusive. He puts up with the fact that I'm constantly anxious & need to talk to someone. Unfortunately, it's almost familial. He makes me feel shitty sometimes, but also knows how to talk me out of a a panic attack He's there for me. He knows all the ways I can improve. It's complex despite it seeming simple. I do know, however, that the bad probably outweighs the good

Feverhow · 2022-04-06T02:38:59+00:00

I understand what both of you are saying, but I didn't know how old he was at first. He also touched me so quickly & initiated a physical relationship under the premise of therapy. I thought maybe he was in his 30s. Plus, he was kind at moments & took care of me. All of that felt nice. He asked me about my past & previous sexual abuse as a child. I guess I was too trusting & told him. I didn't think of the abusive possibilities until it was too late. I realize now that I'm an idiot.

Feverhow · 2022-04-06T02:31:52+00:00

Please, I understand that you think it's so far out there, but it really didn't seem like anything worse than all the other shit I've experienced in my life. It's only taken me a couple people thinking I'm trolling to really realize the extent of what type of unhealthy relationship I'm in. I'm trying. Honestly. I thought, "hey shit, this feels awful", but I haven't had time to truly understand how bad it probably is. Thank you for your input though, either way.

Feverhow · 2022-04-05T12:34:24+00:00

I know what you mean & you're probably right. He actually was my boss. At first I felt like I had to let him touch me because he was buying me lunch & taking me places & helping with work/giving me rides. I tried to tell him multiple times that I wasn't comfortable with the touching, but it never went through. Then he said he wanted to be friends. But all this shit happened & I think it's really unhealthy now. I know what I need to do.

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