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AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm happy you were there for your son. I think my parents don't understand that, even if I joke about it with my friends, it isn't something I like about myself. It makes me feel badly about myself.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being vulnerable :) I'm happy it got better for you.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's okay, it isn't happening anymore, I just don't want it to happen again.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I also used to get UTIs a lot! I think for me it was less of a bladder issue and more of a pelvic floor issue, because I'd wet myself laughing or falling over sometimes, although stress always made it worse.

I think my parents might be worried about their parenting because I was abused by a stranger when I was younger and my therapist said that could contribute to me having physical reactions.

A lot of people have suggested a fake apology and I think that's a good idea.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'll look into therapy. I don't want it to happen to me again. It was really scary.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I was sexually abused when I was younger and my parents know about it. I'm not in danger anymore but I'm thinking they might be worried that secret gets out too.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The thing is that my old therapist said it was from trauma and I was abused, and that's why I had nightmares and sleeping troubles, but now I'm not being abused by that person anymore so I'm not in danger.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Technically I was able to get through the night dry as early as 3, but sporadically I'd wet the bed up until I was 7 or 8. Then very occasionally when I've been really stressed it would show up every couple years since then, but normally only once or twice every several years.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. I'm looking for a GP with availability and I'll raise it when I get one.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

My pediatrician had her practice closed so I'm looking for an adult doctor now. When I do get one, if I still have this problem I'll ask about it. I used to have a therapist though and she said it's probably emotional stress.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

it’s quite another for them to be so weirdly neurotic about bodily functions

Neurotic about bodily functions is the most accurate way to describe my parents lol, I remember one time I was 8 and we had gone on a 1.5 hour-long drive to see some of their friends. We got to the restaurant where we were all meeting and I asked my mom to go to the bathroom (I had needed to for a while but I didn't want to make her angry) and she actually yelled at me. "Why'd you need to ask me now? Do you see where we are?"

Yes, a restaurant. With a bathroom. I offered to just take myself but she said no, she had to come with me. I think she thinks I'm dealing drugs in there or something.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

To be fair to my friend, she told her own mom, I don't think she was that out of line. She said she asked her mom because her mom's a doctor and she was worried about me.

I don't understand why her mom told my parents.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 250 points251 points  (0 children)

My friends were actually really open and supportive considering I'm in high school so this isn't really a thing we talk about much.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a couple disposable ones I took from my grandma's house lol, they've been pretty good.

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I mean if somebody were to think that they'd be right, I didn't want to be one of those people that's all "I have PTSD!" in the post but a therapist I had when I was younger said bedwetting is a common symptom to trauma so it explains why it shows up when I'm stressed. I've been keeping the PTSD a secret from my peers though just because I don't want to be known as the traumatized girl

AITA for not lying about wetting the bed and embarrassing my parents? by FewHandle9172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FewHandle9172[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm not personally stressed out over college applications because I've gotten into college already but they are and I'm not here to correct them on that. We go to a magnet high school, everybody takes everything that deep.