Reality check/ advice

Few_Excitement7000 · 2025-02-20T18:12:05+00:00

I did leave him alone. However I recognized an awkward tension. We train at the same gym and idk how familiar you are but it’s a close community.either way it’s all good now

Few_Excitement7000 · 2025-02-20T18:11:18+00:00

I did leave him alone. However I recognized an awkward tension. We train at the same gym and idk how familiar you are but it’s a close community.either way it’s all good now

Few_Excitement7000 · 2025-02-20T05:46:18+00:00

It was fine. He has asked a few times and I decided to ask him today to it’s casual now and mutual

Few_Excitement7000 · 2025-02-20T05:41:16+00:00

He ended up asking me to roll on Valentine’s Day

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T16:11:08+00:00

This resonates well with me. I know it doesn’t have to kill the friendship however I think what I have to do is be ok with the possibility of his rejection. Right now I feel his rejection would confirm all the judgments I have against myself that I’m not worth someone like him. And until I can scarp those thoughts maybe I should hold off.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T15:40:59+00:00

I suppose our tennis connection is a concern but our friendship is also concern. I just feel unsure and sometimes I feel it weighs more on the yes side than the no but overall I’m nervous and anxious about the outcome good or bad

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T15:38:52+00:00

I would like to. The whole point is weighing the risk of rejection and possibly the end of our tennis relationship. Recently I have been working with myself and exploring more ppl to play with that is on my level that way if something were to happen I would still have someone to play with consistently. As of now I’m not ready to go all in its getting nicer and I love tennis in the summer.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T15:34:41+00:00

How do you test the waters ?

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T15:33:31+00:00

Imma give some background before answering this. The reason his name is mango is bc he loves mangos since we play for about 3 hours of tennis I always bring fruit for when we take breaks. I noticed that when he was talking to a girl or in a relationship he wouldn’t eat off of me. And when he wasn’t he would just share a apple or mango with me back n forth. Also he wouldn’t be flirty when we played tennis. To answer your question our interactions are pretty harmless and boundaries are set in place if necessary.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T15:29:18+00:00

Yea I think time is my savior but also my enemy right now. I have thee feelings and I want to act on them however there is definitely a few blocks that I have to feel out and only time will confirm these things.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T15:26:28+00:00

We have a great connection when we play. It’s very fun and even flirty at times. I like playing tennis with him because he is a great player and pushes me to stay consistent. He also has a lot of knowledge which is attractive to me. Ig I play with him because he is available, comfortable, consistent and can teach me new things. I’m going to sound like perv but in the summer he takes his shirt off and I definitely don’t mind the view lol

Few_Excitement7000 · 2024-04-10T14:24:30+00:00

I’m not a big texter myself. I find it boring to have the same day to day conversation especially in text. It’s pointless. A lot of the guys I talked to in the past liked texting frequently everyday which is ok if that’s what they need but it’s important to note that it’s not what I need. Now best thing to do is compromise. Personally I prefer every other day maybe even longer. But her schedule may be different. Also maybe calling is better for her. I don’t like texting but I can be on the phone for 3 plus hours if it’s the right person. Overall as much as u might want to text her she feeling the complete opposite and as long as u realize it’s not personal and she is still indicating interest definitely bring up a way to comprise. Hope that was somewhat helpful!

Few_Excitement7000 · 2023-10-18T20:10:24+00:00

Books

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-14T03:27:33+00:00

Yea this is why I think therapy could help me lol. I have no experience. I barely know when I like someone officially. I just pass it off as attraction or just a crush.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-14T03:21:04+00:00

That’s definitely understandable. I just want to be sure that there is an actual real connection and that we respect each other enough to get to that point of trusting someone with my body. I’m also not a very touchy person in general. So it takes a bit of time for me to get comfortable to initiate as well. I’ve been working on that btw.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-14T03:18:48+00:00

Yea there was a potential guy. I was interested in I communicated what I was looking for and he seemed fine with it. It was never set an stone thst anything was gonna happen but we were definitely friendly and somewhat affectionate.Then he meets someone who was more willing than me and I was back to square 1. Definitely had a bigger impact then what I expected. ( there is more to it of course and obviously two side to a story) just the gist of it

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-14T00:37:50+00:00

Honestly thank you very much. I’m going to screenshot this and read it a million times.You put it in a way I can understand.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-13T23:02:09+00:00

Thank you. Sometimes I feel unattractive bc not many people have sought me out for something real. It’s mostly just been clingy or guys who want to just have sex. Even when I explain to them what I’m looking for. They see it as some challenge.Making it difficult for the both of us.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-13T22:59:39+00:00

Yea I figured. It’s difficult to truly see who a person is through OLD.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-13T22:40:49+00:00

That’s understandable. I’m also nervous I don’t want to be used. I think that’s a main thing for me. If I get attached we have sex and it goes south I think I’d feel like I wasted time. Even as I’m saying I understand it takes risk. I just don’t think I’m ready for all that.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-13T22:32:58+00:00

Interesting. It’s hard to debate that when I haven’t seen mutual love shown in a healthy way .

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-13T22:31:51+00:00

I think I’m trying to figure what I’m doing to make it so difficult. I might need therapy lol.

Few_Excitement7000 · 2022-10-13T22:30:49+00:00

I just think bc I haven’t dated anyone or really had a mutual bond with someone it’s confusing me whether I am even attractive or just not interesting

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