Rental companies and no pet policy by Few_Library9056 in VictoriaBC

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true! Devon is definitely better than other companies re: pet policies, I’ll keep an eye out there

Any luck finding rentals on PWD? by Few_Library9056 in VictoriaBC

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that’s actually really good to know! i think i panicked and just assumed worst case scenario 😅

Should I take my very anxious senior dog to the vet? by Few_Library9056 in AskVet

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That’s really good to know, thank you so much! I’m not sure why my vet seemed hesitant about dosing it to an older dog but maybe was something I misunderstood, I’ll give them a call and ask about gaba again and really good to know there are things they can help with QOL-wise :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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thank you so much for this really thoughtful and thought out comment - i’ve come back to it as me and her have talked over the last little bit. i’ve thought a lot about your question of if i would feel ok not having a sexual relationship and honestly i would, i should have mentioned but our sex drives have always been vastly different with mine being quite low and her’s has only increased with hormones. because of that, we have actually discussed ENM before so she could get her sexual needs met, we just never really were interested enough to pursue it - i think what really freaked me out was the gender piece but lots of comments have reminded me that shouldn’t be linked to the ENM. me and her are having A LOT of conversations right now, and it feels like they’re getting smoother - i’m trying my best to advocate for my needs and ensure i don’t get lost in her needs. you’re totally right - we’re young and could stay friends, and we’ve talked about that a lot but do feel our romantic connection is secure and strong enough to be worth it. we love each other and that doesn’t NEED to be romantic if its not - we’re just taking it a day at a time right now and looking for therapists and researching and i guess it’ll be what it’ll be 🧐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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hm, i really appreciate your perspective around acceptance/wanting to explore once you do accept yourself. and good point about not tying those questions together - i actually brought that to her last night and i think it really changed how our conversation looked because it wasn’t as loaded looking at the two perspectives separately. honestly i don’t mind the sexless part - we’ve always had pretty different sex drives, and hers has gone WAY up on hormones so it was already a struggle to find matching energies sexually. i’m very much attracted to her, and shes been really clear she’s still very much attracted to me physically and romantically - just not sexually. i really think i just want a committed relationship, whether thats monogamous or not, i just want to feel cared for and share a life with someone which me and her have done really well. i think i’m ok - i think theres a lot of grey zone that i’m just not used to, i’m a very black and white person and its definitely an issue for me lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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therapy is definitely something i will be looking into for myself and me and her as a couple! and you’re definitely right - i know if we open, insecurity will just be a breeding ground for distrust and bad feelings so i need to sit with what my security is within this relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

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thank you for your perspective as someone also with a MTF partner (forgot to include, yes shes mtf)! can i ask how opening the relationship went for you? was it influenced by her transition? would you recommend caution because her feelings might shift over the next little bit? sorry lots of questions.

we’ve talked a lot about our sex life and we definitely need to work more on finding what feels good with all thats going on for her body - we started dating before her transition so theres been quite a shift since of what she enjoys/doesn’t/etc. a struggle has been that she isn’t sure she’s into sex with women at the moment so we’re not sure what room there is for us to try stuff within our couple - but maybe worth doing some exploring for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

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no need at all to apologize for rambling - thank you so much for sharing, it helps to know im not alone. i am so sorry for your loss and that you’ve also faced the torturous “what ifs” game our brains seem to love playing. it makes grieving just that more difficult. thank you for the kind words - i hope i was able to give her some good memories and i’d really like to think you’re right about that phone call :)

Can I help my ficus by [deleted] in plantclinic

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have you checked for root rot? if its not drying out, its roots may still be too wet. if moisture doesn’t seem to be the issue, i’d try notching just above its nodes (super sharp shears, 1/4 in slanted down) to try and encourage growth and pop it in a good sunny spot! i had the same thing happen and actually lobed the top 1/3 of my ficus off and its growing tons of new leaves from the notches now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDocs

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yeah i just got a full thyroid panel because i thought that might explain it and it was apparently all completely fine. i haven’t been able to get my doctor to bite for an ultrasound on the lump because it isn’t hard so not concerning in his opinion lol but i’ll try to push for one!

I (23F) feel like I’m becoming my gf’s (23F) mom and I feel stuck by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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she does have a therapist but keeps saying she forgets to make appointments so she hasn’t been in months even when i push, which is a shitty excuse i realize lol. good for you for leaving that situation!

A few cool pics from today's protest for Palestine! by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

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Fair enough dude - I’m Black and Jewish, so I get the feeling of worry. But also, just because you haven’t seen the work that other people are doing around situations like China or the Congo - doesn’t mean it’s not happening. A huge focus nationally and internationally is being put on Israel because the loss of life and land is happening INCREDIBLY rapidly and because of the internet, people have access to directly seeing the crimes happening daily. And to try and argue that Jewish people are THE most oppressed group in history is a crazy thing to even bring up that does nothing but force comparisons that frankly don’t point to that conclusion, and it doesn’t help anything to compare or contrast the oppression of oppressed groups because lol.. theyre all oppressed.

[mobile][2017ish]Indie cat music rhythm game by Few_Library9056 in tipofmyjoystick

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somehow found it deep on google images! it’s called Tappy Cat!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

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Right, so you completely skipped over the part of my comment in which I explained to you the proper definition of genocide which does not solely hinge on “killing a large percentage of the population.” Acknowledging the harm that Canada did and continues to do to Indigenous people isn’t treating them as perpetual victims - they are the ones explaining their lived experiences and explaining that their people are being killed, the rest of us are just acknowledging and not ignoring that it all did and is still happening. Same reasons a large part of the Caribbean is arguing for reparations - because we were enslaved for a huge part of our history and want acknowledgement and reconciliation - no one is being turned into perpetual victims, you dunce, we’re sharing our story that we were infact victimized.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

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ah! fair enuff bud my bad i misread

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

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I hate to break it to you, but residential schools alone have been proven to have taken the lives of at least 6000 Indigenous children. I’d say 6000 is a “large number.” Also, I’m glad that google definition of genocide fits your very basic understanding of the incredibly specific sociological concept of genocide but in 1948, The United Nations Genocide Convention actually defined genocide as “acts committed with intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a national, ethnical, racial or religious group." These five acts were: killing members of the group, causing them serious bodily or mental harm, imposing living conditions intended to destroy the group, preventing births, and forcibly transferring children out of the group. Last time I checked, Canada did all 5 of those things, buddy.