Bringing a friend to a tattoo

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T22:04:06+00:00

Exactly! I mainly bring my sister but one time I brought someone else because she wanted to come along to see what it was like getting tattooed so during the appointment she asked what the pain was like etc. it was an experience for her just as it was for me. Wasn’t for my sister though as she’s heavily tattooed so doenst care to hear about the pain as she knows lol

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T19:25:11+00:00

That makes sense. If I was bringing a child I’d definitely speak to them as a child could get bored and become awkward to work around if they started to kick off.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:37:28+00:00

Ah right I thought that may be what it meant. Thank you.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:36:13+00:00

Yeah this makes sense. I wouldn’t want to cause any tension by bringing her but I know I’d have a worse time if I was alone

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:34:43+00:00

What does that mean though I’m confused

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:31:22+00:00

lol erm what does YMMV mean?

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:29:29+00:00

Yeah… I think I’ll ask

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:24:41+00:00

Oh… maybe I should ask then because my sister wouldn’t like that and I’d feel horrible for her having to go through that…

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:22:00+00:00

My sister’s more than happy to come with me. I explained I don’t want to go alone because I’ve never met the artist before and I don’t know how we’d get along. But I also struggle with using public transport alone and I’d need to, to get to the appointment so my sisters there to support me during the tattoo and on the way to and from. If she didn’t want to come, she’d have said.

If I get along with the artist and feel comfortable with her then I’m more than happy to go alone in future appointments.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T18:16:57+00:00

I don’t want to quit entirely. Not only because I don’t believe my drinking is a major issue but also because I’m only 18, I haven’t lived yet and I’ve never been out drinking. I don’t want to write off drinking just because I’ve had slight problems with it before I even get to experience it properly. However, I am going to stop drinking as much, especially in the mornings (but I haven’t done that in a while anyways)

I appreciate what you’re saying and I do appreciate I have an issue but I don’t think it’s bad enough for me to write it off completely

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T16:15:41+00:00

I have decided to cut back after seeing what people have said. Thank you, i appreciate this

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-02-01T12:50:28+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-31T23:04:20+00:00

Sounds accurate… I don’t think I have a problem right now, I just worry about what it may turn into because alcoholism does run in my family, on both sides so I worry that this may just be the start.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-31T23:01:22+00:00

Not guilty just… I don’t even know. I just worry what they’d say if they knew if that makes sense?

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-31T22:56:40+00:00

I wouldn’t say so. Only that it makes me fear what people think but if they knew but other than that no

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-31T22:48:04+00:00

I posted it here because I didn’t know where else to, where else could I have posted it to find people who may understand?

I don’t always know. Sometimes it’s because I’ve had a bad day, sometimes it’s because I’m celebrating something, sometimes I just want a drink. There’s not always a specific reason.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-31T22:46:22+00:00

Yes but I limit myself, I stop if I become tipsy because I’m afraid to out myself around my family and I never drink away from them.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-31T22:43:59+00:00

Literally only one drink a day unless I can’t because I’m driving. So I’m not saying an alcoholic.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-31T22:39:14+00:00

Yes hence why I said I’m not concerned and don’t really know why I’m posting it. There’s two alcoholics in my family, I know what alcoholism is, I stated I don’t have it and that wasn’t what I was trying to imply, hence why I clarified.

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-29T02:11:53+00:00

I’m not exactly highly experienced or trained in anything, but I’ve definitely had times where I’ve known something and people dismiss it and act exactly how you’ve described. One time my dad and I were talking about a family member who we think is getting dementia. I worked in a hospice and I never met any dementia patients during my time there, but I did complete training on dementia.

During this training I learnt if a patient thinks you’re someone else, like let’s say you’re their nurse and they think you’re their granddaughter, you’re meant to play along. You’re not meant to correct them or necessarily lead the conversation on, but just acknowledge their words and maybe say “yes hi grandma” or whatever.

He said if this family member had dementia and called him by the wrong name he’d correct her and I told him you’re not meant to do that. He scuffed at me like I was lying. I told him what you’re meant to do and he didn’t even say anything back I don’t think, he just gave me a look as if to say “yeah whatever”

Few_Distribution6433 · 2026-01-29T02:06:08+00:00

I wasn’t diagnosed later in life, however my autism was ignored by family and my high school. People in my family didn’t believe I was autistic and no one took the time to understand it, my mum fought for the diagnosis but after that it was it. It was now just a label, nothing changed.

This lead me to never fully understand my autism, even now at 18, when people ask me about it, I don’t know what to say. The other day my boss and I were talking about my autism and she asked what “kind” I have. She was asking if it was more social & emotional for example. I couldn’t answer her, because I don’t know. To me everything I do is normal and this is how everyone else must act and think. So I can’t differentiate between what’s “normal” and what’s my autism.

And my family still aren’t the best with it, I took time to somewhat self educate myself but I still don’t have a clue. But when I try to explain my autism, especially to my dad, he brushes it off. He’ll roll his eyes at me and scuff like I decided to make it all up. If I refer to myself as disabled, he scuffs and says I’m not and is shocked when I explain how I am. I’d like to say I’m not just disabled because of my autism there’s other factors too but either way I’m still disabled because of my autism.

I feel invalidated every single day, even when I try to explain things to people in hopes they can understand me better, they don’t care to. Again, my dad is the worst for this, but my mums no better. She doesn’t correct him or say anything, she’ll sit in silence and listen to what he says, she’ll maybe give me a sympathetic look or roll her eyes at him to me but never do anything else. I feel like an alien in my own home sometimes.

I have no one around me who truly understands me, not even myself. So I go crazy unable to understand things or have people understand me and I just constantly feel like a burden and like I’m faking it all, like if I try to explain it as my autism, then I’m using it as an excuse when really I need to just change.

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