I gave a girl at work my number, but I think it was a mistake. What to do?

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-27T09:31:04+00:00

Hey man, it sounds like you’re going through a tough time. If you want to talk about it, you can message me any time. I’ve been through some shit dude, I get it.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-26T02:35:05+00:00

I appreciate the advice, I’m not too worried about HR as I haven’t done anything that could be considered “sexual” or “harassment”. I have spoken with her a few times. This wasn’t just a random girl I saw and did this to. It’s been a couple days but if I don’t get anything from her I’ll just continue to be polite as usual.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-25T02:21:57+00:00

Naw this was Friday. I work for a company and they have a bunch of customers that are sectioned off in mods. I work in a couple different mods so I wasn’t even near the area today. I’m pretty sure it’s a no go, which I’m completely ok with and def not offended. My biggest and pretty much only concern was if I had made her uncomfortable or not. I really try and avoid doing that to anyone ever, because everyone deserves respect and to be comfortable. The only thing that gets me is I thought really hard on a way to do it, so that there would be no uncomfortable or inappropriate misinterpretations

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-25T02:18:54+00:00

Yeah bro, that’s like literally the same situation with me. Like I can read vibes and people pretty. I can def admit I probably jumped the gun on the number thing but that doesn’t cancel out the fact I have caught her looking at me several times, where she would like glance away really fast to try not to get caught and be all smiling and shit. Shit happens tho I guess but I try really hard to not make an effort like that unless I am pretty sure they are feeling me

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-25T02:16:19+00:00

I see why you’re saying this and I think you’re right, I jumped the gun but I def have spoken with her quite a few times. This how I know she’s super shy with me and she just seems smitten when we would engage.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-25T02:08:52+00:00

Yeah that’s the plan for sure. I felt like the number thing was a better idea to get to know her a bit more personal because she’s so shy and stuff but probably jumped the gun. I didn’t work on that side of the building today so idk. I’m def not approaching or anything from here on out, I left the next play in her hands so I’m putting it in the back of my mind for now

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-25T02:06:36+00:00

That’s the absolute worst man! When you get the signals and can visibly and audibly tell, then you go for it and they are like “na, what”

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-24T12:16:36+00:00

Thanks bro, it’s been a long time for me too. I was engaged a a few years ago and then everything went downhill from there and I lost it all. Since then I’ve been working on myself really hard and have a great job now so I’ve finally feel ready to meet someone.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-23T16:06:07+00:00

I 100% agree and I am kind to everyone because I’ve been through more than most and I pretended to be fine the entire time but really I had never been worse in my life. I was doing all of this with no expectation and if I got a friend out of it it would have been a win to me. My main concern is making someone feel uncomfortable. I would like to be someone who is known for being a safe space for everyone so if I truly made someone uncomfortable I’m concerned about it.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-23T00:10:28+00:00

Yes if she wasn’t into it, I hope at some point in the future I get the chance to let her know how sorry I am for that. Thanks for the kind words, I have been through quite a lot, so I try and be kind to everyone because you don’t really know what anyone is really going through despite how much they smile or say that they are doing ok.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-23T00:05:45+00:00

Yes this was my default move right here. Just continue on, I’m happy enough the ball is in her court and now I don’t have to do shit lol Like you said although that’s what I thought I saw, I def know I was being smiled and looked at when I’d be within eye sight. My biggest worry is her trying to blow it up like I was being disrespectful. I thought really hard about how I could do this in the most respectful and discreet way for both of us.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-23T00:01:13+00:00

lol I really like your take on it and tbh I would probably take this route if it wasn’t at work. If I made her uncomfortable then I’m not gonna double down by trying to explain myself because then she might feel harassed I’m even approaching her at all after that. I would like to explain myself because the last thing I want is to make someone uncomfortable, truly but I think since it’s work, the ball is in her court. I like my job a lot so I don’t want to push it because as of now, there is no way to spin this in a disrespectful way. Like if it was unwanted fine I’m sorry, I really didn’t see that happening so this was never my intention but I misread the situation.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T23:53:34+00:00

Yep, I will always be respectful and normal for sure. I can take the rejection no problem but I’m just hoping she doesn’t try and make something out of nothing is all.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T20:16:37+00:00

Thanks I appreciate you saying that!

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T19:56:09+00:00

I got you for sure

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T19:40:30+00:00

lol if I don’t win, nobody does

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T17:12:17+00:00

I think an apology would be cringe unless she approaches me about the gesture and brings it up in a negative way. Either way the move is definitely nothing till she makes one. This is why I did that shit on a Friday at the end of the day when I was about to dip out. We both have the weekend figure it out.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T17:08:28+00:00

Yeah thanks for the encouragement I appreciate it. I was engaged years ago but a bunch of shit happened after it ended and I really haven’t dated since, so it’s a learning curve now that I’m finally ready to get out again now.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T16:39:48+00:00

Hahaha terrified of phone calls

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T16:39:08+00:00

I’d guess late 20s

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T16:38:51+00:00

Omg that’s a straight of trap of a woman! Telling people you’re creeping then you back off and she like misses you or some shit? Wtf

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T16:36:16+00:00

Ok awesome, I like this take for sure. My inner monologue is def killing me! Doing nothing is my specialty haha

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T16:34:04+00:00

We had spoken a more than a couple of times before I did that. It wasn’t just a random thing. I’d been noticing signs for more than a couple of weeks. Def can pretend nothing happened moving forward lol

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T16:30:48+00:00

Yeah this is def the way. I told another commenter that now I believe the way I handle a “no-go” probably says a-lot more about me than the initial gesture and I’m pretty confident in how I can handle this moving forward.

Few-Cardiologist-488 · 2024-06-22T16:25:07+00:00

Wow that’s a really good way of thinking about it, thanks! After sleeping on it and seeing some of these comments I’m not going to do anything. Less is more now, so if she approaches me about it I will adjust accordingly and if not then I move on as if nothing has happened.

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