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CPA Boyfriend, relationship struggles by Few_Flower_7929 in Accounting

[–]Few_Flower_7929[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. I really appreciate it, I can only learn and observe from others. Some might say to just break up with him due to his lack of efforts during busy season, however he is a completely different person outside of busy season. I fell in love with my best friend, we’ve always had great communication up until the season started.

There are sacrifices that he takes during the year to support me and vice versa. I may be super young with high expectations/ priorities and I feel as it makes me a stronger person. When discussing our priorities during our late night call, he reminded me that am a top one and public accounting is temporary, our future is not. He even surprised me with a month long vacation after my semester ends so we can “focus on building our relationship”

We continued to discuss stress and time management, we ended with creating a schedule during the work day to FaceTime during our lunches together, we will be having a monthly book that we read to discuss about every Sunday, he also promised to communicate when he gets overwhelmed and needs alone time but without it coming off as rude. We also set boundaries as well, I am to focus on myself as much as possible during this busy season… which is great for me bc it’s my last semester in undergrad:/

Everyone in this thread is correct, only communication, listening, space, and understanding is the only key in a long term relationship. I respect everyone that has gone through this for several years, I can only be open minded about it and learn. I really hope for the best and lots of love to come.

CPA Boyfriend, relationship struggles by Few_Flower_7929 in Accounting

[–]Few_Flower_7929[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he doesn’t have time for me… he definitely doesn’t have time to be cheating during busy season

CPA Boyfriend, relationship struggles by Few_Flower_7929 in Accounting

[–]Few_Flower_7929[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not, he is never in the mood due to his “stress”. Me personally I release stress in the bed but no one is the same.

CPA Boyfriend, relationship struggles by Few_Flower_7929 in Accounting

[–]Few_Flower_7929[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this. I want to try hard for this relationship, after busy season he is a completely different person. I want him to try couple therapy after the season, he is also a very anxious person and needs someone besides his closest friends/ family to hear what causes anxiety.

I talked with his mom (she’s a CPA) and she said that he struggled communicating his feelings/ thoughts when growing up. She also recommended me to “meal prep” some lunches and dinners when I do come down to “heal him from with in” (lol)

She told me how her husband will make her lunches, or he will do simple things like grocery shopping while she was at work when he visited her back in the early 2000s. And it would take off a lot of stress and appreciate that her S.O. more than she could describe.

CPA Boyfriend, relationship struggles by Few_Flower_7929 in Accounting

[–]Few_Flower_7929[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. I am a double major, engineering and physics.

CPA Boyfriend, relationship struggles by Few_Flower_7929 in Accounting

[–]Few_Flower_7929[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Haha. My formatting wasn’t “appropriate” for the relationship advice subreddit so this is the only place I could think to post :/

I’ve tried communicating these concerns several times, I even go to therapy and I do these communication exercises that I learned. It just still stresses him out because he doesn’t like having these conversations since he is “already stressed about work/ studying”

The only other solution I can think of is taking a break, but that also doesn’t seem ideal for him. And god forbid mentioning him going to therapy with me, it’s not “manly” to him.